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- Alpha man, smart woman.
New episode, episode one.
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- Well how did we first met.
Well it's very simple, I mean,
basically we fell in love at first sight
and she asked for my phone number and here we are.
- What?
- (laughs) You didn't pick me up
using your techniques?
- Why would I do that?
If I'd known what kind of life I'm having right now
I wouldn't do it.
- You wouldn't do it.
- It was such a mistake.
- But seriously, how we first met?
- You picked me up.
- I didn't pick up nobody.
- Tell people the truth.
Stop lying.
- No, I think at first we actually met
you were working at a karaoke place, right?
- Yes, I was going to college and it was 20, early 20.
Yeah so
- Early 20s and then I remember
the first time when I saw you,
you were working at the place, right?
- Yeah.
- Then you were the waitress, basically.
- Waitress, cashier.
- Cashier, and I thought, well, no.
I think I remember I was ordering food
in the room and we were just chatting, right
and I was being flirting with Jenny a bit.
And I remember the time you were wearing
a skeleton necklace, remember?
- Longer one.
- Long necklace.
Up here.
So she was serving the food,
and I would grab the necklace.
I would say, "That's cool."
and she was like, "What the hell?"
Then after that, and when I was paying,
you were the cashier and then you gave me
a VIP card, right?
- Yes.
- Because I thought, "Maybe she was interested in me,"
so she gave me a VIP card.
- No, were you already interested in me
before I give you the VIP card?
- No, no, no, but after you gave me the VIP card
I thought you were interested in me.
- Yeah, okay, so I got to explain my side of the story.
It's not what's happening.
- It's not what's happening at all?
- Because it's a newly opened karaoke place,
so the boss was asking us to give
to a certain kind of client-
- yes
- I think it's like more high end clients.
- Yeah, yeah.
- Because the VIP lounge is only for
people who are old enough to drink
and also want to spend big bucks.
So I thought, "Okay, this guy looks pretty rich,"
despite the look, I was like,
"Okay," I was asking the boss
is it okay, I give this client a VIP card,
because I feel like he's going to come back
and spend some more money.
- So I looked like a dollar sign?
What the hell is this?
- Yeah, something like that.
Yeah yeah something like that.
- Shit, okay okay
- Yeah so the boss said sure like
- That's terrible, okay
- Let me finish my story yeah
so the boss said okay sure and then that's why
I gave you the V.I.P. card, not intentionally
of hooking you up or anything, no,
zero none never thought of it.
- So you weren't interested in me at
all at the time, no?
- No.
- Okay, alright, good to know.
And then afterwards, after that I went back
to the same place again, right we were
singing karaoke.
- Oh yes
- You were in the other side, you were off that day
- Yeah
- And then we talked, and I said well why don't we together
- Yeah we bumped to each other in the hallway
- Hallway yeah, when did I get your phone number?
- I think it was that day.
- But I was smooth, I was very smooth.
- He invited me to his room with a bunch of friends.
- Room, yeah
- Like more than ten friends?
- Ten friends yeah
- And then he invited me to sing a song with him.
- Like a love song.
- Yeah
- On purpose, on purpose.
- Yeah
- Very smooth.
- So I did, I didn't think about much back then,
and he asked oh do you like to sing karaoke,
because maybe next time when you are not working
we can just sing karaoke together?
- You didn't ask me to do that?
No I asked you to do that?
- I think people already know what the real truth was
you don't have to stop faking it.
- So I was the one that was initiating.
- Yeah
- So I asked you for your phone number
- I was just being kind enough to give
this guy a phone number.
- What the fuck?
Kind enough?
- Just be nice,
- Just be nice?
- At that time I really
- So everyone ask for your phone number
you just be nice and gave it
- I really don't know how to say no.
I was like okay but I got to see this guy
every week he's coming, so I realized
okay awkward oh yeah sure I give it.
- Okay so let me get this right.
