- I'm a mixed girl.
I'm mixed. - Mixed up about what?
(audience laughs) - My race.
My race is mixed.
And I thought that I was Bahamian
Spanish and Portuguese.
My whole life, I was runnin' with that.
And it sound real exotic.
So I loved it.
I found out that
that person was actually not my father.
So I found this new guy's information
through online searching.
And my question to you is,
what's the best way for me to approach
a potential father without
disrespecting his current situation?
(audience laughs)
- So you think this is your father?
- Well it's my last hope.
I have three children.
And I think that me being mixed,
I know I'm black.
I know I'm from the Bahamas.
- [Steve] Okay see you keep sayin' mixed.
- I don't know the other side.
- Whoa whoa, where we goin' with this?
Tell me, what is you tryin' to get me to understand?
You mixed?
You from a biracial? - Uh huh,
I have a white father and a black mother.
- Oh you know this dude is white.
- Yes he's white. - Oh okay, that's right.
I wasn't gettin' that.
So you going to go up to his house?
- That's why I'm here.
What is the best way to approach this situation?
I don't wanna freak him out. - Okay you can't just
walk up to his house. - I'll scare him yeah.
(audience laughs)
I wasn't plannin' that. (chuckles)
- Hey Daddy!
You gonna throw us into somethin'.
(audience applauds)
I think the best thing with you is,
your mother has to assist you with this.
No I mean she has to.
- She won't.
- Okay but listen to me. - It's to the point
where it's all on me. - Huh?
- It's all on me.
- No it ain't all on you.
No no she got with him.
You didn't have no say-so in this.
- Right. - She got with a man.
She knows who the man is.
It's her job, her responsibility to say,
"Look you're the father of this child right here,
"and I never told her."
- Well she did tell him.
She said, she told him
and that he changed his phone number.
- Your mother has to help in this.
Yeah she's got to. - She's not.
- She's responsible. - (chuckles)
- What does she mean she not?
- She not, and that's it. (chuckles)
(audience laughs)
- See that's unfair. - It is.
That's life. - That's incredibly unfair
to put this on your child.
See the thing about.
Okay first of all, let me give you this great information.
You are not a mistake.
I want you to understand that first of all.
(audience applauds) - Thank you.
Appreciate it.
- I do understand your wanting to be connected to somethin'.
You wanna know where you're from.
You want me to tell.
It's a lotta people like that.
I really feel for you.
But you are not a mistake.
See God, when he put these two people together,
it was for the full intent that you be born.
It don't matter that they match up.
It don't matter that they stay together.
God's purpose
'cause He needed you.
(audience applauds) He needed you to be born.
You are the miracle He wanted
to bring into this world.
'Cause I can tell you're a beautiful person.
So just understand that.
If he never takes ownership, it's his loss.
- Thank you. - He's missing
(audience applauds) out on a great person.
- Thank you. - You know,
I would start with a letter.
And get all the facts that you.
Just start with a letter.
Don't approach him
'cause you don't need that pain in your life.
So let's start with a letter
of just basic information, facts that you have.
My mother's name is Who.
My mother told me that you were Soo.
My mother got with this man, and I thought it was him.
It wasn't him.
I've done some DNA testing.
Do DNA.
We can do a DNA test for you.
We'd show you right who he is.
We had them people come on the show all the time.
Why don't we do that? - Can we?
- Let's do that for you. (audience applauds)
- We can put.
We can tell you exactly who he is.
Yeah we'll help you.
And then, you start with a letter.
These are the facts.
He know the facts.
He know who he was with.
He know he changed the number.
And just say, "Look I don't want anything from you.
"I just wanna know if you will just acknowledge
"who you are so that I could fill in this checkbox
"that's been empty in my life.
"And oh by the way, I'd like to introduce you
"to three fabulous people.
"These are the pictures, these people."
And they're, let's start just with a letter,
so you don't get hurt.
We can help you with that part.
- I would appreciate it so much.
Thank you. - Yeah all right,
thank you. (audience cheers and applauds)
We'll be right back. (upbeat band music)