This video is about = "Why Walking Away is So Powerful!"
In this video I will highlight FOUR key reasons and components behind why walking away
can be so so powerful for you, and your life....Stick Around...
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hit that bell notification so you do not miss any of these videos! When I was a kid, I was always so
petrified of losing anything! I feared like I'd always lose my toys... so I'd have to be careful
I feared I'd always lose my friends.... you know they might leave or they might not want to be friends
with me....I feared losing even my backpack at school ("have I got my backpack? have I got my pack lunch?")
I also used to be very fearful of good things coming to an end... I said "this is such a great
moment... it's not gonna last forever..." When I was a kid I moved to school a lot, so everything
was always so short-term for me....including any relationships or friendships that I had...
I was always changing friends, and as much as I really wanted to...I never had that special bond
as I was constantly moving about I thought "well it's always going to change, it's always going to
not be the same" and this slight phobia of losing or getting hurt
carried on into my adult life, and it happens with a lot of people as well...
It is called "disanthropophobia" the phobia of getting hurt by somebody, or the phobia of losing
something... okay but what has this got to do with walking away? Well bear with me, it's simple really =
most people are afraid of the unknown...most people are creatures of habits....
most people don't like change...they are scared at trying something new....they lack the confidence and
the belief to think that they can actually improve themselves, or the grass is actually greener...
They lack that confidence, that self-belief to pick themselves up again, especially when they fail
at something e.g. their business goes under, they've been dumped or they lose, or something goes wrong
that's a real pivotal time....so they do not try and believe in themselves enough to try out something
a little bit different....walk down a different street... make different type of friends and so on...
and so forth. That is why so many people find themselves and stay in toxic abusive
relationships, and believe for some reason that is the best that they can do. For me
I'm not trying to show off, but I'm just saying why I've made this video and this similar content
I have walked away from the following = I have walked away from family members, I've walked
away from friends, I've walked away from jobs, I've walked away from countless opportunities,
I've walked away from parties, yes I've walked away from social events, and I've even walked away from
really really good business deals as well. Look I'm not trying to tell you this to show off,
but simply that if I can do it, if I can walk away from those things so can you. Walking away
is not actually that hard to.... do you just get up on your feet walk away... but metaphorically speaking
it's also walking away from these people as well....but it can be extremely powerful
and greatly beneficial to your development, and your overall life as well. Do not stick
with something or somebody just because you think or somebody has told you "it's the best
that you can do, that you're limited and that's all you're gonna get!" You deserve so much better!
Okay here are FOUR reasons why Walking Away is So Powerful!
"You Gain an Abundance Mentality" = by walking away you give yourself
an abundance mentality mindset, and for those who don't know what an abundance
mentality is I'll explain it to you =a person with an abundant mentality
is an optimist and is genuinely happy for others when they achieve success, and they embrace freedom
the world is their oyster! Therefore by not tying themselves down to a toxic person, a awful job
a city they don't like, a country whatever, they are the optimist who believe they deserve
better! They truly deserve better than what they're getting! People with abundance mindsets are true
optimists - they believe that there is more to life than what they're getting, especially if their gut
tells them it's not good enough! They trust their instinct! If you're in an abusive relationship for
example - walking away even (though initially it will be hard) will be the right choice
because you will in time and after your healing eventually find a better partner...
The abundance mindset you will gain will show you outside of the bubble of your toxic relationship
actually there are some wonderful and spectacular people out in this big wide world, who will treat
you better, treat you with respect, treat you with kindness and love you for who you are! This can
certainly be applied to your career too, if you're watching this video it's possible that you may be
sick to death of your job, but now is the time to do something about it! By walking away from
that soul-destroying awful job and that terrible boss, those terrible co-workers will give you the
abundance mindset to explore your options! You can finally go all in on that passion project or
you may wish to start your own business, or you may want to work remotely - just do remote work
and travel all over the world! Look it does not matter what you do or what you want to do, by
walking away and no longer hearing the negativity or taking on the emotions and bad energy of the
people or things that have been draining your life - you are reinstalling the one key to your success
and that is your freedom! You are free to do whatever you want, with whomever you want
and however you want! When I walked away from my ex-narcissist I was under the mindset of "I deserve
better!" and I was right and so do you deserve better! The world truly is
your oyster! Spread your arms as you walk away and embrace the power of pure freedom! Embrace the
abundance of life, because all you really need is you and you alone! You are smart enough, beautiful
enough and wise enough to follow your gut and instinct, and let better things happen to you...
"The Long-Term Benefits" walking away will give you (no doubt short-term pain) but instead
benefit you from long-term gains! Let's talk about father time here, time in general and how time
can help you and you can bargain with the future! So let me give you an example = if you stay
in an abusive and toxic relationship with a narcissist, your future with them will be like this -
you will be constantly fighting, you will tolerate constant and consistent abuse,
your health will get worse, your work will suffer dramatically, your social life will be non-existent,
you will be miserable and you will have lots of negativity in and around your life. Whereas if you
decided to embrace the short term pain = the breakup period, the healing, the grief, and the recovery
in the future no doubt you will meet somebody better suited, and instead you will be smiling
and happy more! You'll be growing together, your health will improve, your work and career will
skyrocket, you will have a fantastic social life, you will overall be happier, you will have a far
better positive outlook on life overall! Walking away is so damn powerful because
it will give you the opposite of what you're currently getting! If you're in a bad situation
the problem most people have is they do not wish to take that leap of faith...