So you don't want to make me look bad
- In front of your friends.
- In front of my friends, thank you and
you were being nice cause you thought
I'd come back every week
- Yes, yeah
- So kind of like a mercy
- Exactly
- Phone number, here you go
- That's the right word
- Like that, and then I call
and then we set up a time
no, I think immediately right after
when did I ask you out on a date?
- No, okay before that, you know most of time
when a guy ask you for phone number
he will immediately text you at the night right, or call you
- Yeah that's a needy guy I don't do that.
- And this guy asked for my phone number
and then he said okay just sing karaoke next week.
What time, which day are you off?
I said on Tuesday, he's like okay
let's sing karaoke next Tuesday.
And then I was like okay,
I didn't think about much but for the whole
entire week before that day he didn't call,
he didn't text, didn't do anything.
- She was thinking about me, she was thinking about me
- I was calling my friend like
- See it worked
- I was like what is he trying to do
he doesn't even, I was even telling my friend
maybe we should just go have dinner forget about this guy
I don't think he's serious.
- But you were talking about that
- I was
- Yeah
- When it gets closer to Tuesday
I was saying I don't know right
- And it worked
- And then he called me at seven pm that night
- Because we were supposed to go out at eight o'clock
something like that
- Seven thirty
- Seven thirty yeah just call right before that
- And he's like
- Damn I'm good what can I say,
okay keep going.
- Oh where do you live?
I'm coming in 20 minutes to pick you up, see you bye bye.
I was like okay...
- You learn something, that's how you do it.
- Okay I guess we're going out
- Don't want to be fricking needy,
this is some major can't wait to see you
- I got to say back then to early 20 to me,
that was really
- That was ten years ago at that time
- Yeah that was really smart.
- In case, we are like five years apart,
so at the time you were how old?
- 21
- So I was like 25, six
- Yeah, I'm now 31 so you know.
I just look like 25
- Always 25,
- Yeah so
- Watch this ten years later, 25
- When I'm like white hair and stuff
- Yeah 25
- Gray hair still 25
so I thought this guy's pretty smart,
I don't know, actually I didn't expect anything
so I thought okay maybe I'll just meet with
this guy and see what he's about.
- What?
- Then we had dinner right?
- That sounds so pathetic.
Oh here's a mercy number.
- No, no, no
- Were you any feeling, were you interested,
is it like oh maybe there's something
- Before I was neutral I saw maybe just a friend.
- Okay
- But when it gets closer to Tuesday I feel like
- That's how they all think.
- I was thinking maybe this guy was into me but
then he didn't call me for a week
I was like maybe he doesn't maybe
he just wants to have a friend
- Who the hell, okay let me tell something about men,
you don't just want to have a friend,
oh can I get phone number,
there's always some kind of purpose
that's how men thinks alright.
- Ladies be alerted.
- No it's not like men, you know men
they try to drive you or pick you up from work,
or drive you home,
- Yeah
- Men doesn't do that,
that rather stay home and watch some game
- I think you know most of the guys at my age
if they have my phone number they will
immediately text me or call me right.
- Yeah they're fricking losers, that's why
- But you didn't do anything so I had anxiety
- Honestly because I was so busy that week.
So I was so busy and I thought,
I know I was going to go out with you,
but I was so busy
- For that purposely?
- Yeah of course on purpose, that's how you close.
Delay the sale right so,
but after I did that, so went out the first night,
you can share that like the first night.
How well I perform.
- It was so so yeah,
okay he bought me dinner so I was kind enough to have him
- No you should talk about when I pick you up in the car
- What was the
- It was so cold,
- It was cold
- It was cold, so okay she doesn't remember,
so I remember the story.
So after I picked you up at 7:30, ish,
and it was so cold that day.
- Yeah
- And I say at some tiff we weren't boyfriend girlfriend
- No
- So the week before I just ask for phone number
we just now sit in the car together,
and I said the weather's so cold,
and I said hold my hand, warm up my hand remember?
