I'll be honest.
Most of the time I'm feeling like a side character,
or maybe even the extra
that doesn't know what she's doing in the background.
What I mean by that is that
I get lazy and breeze through the day
without putting in much effort into how I look or feel.
I don't always feel the most confident
or intentional about how I carry myself.
My energy is like meh,
since I'm working from home and
not really doing anything exciting.
But I noticed that when I'm living with low effort
and a blah energy that affects my mood
and over time that shapes my life.
So today I want to talk about channeling
the energy of a main character,
how to be the main character of your life
and live life more fully.
The goal is to add some more confidence and style into your life
and ultimately have more fun.
Because life is what you make it.
Special thanks to TheRealReal for sponsoring this video
and helping me look and feel fabulous.
So if you are like me, and you're tired of having low key,
lazy side character energy,
not saying all side characters are like that.
Some are pretty cool.
But if you are living in the background of your life
let's talk about how to channel
and hone some main character energy in your life.
Tip number one, no one cares.
Literally no one cares.
And that is such a freeing revelation.
Too many people are afraid of judgment
or people thinking we're weird.
And in reality, people are not thinking about you as much
as they are thinking about themselves.
So really you should just be the main character of your life.
You have fun with your life or you don't, it's your choice.
You get to live your life, how you want to live it.
And that's how it is.
Be who you are.
Say what you want to say,
do what you want to do.
Wear what you want to wear.
Because this is your movie.
Like, I'm sure you guys have heard of main character syndrome.
That is when one person believes that
they are the main character in everyone's movies.
And that is just egotistical narcissistic.
And I'm not talking about that.
I'm talking about just being the main character of your movie.
So the most important part about channeling
main character energy is confidence.
You have to love yourself.
You have to take care of yourself.
You have to do things to feel good about yourself.
It's all about confidence.
Ask yourself what makes me expand.
What makes me want to grow taller and rise up
rather than shrink down and get smaller.
I feel like me being a naturally shy person.
I know a lot of you guys out there are shy, maybe a little insecure.
Those feelings make you want to shrink down
and feel small and become invisible.
That is not main character, energy. Okay?
Main character energy is when you have confidence, no matter what.
Confidence, even if you're not the best person,
even if you're a flawed character,
there are so many flawed main characters out there.
So many main characters in scenes where
they're not looking the prettiest,
they're looking messy,
just got out of bed,
regardless of what state and what situation you're in.
You have the confidence of a main character.
You are shining regardless of what form you are. Ready or not.
And to be honest, it's in those scenes where the main character is not perfect,
that we like the character even more,
I don't know about you, but at least for me,
I actually liked the main characters more in those scenes
where they're not perfect,
where they're being silly
or stupid or funny or messy.
I like seeing the true character of the main character.
So yeah, don't be afraid to be yourself,
all of yourself, your authentic self,
and be confident in all of that.
Even the ugly messy parts.
Alright, I got my look done.
So, and now I'm just going to find something to wear.
The next tip to hone your main character energy in your life is to
wear whatever you want.
Wear what makes you feel fabulous,
wear what makes you feel beautiful,
play and experiment with different styles.
Don't just stick to one style
because you are not just one dimensional.
You are multifaceted.
There's a lot of parts of you and they want to come out.
So experiment with expressing
the different sides of you
through your style and fashion because it's fun
and it'll make you feel more confident.
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Another tip for main character energy is to set the mood with music.
Music can change how you feel in an instance,
whether you want to feel like you're in a happy,
exciting scene to a sad or dramatic scene to whatever you like really
choose the music for the mood that you want to live in.
Don't underestimate the power of music
to make you feel larger than life.
Next, find beauty in the little things. We often overlook
the everyday things that we do,
thinking they're too ordinary or boring to give a second thought.
Instead, try being more mindful of the present
and finding beauty in the simple tasks that you do in your day,
romanticize these everyday actions
and have some fun with it.
Who says you can't dress up while cleaning,
do you really need a reason to dress up?
Not really.
You can dress up for yourself if that's what makes you happy,
you can choose to make anything a little more dramatic, just because.
Whatever you're doing, imagine you're doing it in a scene of a movie.
Even if it's something as ordinary as running errands or walking the dog,
find beauty in every scene of your life.
And remember to find gratitude for all those little things.
At the end of the day,
remember that you are the writer of your own story.
You are the main character.
You are also the director, creative director,
set design, costume design.
You are everything for your life.
For the most part, everything that you can control at least.
So make the most of it, have fun, make it artful.
Basically you get to decide how you see yourself
and how you see your life.
It's all about perspective.
And the good news is you can choose your perspective.
If you think about it,
the concept of being the main character of your life is essentially
the same as being the artist of your life.
Basically being an Artist of Life is all about
choosing how to live your life
from the details to the big picture.
From the little habits that you do from
what you wear
from how you hold yourself throughout the day
from your confidence and your self love.
It's just about being intentional,
having fun and being creative
and ultimately being empowered.
So be the main character of your life.
Be the artist of your life,
because Life is an Art. Make it your masterpiece.
I got to end it with my tagline, you know.
Alright guys,
hope you enjoy today's video.
Comment down below which outfit was your favorite.
I know some people are going to roast me for some
and also comment down below
what you would wear as the main character of your life.
What's the main, you know,
the main outfit of your main character.
I'm going to read all of them down below.
Thanks again to TheRealReal for sponsoring today's video.
Love you guys so much and I'll see you next time.
Bye.