and get the heck out of there! They instead prefer to be creatures of habit and go by the saying "well
you know, better the devil I know..." wrong! When I left my ex-narcissist my life in the short term was a
living nightmare! I was so so distraught about being single again and so upset that I was alone
that I said "I should just go back to my toxic relationship - because better the devil you know..."
but then I remembered exactly WHY I left and what the reasons behind them were too...
and I started visualizing my future without a toxic person in it.... and through the tears on my
face and the undeniable pain...I realized that over time it will get better! I needed to stop thinking
short term and start thinking long term, and the long term benefits, and roughly six months after my
breakup I became a better improved and different person! I no longer had the negativity and stress
from my previous toxic relationship, and instead I had a spring in my step and I looked at the world
thinking just how exciting it can be, when you have that freedom, and you have that abundance
you're thinking long term! Walking away will give you short-term pain, but long-term
gains!
"Space to Learn to Think" to rediscover who you really are!
I have a mantra that I repeat quite frequently in my content "space is sexy!" If you are too needy
in your relationships by allowing space attraction grows (hence why it's sexy) but when you walk away
you are powerfully allowing your brain to start thinking a lot more clearly, and to start thinking
again. By giving yourself much needed space and walking away - you're allowing the
following to occur = let's say you've got yourself into a bit of a mess a relationship or whatever
learn how you got yourself into this mess...learn why you got yourself into this mess....learn what
to do to avoid getting yourself into this mess again. So let's use the example once more about
a toxic relationship = learning how you got yourself into a toxic relationship is key
so you understand that you were most likely manipulated.... perhaps you were desperate or sold
a lie? So it is important for you to understand that regrettably there are some malevolent
nasty evil people out there in this world, and it is naive and immature of you to think that
everything is sunshine and rainbows and something like a Disney movie, it's not! Learning why you got
into a toxic relationship again is a good way of doing some much needed inner reflection. Were
you desperate for anybody & you just decided to settle? Were you just blown away by their looks or
perhaps you know how attractive and sexy they were? Was it all superficial was you know did
you like them for their money, did you like them for their car, you like them for their apartment?
Were your standards too unrealistic, you know did you think that "oh when I'm in a relationship
everything's going to be fine," when you had serious problems that you needed to deal with?
Why did you want to be with this toxic person above anybody else? Why did you settle, and lastly
what to do to avoid getting yourself into a toxic relationship again! There are some important steps
you need to take here = such as learning from the previous questions of how and why you did what
you did. Now you know a little bit more about the world, because of what you've been through so you
can (as you walk away) go out there and powerfully swat the toxic individuals and the psychopaths
out of the way, like a bug, and go all in on the good and healthy and positive potential partners!
Have some standards! Again you can apply this to your career as well, by being stuck in the
rat race of an awful job, you're not allowing your mind to truly focus on what you want to do. One of
my closest buddies is a personal trainer (he's an excellent personal trainer) but during the pandemic
he pursued his career as an artist and he was painting every day, and posting things online
and when the gyms opened again he walked away from his job to do his artwork full-time, and he
told me "it was a no-brainer, I made fantastic money I love what I do and I'm doing so so well from it!
If I didn't have the space and time to honestly think and learn....I would never had
walked away from that dreadful job at the gym!" Walking away will give you the space to learn
more about yourself and what you genuinely want from people, and of course from your life...
"It Projects Confidence" walking away so powerful that it will in fact
project confidence (even if you don't have any)! Yes you heard that correctly - if you don't have any it
will! So if you are needy, seen as a bit weak by your partner, seen as a walk over... by walking away
it shows unbelievable, undeniable confidence and that confidence is the sheer belief in yourself
that you can, and will get better and deserve better! So many narcissists and psychopaths will
abuse their partners and shatter their confidence right down telling them "how they will never be
good enough for anyone else" but when you get up and walk away - suddenly you are the top dog
you are the person who is seen as "the one who is too good for them," which is true!
You are the person who can do whatever they want and are confident enough to do it! I've lost count
how many times people in my friendship circles have told me "you will never be good enough for
that woman or that person, whatever" and when I walked away from these toxic friendships as
well and turned up to a party in the future with a beautiful partner on my arms.... their jaws would drop
to the floor "how on earth did he do that?!" Because I have the confidence in myself to be able to pursue
whoever I want and I won't have anybody telling me otherwise. Let us again apply this to your career,
your horrible boss, your dreadful co-workers are probably constantly saying the same "you're not
smart enough, you have no contacts to make on your own, you know you got to network, you will
never make it in anything in life! You're going to be at this job for the rest of your life!"
But once you walk out of the revolving door to that better job, new career or to start
that new business, you are almost like you are on adrenaline! You're on a new path and whilst
it may be quite daunting at first (as it's just you and it's all on your shoulders) please do
not fear because you will have a newfound and much deserved confidence...as the wind beneath your wings
By staying where you are or with someone toxic etc... you really have no confidence... your life will
be dictated to you by others... who are a waste of time for you, and of course your development
Instead if you walk away... you are immediately in a more confident and attractive frame of mind
People will look at you differently.... in fact they will respect you and respect you more
they will say (not that it really matters what they say) "I can't believe they left that relationship
what guts!" or "they told their boss where to go and now they're starting their own business
gee I wish I was that brave!!" Walking away will project unbelievable confidence
and that is why overall = walking away is so powerful! Thanks for watching....