- That was after.
- It was after?
- After dinner
- After dinner closer to dinner first
- Dinner was kind of a thing, like chatting with friends
- With a couple of my friends
- Nothing special yeah
- But you were cooking for me.
- Yeah I was a little bit yeah
we were eating like Chinese hot pot,
just being nice because this guy is paying for dinner.
- It was always being nice.
- Just being nice
- I thought those were signals.
- He thought those were signals
- She must be into me, she gave me V.I.P.,
when we go for dinner she cooks for me,
she likes me.
- No
- She likes me, she likes me, right
- Yeah whatever.
And then after dinner and we're driving the car and
he's like, warm my hand, I was like what?
He was like my hand is cold warm my hand.
So I was like no I'm not going to do that.
- That's what helpful men does
- And then he said I'm going to make you do that one day
- Yeah that's what I said
- I was like what?
I was like this guy is so arrogant stop
- That's not arrogant, it's confident
- It's pretty arrogant, I got to say it's
college friends those already 20 year old guys
they wouldn't have this kind of confidence
so I was like okay
- And afterwards, after that, did we hold hands, we didn't
- I don't think I did
- That was the first date right,
and then after you went home and then we talked for
I remember that night we talked for like
six hours on the phone.
- Yeah yeah yeah
- And then after that we were basically together
- Yeah
- So it was one date close.
It's one date close after that we just talk about
I think right after that we call we talk
on the phone long time and
- More about what's our, move
forward relationship, expecting
- Yeah expectations and what's our goal,
what she's about what I'm about
- Yeah I'm more kind of that a girl
I don't know maybe because of the Asian
I don't like really casual dating
I think it's really wasting of time.
- She more like are we being serious,
is it going to be a long term relationship
- Not really talking about marriage but
at least are you serious looking for girlfriend
or just
- Just fooling around
- Just casual dating
- Even when we were going after, and
I was looking for a more long term
- But you said the girl you were dating
before me was not
- Yeah she was not
- Right before me you were not serious
- No no no
- You were just casual dating.
- I just got out of relationship
so we were just dating
- The wrong timing I think yeah
- But sometimes you never know,
I didn't expect we'd be together for now ten years.
- No, cause the beginning we were together I was really
you know just twenties, doing some stupid things,
just being needy kind of like, just asking for a lot.
For a guy which is five years older than me
he didn't expecting that kind of problems
from a girl, he was not really looking for that
and I didn't know, so we got into fight a lot
- Yeah those are the times in the beginning.
- In the beginning
- For sure for sure
and then I think in the future episodes we
can also talk about how we solved some of
these conflicts and how we kind of
work together now as a couple, with building
my business and how Jenny help me in my business
as well, so there you go that's how we met
our very first episode of Alpha Man Smart Woman.
Now this is a brand new series, what we're
going to do is every episode we're going to
talk about just kind of relationship and
what we go through as an entrepreneur
because I believe as an entrepreneur couple what we
go through what you go through is a little bit
different from someone who just have a regular job.
Because the issues that you face the stress that you face,
I think a lot of things don't get addressed,
because entrepreneurs we under
so much pressure all the time, and our life
is not as balanced as oh yeah honey Saturday, Sunday
we're off, entrepreneurs we don't really have that
if you know what I mean, you are an entrepreneur
so we're going to talk about a lot of those issues.
And hopefully that will also give you some
ideas if you are looking for that perfect
ideal partner or if you're already in a relationship
boyfriend girlfriend or you're married,
how do you enhance the relationship you have
and how do you strengthen the relationship
that you have, because I think it's
extremely critical, out of all areas of your life
if you want to be successful having a successful
partner is extremely key.
I've seen so many entrepreneurs where they have
the vision, they are hustling, they're achieving,
they are doing all these things, but
they have a spouse that's holding them back.
And that is very very difficult.
So we're going to address some of those issues.
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