Hey, it’s Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV, the place to be to create a business
and a life that you love.
And today is Q&A Tuesday and today’s question comes from Claudia and she writes:
“Hi Marie.
I’m 26 years old, Brazilian and German, and moved to Germany 8 months ago.
I left my whole life and family in Brazil to dive into the unknown.
I’ve always wanted to start my own online business and have yet to find inspiration.
Finding a job in the field I studied wasn’t happening, so I got a part time job at a store.
My colleagues are amazing, good hearted people, but they don't have ambition.
I mean, none whatsoever.
I miss having smart conversations about life and I miss constant inspiration.
I love art and culture, yet I’m not pursuing any of it.
I’m in a state of numbness and have no idea why.
Do the people you spend the most time with influence you in a positive or negative way?
I’ve always been a doer, but this time I’m having trouble getting back on track.
Thanks for all you do, Claudia.”
Claudia, this is a very interesting question.
Now, most of us have heard that famous Jim Rohn quote that says, “You are the average
of the 5 people you spend the most time with.”
And whether or not you agree with that, I think we can all agree that we human beings
have influence on one another.
So the people you hang out with on a daily basis, the people you work with, the people
you talk with, of course they’re gonna have an impact on you whether it’s positive or
negative.
Now, should you stop talking and hanging out with all those nice people you work with?
Of course not!
As you said, they’re amazing, good hearted people.
But I do wanna give you the secret to getting yourself back on track.
It’s something I heard from Oprah a few months back when I was at her Life You Want
Weekend.
So she told this story from when she was a little girl and it’s something that she
did that helped her thrive no matter what environment she found herself in.
So she memorized the poem Invictus and she put a huge emphasis on these last 2 lines:
“I am the master of my fate.
I am the captain of my soul.”
Claudia, you’ve gotta take responsibility for your behavior and realize that you too
are the master of your fate and the captain of your soul.
And the captain doesn't get on the boat and go, “Oh no, where is this boat going?”
The captain steers the boat where the captain wants it to go.
So, Claudia, you’ve got to take the wheel of your ship and start steering it somewhere
inspiring.
Now, I know you also said you feel kind of numb and like you’re in a funk.
Well, whenever I’m in a funk and I need to get motivated again, you know what I do?
I have myself a dance party and I dance it out.
Hard.
Does having a dance party sound trite?
Maybe.
But there’s undeniable power in combining physical movement with awesome music.
And once you do your dance party you’ve gotta ask yourself, what’s the next best
action I should be taking?
Maybe you’re gonna wanna go to a museum, maybe you wanna go see a movie, maybe you’re
gonna head out to a bookstore.
Doesn't matter, the point is you need to take immediate action.
Next I wanna challenge you to something that you may not have considered.
Being the captain also means that you lead your crew.
So you’ve got all these amazing people at work, why not start some inspiring conversations
with them?
Ask them about their talents, their families, their hopes and dreams.
You can actually lead them to start having these incredible conversations with you.
Finally, you’ve got to make it your priority to expand your circle of influence.
When I first started I didn't really have that many ambitious friends either and I remember
going to Toastmasters and I got my butt out and I went to business conferences and online
marketing conferences to meet other like minded people.
Today I’m surrounded by the most creative and ambitious people you could possibly imagine.
So bottom line, Claudia, I want you to remember that, yes, you are the master of your fate
and the captain of your soul and each and every day you’ve gotta take that wheel and
make sure that you’re steering your ship in the right direction.
That was my A to your Q Claudia, let us know how it goes.
And now I would love to hear from you.
Do you believe that you’re the average of the people that you spend time with?
And if you ambition level isn’t where you think it should be, what are 3 specific action
steps that you could take to steer your ship in the direction of your dreams?
As always, the best discussions happen after the episode over at MarieForleo.com, so head
on over there and leave a comment now.
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