Alright, lately I’ve been seeing some comments from people saying stuff like “brooo this
isn’t a dating advice channel anymore” or “zeus stick to teaching us how to get
girls” and I’m assuming it’s because of the life advice videos I’ve been posting
lately.
So today, I’m gonna show you guys why focusing on improving your life is ACTUALLY the best
dating advice you can learn, and how improving at LIFE, will actually help you get ANY girl
you want.
#1.
Neediness.
The NUMBER ONE most unattractive trait that a guy can have, is being needy, and in fact
it’s probably one of the biggest reasons you get rejected by girls.
You text them too much, you talk to them every single day, you constantly need validation
that they like you and are still interested and a lot of other pussy shit like that.
Most guys are needy for 2 reasons: 1) they’re not confident, and 2) they don’t have enough
going on in their own life to be satisfied with themselves.
If you live a positive life and have a lot of shit going on in your OWN life, then you’re
not even going to have time to be needy and stalk the girl you like on instagram and snapchat
all day.
You’re gonna be too busy working on your business, playing sports, lifting weights,
reading books about your favorite topic, or whatever you like doing.
Think back to one of my early videos called THE PULLAWAY.
There’ll be a link to it in the top right of the screen right now in case you haven’t
seen it.
See, I noticed that, on days when I would be too busy to talk to the girl I like, she’d
instantly be more into me the next day when I came back and had more time for her.
When I figured this out, I started doing it intentionally, like stopping contact with
a girl for a day or 2, and then when I came back, she’d be way more into me!
Now, as you improve your own life and start pursuing your own hobbies and goals more,
you get to a point in your life where you’re so focused and into what you’re doing that
you honestly don’t even feel the need or want to text a girl everyday.
The pullaway is a great tactic to use while you’re on the journey to become the most
badass version of yourself because it gives her the sense that you already are a badass
who has a lot of shit going on.
But you should always be striving to reach that version of you.
Basically, if you’re NOT at that point yet, you can use these little tricks to make her
think you are.
BUT, your ultimate goal is to actually GET to that point in your life, so you won’t
need to use any tricks, because your natural self is so cool that she can’t resist you.
#2.
Success.
Ever notice how the happiest and most successful guys are almost always the ones who get the
hottest girls?
Yeah me too.
If you have nothing going for you and your life just revolves around getting girls and
nothing else then you’re just gonna end up a loser.
It’s like I’ve mentioned before “a girl is like a protein shake”, she is only a
supplement to an already good life.
By this I mean, if you’re a loser and you get a girlfriend, then you’re still just
a loser with a girlfriend.
Getting a girl doesn’t automatically transform you from Leonard Hoffstedder into James Bond.
I always recommend building up a good, positive life first, and then SUPPLEMENTING that life
with a cool girl … or 2, or 3.
Also, finding success with something you like doing will make your life a lot more fun AND
you’ll end up getting more girls because of your success.
Girls are usually much better in social situations than guys are, so being successful immediately
boosts your social status and puts you at a more level playing field with those hot
girls.
In fact, the reason guys choke up and get all nervous when talking to girls is because
the guy is usually the one usually trying to get the girl, which automatically puts
her status above his by setting the vibe that she has something valuable, and he wants it.
But if you’re a successful guy then that higher status immediately flips it on the
girl and eliminates that negative vibe.
This is the reason why guys who are considered popular in school get the most girls, not
because they’re inherently “better” than you, but because their higher social
status attracts girls like crazy.
#3.
Confidence.
Now I’ve done a ton of shit on confidence in the past, but being successful is the number
one way to gain real, god-level confidence.
And I don’t just mean financial success.
What I mean is, constantly working on your goals and hobbies and accomplishing them puts
you in the mindset of focusing on moving forward and not dwelling on your failures.
It also makes you less likely to bullshit with people, so you’ll be less awkward and
more straightforward, which girls love.
Being assertive and straightforward is one of the number one reasons that guys miss out
on girls.
If I wanna hangout with a girl, I’ll just do it.
I don’t wanna waste time thinking about the perfect time to text her, the perfect
opening line, or any of that bullshit.
I’m too busy working on actual important shit to spend half my brain capacity overthinking
a text conversation with a girl.
I’ll just text her something flirty relating to something we discussed before and then
just ask her out.
For example, if I was talking about a new food place in the area that she hadn’t tried
yet, I’d just text her something like “Thinking of finally taking you to that salad bar you
need to try, I think I’ll be able to fit you into my schedule this week if I’m feeling
generous” then I’ll add a quick emoji in there to give it a fun, teasing vibe, and
boom conversation started.
This a good way to phrase opening messages because 1) you open with a focus on hanging
out with the girl instead of aimlessly talking about bullshit first and 2) you’re teasing
her right off the bat and you start building the flirty vibe immediately.
All of your interactions with girls should be like this since they drastically increase
your success with them.
Of course, you don’t want to say something like this in an approval-seeking way though,
because if you tease a girl and then look up to her like you’re hoping she’ll approve
of your tease, then it looks really stupid.
So this relates back to point #1 about neediness, and how if you’ve built up a nice life for
yourself, your neediness is gonna go WAY DOWN, which will make your teases much more natural
and you’ll be much more attractive.
And that’s it!
Now when you go and start trying out my life advice, you’ll see it affecting every other
aspect of your life in a positive way, ESPECIALLY when it comes to getting girls.
ALSO! for those of you who haven’t already noticed, I’ve been posting twice a week
and I usually post 1 dating advice video and then 1 other video focused on working out,
diets, life advice, and so on, so you’re still getting one specific video on dating
per week which is basically the same as I was doing in the beginning.
If you want me to change up the schedule or something let me know in the comments and
I’ll work something out.
So here it is: 1 dating advice video at the beginning of
the week AND
1 life advice video at the end of the week
In summary: • 1.
Having lots of fun stuff in your life decreases your NEEDINESS.
• 2.
Having a SUCCESSFUL life makes you more attractive.