What's going on? Tripp Kramer here from Tripp Advice.com. On today's video,
we're talking about how to get your crush to like you. I have a little bit of a pet peeve,
or maybe some beef with the idea of having a crush. I'm going to go into that later on
in this video. But I think it is a bad idea to have a crush. And if that confuses you,
you're gonna understand why in just a little bit here. Having a crush is a bad thing. But
you're watching this video because you have a crush. There's someone that you like, there's
someone that you're interested in. I'm going to be giving you a few tips on what to do when you
have a crush, how to get them more interested in you, how to start a conversation with them,
and how to get to the point where you have the optimal chance of getting them to like you
back. Some stuff is gonna seem tough to work with here. Some stuff is not easy to hear. This is not
simple. I know a lot of guys they have a crush and they feel very nervous around someone that they
like. But we have to just take this information and use it so you can get results here. Let's
dive in. First, you obviously need to make sure that you're getting into conversation with her.
Where could your crush be ? Maybe you have a crush at school, maybe you have a crush at your work,
maybe but maybe have a crush on... I don't know, the waitress that waits on you. Maybe you have a
crush on a girl who's in your social circle. Did I already say that one? I don't think so.
Anyone that you're hanging around with. You got to make sure that you're getting into conversation
with them and you're using my formula TED, which stands for tension, entertainment, and dominance.
You're going to be using this formula and these 3 principles. when you're in conversation with your
crush. Just understand, and I'm saying this to you, but I'm saying this to my past self.
I had this thought that maybe if I just like hung around enough or saw my crush enough that... I
don't know, and this wasn't logical, but I would just hope and pray that she would just notice me
more and then end up liking me. I just really wish that just being in the vicinity was going to do
it. But obviously that doesn't do it. You have to make sure that you're getting into conversation
with them. I even remember... this isn't specific to when I had a crush again and we'll
get to the TED formula in a second. But I just remember, when I was in college,
I remember I was almost trying to be too cool to talk to the girls that were hanging around
my social circle. I was trying to play it so cool that I wouldn't even talk to them hoping
something was gonna happen. Like, come on, it's not gonna happen. You need to get in conversation.
And the best thing you can do in conversation is TED. Build tension, entertain yourself,
and establish dominance. What I mean by all 3 of these, and by the way, I go and do a deep dive
in my Hooked program in these. There's a link down below if you want to get that.
Tension means you're flirting with them. A lot of guys are too scared to flirt with a girl.
If you're too scared to flirt, you will end up in the friend-zone. You have to make
sure you're doing that. Entertainment means entertaining yourself aka self-amusement. If
you are amusing yourself and you're having fun in the conversation, that state that you're in
transfers over to her. She starts to have a good time in the conversation. Also this is going to
show confidence. When you're having a good time in the interaction that means you're not scared.
And when you're building tension and flirting it also shows you're not scared. It's confidence.
D is for dominance, meaning you're going to lead the interaction. If you got a girl that you have a
crush on and you're going over and talking to her, that's a great first step. Fantastic first step.
But you have to make sure that you're eventually asking her out. You're not going to be able to get
your crush or attract your crush or do anything with your crush unless you ask her out. A lot
of guys want to do this thing where they have to make sure they have the most optimal chance
of attracting her and then ask her out to, what? Prevent rejection. Don't try to prevent rejection.
Don't try to focus just on one girl all the time. That one crush because you're going to
get rejected and it's going to happen from time to time. You want to numb yourself more to rejection.
Instead of trying to just go for one girl. I know that's not what you want to hear. But I
told you you're going to hear some some things on this video that you're not going to want to
hear that are going to be hard. But either way, if you have a crush, you got to flirt with them,
you got to self-amuse entertainment and you have to move the interaction forward with dominance.
