Individuality is a unique thing and that is what you have in you. You’re an individual
and this is what makes you special and unique. It does not only make you special but gives
you the self-confidence to stand out of the crowd and be who you are. Once you figure
out, what you are good at, then there is no turning back. All you need is to have faith
and belief to reach your goals. So find out what you're good at. You know what, I have
often heard people saying, independence is like a flower, it decides when to bloom and
when to fade. What I mean here is, everything is in your hand. You are the judge and that
is exactly why I'll be talking about 5 superb ways to be fiercely independent in your life.
My name is Michelle and you're watching me on Skillopedia, the place to learn skills
for the real world.
Picture a person, I mean imagine a person who sits quietly in the class, never speaks
a word but listens to everything others say. Do you know something? That person wants to
speak up and that person wants to present his views but the moment he opens his mouth,
he loses his voice, how sad! I cannot even begin to think, what wonderful thoughts and
ideas, did that person have. Are you also somebody like that? Please I say, do not stop
your voice and do not stop your thought. This is the very thing that makes you independent.
Speak for yourself, stand up for things that you believe are wrong and be the light for
the people around you and that can only be possible if you speak up. There is nothing
to be shy about. If you decide to speak up, that's your first step to being independent.
A few years back, I had a friend of mine who had adopted a dog. A really cute, lovely dog
and he loved to pet him and he would care for him a lot but do you know that the dog
had a condition? The dog was blind. So every morning, he took the dog for a walk and the
dog walked touching my friend's leg with its body. Why did the dog do that? The dog did
that to feel dependent because the dog was not self-dependent. He would have sometimes,
let go of the strings that were tied to its neck. That’s what my friend did. As soon
as he let go of the strings, the dog started to panic and my friend didn't do this once,
he did it many times and when he started doing this regularly, slowly the dog started gaining
confidence and he would walk to the park on his own and come back on his own. So all my
friend did was, worked hard on the blind dog. Don’t we have something to learn from this?
No battle can be won without a strategy and no job can be done without hard work. Dreams
would be left as dreams if you don't apply it to become a reality. if you wish to be
independent in life, you need to achieve your goals and you need to work hard and you need
to get rid of the strings that are attached on the people who are around you so that you
can believe in yourself and others can believe in you. So just like my friend, who didn't
give up on his dog, you should not give up on yourself. Start becoming independent and
break the strings that hold you tight.
Sometimes, wait, wait, wait, many times, we take things for granted and we delay our work,
isn’t it? I’m sure you have procrastinated. I have procrastinated, be it at our work or
a promise to a friend. We often change our responsibility and tune it according to our
needs. Well, whether you like it or not, this is what you call being selfish. You know there
were times when I laid back thinking, I would do this over the weekend. I would this after
the break but you know what happened? All that happened was my work piled up. Believe
me, this is one of the most frustrating places that one could be in. you really don't wanna
pile up your work because that makes you dependent on others. So pull up your socks, not too
much otherwise it will tear apart but jokes apart, take charge, organize yourself. Do
it one step at a time and see the leap that you would take. This, my friend, can make
you independent and make your independent life a lot smoother and better. So don't procrastinate,
otherwise, you will have to depend on those people who are ahead of you in the race. So
stop becoming dependent, by being first, being on time and being organized.
Well, independence is not all about, free-falling with a parachute and screaming out loud, yeah
with the wind in your hair. That’s great, we all love freedom but before you want all
the freedom and liberty, I have a tiny suggestion. Stop asking your mom to cook for you and your
dad to give you money. Yes, you've heard me right. Being independent is more than free-falling
from the parachute and asking your dad for that jump. Of course not. You need to put
in some hard work. We all have to put in the effort to be entirely independent. You should
learn how to drive, buy your grocery, clean your place. The least that one could do is
to take care of themselves and this will fit right in the puzzle and you're way to go to
become independent.
In the world of silvers, be the pearl. Wait I have a better one. Be the silver lining
in the cloud. What I mean here is, take the less travelled road which means do things
differently and creatively. You don't have to follow the conventional path and you don't
need to afraid to walk on a path where no one has ever walked before. Independence gives
you the freedom to experiment and might for that matter should grab all the opportunities
to experiment in your life. Let me tell you a small story. many years ago, there was a
man who repaired watches, one like this and there were a lot of painters in that city
who drew beautiful figures and landscapes and all he did was, he used scrap as in old
watches to make a statue. So those watches were actually not useful and people laughed
at him thinking that this man has gone mad. until it was made and they realized that those
statues turned out to be more beautiful than the ones they made because when the sun shined
on them, the statues glittered because they were made of old repaired watches and it looked
like they were made of diamonds and they were just spectacular and the queen in that area
was pleased by the man and she donated all the antique clocks to the artist and instructed
him to make many more. The reason I'm telling you this story is that sometimes being off
track, which sometimes being different can actually bring you on track. So, don't be
afraid to take chances, don't be afraid to experiment, that's another step to being independent.
Now that you know how you can be independent, always remember you need to know how to take
care of yourself. When you risk and when you experiment things, make sure that you take
care of yourself and you will always have your well-wishers by your side and they will
be a part of your journey. At the end of the day, stand by your choices, enjoy the freedom
and enjoy free-falling from the parachute screaming yeah which is amazing but at the
same time, don't forget about the value of independence. So happy becoming independent
to you. Thank you so much for watching this session with me on Skillopedia, the place
to learn skills for the real world.