hi everyone I'm Adrienne Everheart your dating and relationship coach as you know I specialize
in feminine energy in helping women explore and reawaken their feminine energy in this video I'm
going to be talking about what to do if your man is losing interest I'm gonna tell you some signs
of what it looks like when a man begins to lose interest and absolutely tell you the deadliest
of all signs for your relationship if your man is losing interest and doing this and I'm going
to tell you how to fix it I'm going to share some real examples I've had from clients things that
have happened to me myself and of course I'm gonna share some scripting help with you as well to help
you know exactly what to say to him to turn this around and fix your relationship when he is losing
interest and wonderful beautiful you now one of the biggest things you want to look out for with
a man losing interest in the relationship is yes he's going to do things like stop calling
as much stop messaging you as much and instead of spending the night he might leave a little earlier
than normal or make plans and just forget to tell you about them now a lot of these can just be a
man getting a little more comfortable in the relationship but I'm specifically gonna talk
about losing interest in you now how does he first show he's losing interest in you and that means
he begins to invest less in the relationship he's gonna give you less of himself and he's not gonna
share as many details about his life that he wants used to and he may not be quite as interested in
what's going on in your life so these subtle things will really cause most women if you've
experienced this then you have perhaps gone into your masculine energy you began messaging him
calling him cooking him amazing meals and just going out of your way to make sure he knows that
you love him and what this does is this pushes a guy further and further away from you so by you
believing if I give him more love if I tell him more he'll remember it he'll wake up and suddenly
be there for me and everything will be back to the way it used to be not so when a man is pulling
back that's actually when you want to give him a little more distance a little more time in space
and you don't want to do this on purpose because it can actually end up looking like you're playing
a game I have actually heard from my clients say things like well I match him word for word if he
says hi I say hi if he say what's up I say what's up and he's sort of like matching his energy and I
want you to actually go inside your body and find how you feel without blaming him or guilting him
here's a quick example hey I've noticed your texts are just like one or two word answers
what's up with that I'm feeling the chilly vibe from you all right that's gonna put the guy on
the defensive instead you can have an approach that's coming from how you feel about this and
that would sound something like this hi it feels so great to hear from you and let the conversation
unfold a little bit talk about what you feel the most common question is how was your day what did
you do today what you been up to how's it going or just hi what's up I want you to talk about one
thing that happened to you today that affected you in your body so you don't want to say well
I went to the gym I met her girlfriends for lunch and then I went to bar class and then I came home
and oh my gosh I I couldn't believe I'm a male I got you don't want to list off all these things
that you've done in the day that's not connecting your heart to his you want to really find one
thing they're really registered with you today for example if my man were to ask me how was your day
today I'd say you know I got to walk my dogs and you know we've had a time change and it felt so
good to fill this crisp cool air and watch the Sun setting just a little earlier than normal it was
really quite beautiful and I felt so founded I felt so happy to be with my animals at this
moment in time that's me sharing my heart with him so that's something I just made up off the
cuff but you might want to really be prepared for your man to say hey what's up how's your day been
things like this you want to begin rebuilding this connection with your heart to his if he says hey
hard day at work and you go yeah me too work sucks I hate it you're not connecting nobody's heart
is connecting to any ones you're keeping up the status quo so that's the first thing I want you
to check into is just how are you connecting your heart to his not too long ago Huff Post
posted an article about the number one symptom of couples before they get divorced and that's
avoidance and years ago in communications I had learned that when a couple starts avoiding each
other there are these stages you can actually go through before divorce or breakup but avoidance is
the one where that person is like you don't exist to me I'm avoiding you and a big one is couples
who avoid arguing they just don't argue at all they just totally ignore it and you're actually
heading down a really dark path that's gonna end the relationship because that means I don't care
for all of y'all out there who are arguing right now with your significant other I don't want to
say you're totally in the clear but you're in a lot better place and if avoidance is happening
now avoidance will look like this your man will not tell you anything he will communicate the bare
minimum your conversations together will be about maintenance issues it will be what time you're
picking up the kids did you pay this bill did you call that contractor just call them back to put
out the trash that's what your conversations end up being like instead of connecting your heart to
his what does this require you do it requires you drop down into your body and instead of being up
here in your head and going what should I say what should I get him to talk about go into your body
and find out what you're feeling oh I'm feeling so frustrated lately I'm feeling like I miss you and
I want to connect with you but I'm just feeling this distance and I'm curious how you feel he may
get a response you may get nothing now I want to tell you about a client of mine who two different
clients who one had gone through this with her partner and I was new to coaching and I got her
to talk to him and say you know I'm feeling this distance I want to fix us what do you think we
can do and he was like I don't know I think it's over I just don't want to work on it anymore and
she continued to use the techniques I was helping her with which is being warm you know being warm
and available but you're at the same time you're not leaning in you're not going hey look at my
new negligee I'm wearing for you tonight you're not over doing anything to make this relationship
happen but when that man is around you and in your vibe and in your energy you are warm even
when you're apart from him you can tap your heart and send him love you can think about the good
things if you're thinking about the bad things and ruminating about this and that maybe you should
call an attorney and you call up your girlfriend's all you do is gripe about this guy you're gonna
get more of that so once you begin to focus on the positive the good things that are happening in the
relationship if there are none happening I want you to remember the ones from the past and go back
to those places and absolutely trust and believe that those can be recreated again now they did not
work out in fact we get a great big surprise in the end he had met someone at work and had long
since checked out of this relationship so now what I do with my clients is the minute I hear about a
chili guy I give them this script to say to him honey I'm feeling the distance I'm filling the