More on that in my Hooked program which you can catch down below in the description. Let's move
on here. Here's what's going to help in sort of the pre-stages. If you haven't asked her out yet,
but she's been around. Maybe you guys are going to parties together. She's in school with you,
whatever. You want to make sure that you're doing TED like I said and hopefully asking
her out. But at the same time (and I don't want to confuse you here) but at the same time, you
want to make sure that you're not giving her too much attention. Let's say for example, your crush
is at a party that you're at. If you're talking to her too much and you're paying attention to
her the whole party, what's going to happen is she's going to see this side of neediness
and showing too much attention. There's a funny quote if you've ever seen the movie Dazed and
Confused. I highly recommend it. It's great movie. In Dazed and Confused there's this one part
where one of the guys gives dating advice to the protagonist of the film. It was like the cool guy,
who's like the popular guy giving the more nerdy younger kid some advice. I have the quote here. He
says this, he says "you know that Julie chick? She loves you. If you want her, you got to play cool.
You can't let her know how much you like her. Because if she knows, she'll dump you like that.
Believe me. Like if she asks you if you want a ride, you say no, I've got my own ride, but maybe
I'll see you later. Sounds stupid doesn't it? It works." The reason why I wanted to read that
quote to you is this is one of the few moments in cinema where someone says something correct
with dating advice. Usually you see a bunch of nonsense. But it's interesting because he
is creating more tension by not showing too much interest. He's telling the guy
listen, play it cool. If you're showing too much interest then she's gonna back off. But
if you show her that you're sort of interested but you're not showing too much. So you're showing her
a little bit like, maybe I'll see you later, then this is going to help a little bit. Now,
this might sound contradictory, because I just told you, you want to ask her out. This last
minute piece of advice I just gave you is if you haven't asked her out yet and there hasn't
been a moment so there's just some things going on where you're sort of talking , you're sort of not,
and you can play cool that way. But don't do what I did in college. Don't go to one end
of the spectrum and show no attention at all and play it to cool because if you don't talk to them,
nothing's gonna happen. You have to talk to your crush. A great way to start conversation to get
this going... so if you want to finally talk to her and start to show that interest a little bit
and then finally ask her out, is just find common ground to open up conversation with.
Anything that's going on. Maybe something that you know she likes doing, maybe an event you
know she's going to. Maybe her friends have been talking about doing something and then you can
mention that to her. Some sort of common ground to open up conversation and then you can move that
into some flirting, self-amusement, entertain yourself. What I mean by that, is make sure that
when you go in there, you're not just asking her a bunch of questions, but you're making sure that
you're telling jokes that are funny to you. You're having a good time in the interaction, you're
being silly, things that are fun to you, which again, makes her have a good time. Now I want
to move to the thing that I promised you I would be talking about. The idea of why I think a crush
is terrible. If you're sitting here right now and I'm not trying to belittle you or put you down in
any way. I'm trying to help you so just bear with me here. If you're saying to yourself,
I have a crush. If you're watching this video and you go yep, I have a crush. This is bad for two
reasons. One, this means that you haven't made a move yet. This means that there has been enough
time that has gone by where there is a girl you like and she is your crush, so to speak. Therefore
you haven't made a move. That's right. That's just how it works. Guys who are more alpha, they know
they like a girl, they're going for it. There's not even a second or a time where they're thinking
I have a crush because they're already going for it and asking her out and trying to make the move
and be dominant and move things forward. Or you have a crush, second reason, is because you're
in the friend-zone. Maybe you've tried and she rejected you so now you're in the friend-zone.
Again, if you're thinking I have a crush. If you have a crush, this is red alert,
red flag, bad news. That means you're not making the move or you're in the friend-zone
and you're pining after a girl that doesn't like you. I urge you, if you have a crush,
go for it now. Just ask her out, just go for it. I know I said play it cool. That's for very
specific circumstances. But just make sure it happens. And most importantly, make sure
you never have a crush. Don't ever have a crush! That means that you're either in the friend-zone
or you let enough time go by where you haven't made a move. I don't want to train you to be
able to do that. I train you even more how to do that inside of my Hooked program. You can check
that out in the link down below. That's the whole course on how to make sure you know how to use the
TED formula to attract the women that you talk to. Hope that helps. See you on the next video.