And one of the things that keep you attached
is this desire and this wonder of
did they really love me?
Did they really care?
Are they really regretful of the fact that they lost me?
Well, let me let you know right now
if you were a good person to them,
if you put your best foot forward
now it doesn't mean you were perfect, but you know,
you know you were good
and of high quality for that person
then trust and believe
they will regret losing you.
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Hey what's up everybody,
this is Stephan Labossiere
aka Stephan Speaks
back with another dating
and relationship advice video
here to help you with your struggles, bring clarity,
provide you with a new perspective, all of that.
And as always, be sure to subscribe to this channel,
like this video, and comment below, all right.
Give me your feedback,
let me know what you're thinking,
how you're liking the video,
but what we're talking about today
is the fact that
they will regret losing you.
You know they say that
some people don't realize
what they have until it's gone.
But that doesn't mean they're supposed to get it back.
So, now this is not a video
to try to get you to entertain someone
who lets you slip out of their hands
who doesn't deserve you.
Let me make that correct
or make that plain and clear from the jump.
But I do want to convey the message that
they will regret losing you
and the reason why I feel the need
to speak on this is because
I see many people
in these relationships see them end
and one of the things that keep you attached
is this desire and this wonder of
did they really love me?
Did they really care?
Are they really regretful of the fact that they lost me?
Well, let me let you know right now
if you were a good person to them,
if you put your best foot forward
now it doesn't mean you were perfect but you know,
you know you were good
and of high quality for that person
then trust and believe
they will regret losing you.
The thing is,
you may not always see it
at least not initially,
because many people move on
and they run to a distraction.
You'll see individuals break up
and immediately jump into another relationship,
immediately start entertaining other individuals.
And you start to feel like, well, damn!
They must not have really cared about me.
They must not have really loved me,
but that's not always the case.
Sometimes, they're doing it
because they're trying to distract themselves
from how badly they feel
from the break up.
They're trying to distract themselves
from the fact that they know they messed up,
but they don't want to face that issue.
They don't want to have to deal with that
so, they're going to run to someone else
to make themselves feel better, all right.
So, you can rest assured
that yes they are going to regret it
sometimes it doesn't come out till years later,
months later, whatever.
They hit you up,
they tell you damn! You were the best I ever had
I realize now that I should have done better when I had you,
but again, don't fall for that.
If you know they're not for you,
if you know it was never what it needed to be,
if you know that's not the person
that God wants you with,
don't fall for it,
but yes they will regret losing you.
But now, I had to bring that point to your attention,
but I have to bring the next one to your attention.
Don't worry about if they do.
Don't concern yourself with whether they regret it,
whether they love you,
whether, how they feel about it?
Because those types of questions and concerns
continues to have you dwelling
in an attachment to this individual,
it makes it harder for you to walk away.
And for some of you,
because you're not going to see the answer
to that question immediately
you're going to find yourself
dragging on longer and longer
holding on emotionally
to this situation you need to let go off.
The question you should be asking yourself
is not what if they regret losing you,
is if they were truly for you to begin with.
Because if they're not the person for you
then hallelujah praise God,
you have been blessed by the break up, all right.
Now, some of you may feel like,
but I do feel like they're the person for me,
I do feel like this should have worked,
I do feel like this should have not gone this way.
And I understand that.
That's a very tough position to be in,
but again,
dwelling on whether they regret it,
how they're feeling about it,
whether they think about you,
isn't going to make your life better,
isn't going to help you move forward,
isn't going to help you focus on you.
Listen, if you truly believe they were the one
then there's a good chance
an opportunity will come back around one day,
but in the meantime,
we can't be waiting on that,
we can't be focused on that.
We have to be focused on us,
we have to be focused on God,
we have to be focused on our purpose.
So, you still don't want to be asking the question
do they regret losing me?
Are they happy right now?
And some of you may see a situation
where they jump into a new relationship
and they look happy
and it makes you salty.
It makes you feel some kind of way.
It hurts your feelings,
but I'm going to tell you
if that person quickly rebounded
and jumped to someone else
there's a very good chance
the happiness you see now with them
in their pictures and their posts will disappear.
That they will eventually find themselves
in another failed relationship.
That they will see
the ramifications
or the consequences of their actions,
so, again,
what you see isn't always
what it really is, all right.
And you cannot allow yourself
to be focused on that.
You cannot allow yourself
to be lurking on their social media page
hoping to find evidence of regret,
hoping to find evidence of sorrow or pain
because you want them to feel
the way that you're feeling.
Instead, I want you to focus on
you feeling better.
Are you getting to a better place?
Are you receiving all that God has for you?
So, though, I will say one more time,
if you know you were a great partner
they will regret losing you
do not allow that to be your focus,
do not allow that to consume you,
do not allow yourself
to hold on to the attachment
because you're seeking validation.
Turn your attention to where it belongs
you, God, your purpose,
and moving forward
on a much better path.
I hope and pray this video was helpful to you
and if you are struggling with a break up,
if you are struggling with
any kind of hurt in your life,
I highly encourage you to get the book
Love After Heartbreak.
I have the link below in the description
as well in the comments section.
This will give you the exact steps to healing.
This is the same steps I give my clients,
so many people have been freed
from these negative cycles,
have been freed from their heartbreak,
have found themselves in a much better place
loving themselves,
seeing great opportunities come their way
because they finally embrace the process of healing.
And I want you to have that
because I know everyone can't come to me
for a coaching session.
So, but this book is going to make it easy for you,
you can do it at your own pace,
but I encourage you
and I highly strongly suggest that you do
exactly what is stated in the book.
So, again, get your copy of Love After Heartbreak,
click the link in the description
or in the comments section
you will find it very, very helpful.
And with that said,
I hope you've found this video helpful
I hope you understand
why I need to give you this message.
Leave a comment below,
like the video, share it
and I hope to see you in the next one.
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