chili distance between us and I'm miss connecting yet I need total transparency I need the truth lay
it on me give it to me I can handle it is there someone else now most men are gonna say no most
clients when I go to them and get ask this they go I know for a fact there's no one else I know
there's no one else but do you really do you absolutely really it could be something as small
as just some woman he's met on the internet who's lit him up who's made him believe that there's
hope for him out there as a single man because she listens to all his problems and he's never
even met her it could be a young girl at work who is innocently flirting it could be a full-fledged
affair but what I'm suggesting you do is you come to him and just say you know I need honesty I need
total transparency I'm feeling the distance I feel horrible I miss you I miss connecting
I want to fix this but I need total transparency is there someone else in your life now nine times
out of 10 the guy's gonna go No and then three or four days later or a couple of weeks later he is
going to come to you and tell you there is someone that can happen you may also be a woman who knows
there is another woman and you're hoping that the longer you stick with him he's maybe gonna quit
that other girl but he's checking out so he's checking out he's checking in he's checking out
and he's checking in so I believe the only remedy for that is walking away and by walking away I
mean you walk away you know what I want to be a wife I want to be in a monogamous relationship
I don't want to have a three-way whatever it may be you need to say and you're able to walk away
from that relationship he's gonna go nuts for about the first two weeks and he's gonna call
your phone text your phone get angry and this is where you can meet him with warmth and you
can say you know hi you know I feel happy to hear from you yet unless anything's changed let me make
it clear I want to be a wife I want to be an 11 committed relationship that leads to marriage I
want monogamy whatever it is your boundary is now I have a really really popular blog on my website
about that and I will link to that in the notes below so you can learn more about the process of
walking away if you need to if this man has pulled away and he not coming back just a quick recap the
things you're looking for our avoidance this is when a man is no longer sharing with you any of
the beautiful details of his life now when you start opening your heart to his without
expectation without judgment so help me God I get women on my group who are like Adrienne I opened
up my heart and he just looked at me and slammed the door was out the kitchen that's just one time
you know it might take a week it might take two weeks of doing this and remember how much time you
invest that's always up to you a woman always knows when to walk away from a man however if
you want to try something new if you want to try something different and see if it doesn't start
to change your relationship that change begins with you one of you can change the two of you so
when you open your heart to him and you can let him know how you feel without any expectations
or judgment and you're not letting him know how you feel about him I feel this about you I feel
you're ignoring me you're not blaming and judging him but instead you're able to say you know I feel
lonely and I really like a hug or oh wait I just still such coldness between us and I miss having
warm arms wrapped around me you're saying about ten words at the most you're not lecturing and
having this long conversation it goes until 2:00 a.m. you're able to present it in the way that the
man can hear you you may have to do this a couple of times but I don't want your boy energy to take
control of this and say uh-huh we're gonna get him to do this we're gonna keep at him with these
Adrienne ever hurt text messages or whatever it may be I want it to come from a place of this is
genuinely how I feel in my body so nothing good is ever gained from force or manipulation I think
manipulation should be outlawed if it were up to me so nothing good is gained from force or
manipulation your authentic heart is what you're gonna show up with and if he fell in love with
once he can fall in love with it again now ladies when he finally opens up to you and lets you know
about his day and it has nothing to do with you it has nothing to do with the children this is where
disappointment can creep in and this expectation that he needs to be giving all this attention to
you can come in and that's where I want you to use my really really get hem tool I have that
listed in some of my videos my programs and it's definitely in my ebook 500 ways to talk to a man
so if you want to learn more about these tools and how to communicate in a way where it is very much
50/50 but here's the thing it's not gonna be out of the gate 50/50 it's not going to be out of the
gate you're given a hundred percent and he's given a hundred percent you have to rebuild together and
I believe marriage and relationships are in a constant state of tearing down and rebuilding
expanding contracting expanding contracting that's how relationships work that's how life
works I just want you to have these wonderful feminine energy tools that are natural to you
they're inherent to you so you can practice them the last one I want to leave you with is make sure
you have an answer to the age-old question how was your day if a guy ever texts you and just says hi
what's up hey how's it going I want you to treat it as if he's saying what did you do today and I
wanted to start off with I feel I'm feeling or I felt make it about you and make it about a
sensation you're having in your body alright so if your man is losing interest this is the best and
surest way to wake him back up to your heart and what's going on with you as a person most of the
time when we want to wake our guy up and we want to get more love and attention we're like we need
to have a talk about that you need to love me more that just doesn't work it really doesn't work you
can let a man know what you're feeling like I feel so lonely and I feel so good going out dancing and
having fun what do you think what do you think that would feel so wonderful to plan something
like that what do you think and if he says no I don't do that anymore you have to accept his no
and that when I want you to get your dancing shoes get together your girlfriends and go take a class
and go do it yourself go have this rich wonderful beautiful life yourself you will not be doing this
forever the man will come around but you have to give it time men they move like a little turtle
women we move a lot more quickly with time so with guys it just takes a little longer to unfold
but women a lot more quickly alright I hope these tips have been helpful for you if your man is just
showing signs of distance and avoidance and he's really losing interest in you and the relationship
remember you don't want to try too hard you don't want to force anything you don't want to fake it
or be manipulative to get the love that you want the love that you give is the love that you will
receive and I do believe this and if that doesn't happen you will know you will know with total
confidence that it's really time to walk away from a man and start your life in a new direction
but until then if you love this man if you want to work things out with him I want you to give
it a good amount of time to try these tools try something different get my book 500 ways to talk
to a man learn about my programs over at I heart love Academy and join my group online go there
get some answers try something different for a change and see how this magic will begin to unfold
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