I don't want to show my face today
because I am embarrassed of my father.
My Dad is a sociopath.
Dennis was roughly 21 years old when
he got my 15 year old pregnant.
I was 17 years old when I found my Dad on Facebook.
My Dad asked me to move in with him
and I was really excited.
Within two days, he let me know
that I would need to start paying rent.
He never paid my Mom a cent in child support
but he felt like I still owed him.
One time, me and the rest
of the kids all got swine fu.
He came home with medication
for the rest of the kids
and let me know
he did not have the money to buy me any.
It was emotionally draining trying
to please my Dad all the time.
He would threaten me
and put me down and he made
me feel horrible about myself.
The worst I felt the better he would feel.
I wanted my Dad to love me
but he mistreated me at every turn.
I finally stopped talking to him
three years ago.
Once I walked away I saw him
for who he truly is,
a very insecure and manipulative man.
Well Kaley is joining us
in the audience and because she does not
want to show her face,
we're keeping her in the audience
and we're shooting her from behind.
You've been nervous about this right?
That's an understatement.
Yeah.
Tell me why?
This is hard
seeing him again
and I just know he doesn't think
he did anything wrong.
Ah ha.
And what do you think he did wrong?
He couldn't love me,
he couldn't even try.
And you had hopes
when you found him
that you would at least be able to start
to forge a relationship and have--
I moved halfway
across the country for him.
Ah huh.
It was one of the happiest
days of my life when I found him.
Ah huh, and what were your expectations,
what did you hope would happen?
I never had a
Dad so I don't know,
but I just thought, I just thought I'd mean something
that I'd have somebody to count on
and not have someone to tear me down.
And what was your perception of what happened?
You said and this is a quote, " He has a way of making
me feel so small and down about myself."
How did he do that?
You need to obey him,
you need to listen to him,
his rules cannot be broken.
You can't have your own opinions,
you can't do your own things.
Even after I moved out,
if he didn't like something
I said or something I did
he would text me like 50 times in a row all
unanswered quilting me, threatening me,
letting me know that I was in the wrong.
Or it just wasn't right
and it wasn't okay with him.
I had to fight for him to love me and he didn't.
Right and how long
did you stay together.
We, I tried very hard for six years.
I lived with him for one entire year.
You said he required you
to pay rent the second day you were there?
It was made very clear that finding a job
would have to be my first priority.
At this point,
do you desire to have a relationship with him?
Today?
No, oh no.
Yeah, and he's here
and Melissa is here,
they're talking about getting married.
Melissa don't do
this to yourself.
(audience applauding)
Tell me--
First of all, I love her, I really do.
And it's sad to hear this
and she's entitled to her opinion
and I understand and I appreciate that.
But I definitely love her, I love all my kids.
And it's a bummer
that it was taken that way.
I understand, yes I have control issues.
Yes, I have rules but guess
what it's my house.
And I have rules because
I want people to live good.
Our biggest problem was her party lifestyle.
Kaley has been my toughest kid to deal with.
She's headbutted me from the beginning.
She told Melissa I had an affair with
one of her friends when I didn't.
So I'm not judging her for it,
it was her decision.
I still love her as my child no matter
what hard times we went through.
I'll never not.