By the end of this video,
I'm going to give you eight ways to become deadly against narcissists.
Hey there, I'm Rebecca Zung.
I am an attorney, also a narcissist negotiation expert and
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Okay, so number one.
I'm going to give you 8 ways to become powerful and deadly against narcissists,
you're going to want to make sure that you stay all the way till the end.
That way you will know how to provoke them,
you're going to know how to become powerful against them,
you're going to know exactly what they're going to be doing and
once you can see it, you can see it coming and
that way you will understand how they're going to be behaving.
That’s one of the best ways you can become deadly against narcissists.
They absolutely hate that.
That's actually one of the best ways to become deadly against narcissists,
is being confident in your own self-worth and your own abilities.
That is so, so, so important,
let me tell you something that is going on with narcissists,
you understand that there are three different phases
basically to a narcissistic relationship.
It's that love-bombing, devaluing and then discarding and
during that love-bombing phase and
this is whether it's a personal, or a business relationship and
I actually in my life had to deal with a narcissist in a business relationship and
so even if you're dealing with them in a business relationship,
it's still the same kind of thing.
Sometimes that love-bombing phase is also called the idealization phase and
during that phase, they’re actually conditioning you,
they're setting you up there, looking to see
if you're going to be a good form of what they call narcissistic supply,
or what is called narcissistic supply.
They want to see if they're going to be able
to kind of get away with their behavior,
they’re conditioning you, looking to see how you're going to respond
when they start to devaluing you, when they start ghosting you,
when they start acting in a certain way,
when those red flags start popping up and
you start to kind of go, “Well, I don't want to rock the boat”,
“I'm going to go along to get along”,
“I don't know if I should say anything”.
A lot of times it's just so subtle and
you're just not sure what's going on here.
You a lot of times are an empathic or a good person;
they look for people that are good people, who are not quite sure and
a lot of times it's encased in a lot of great other things,
so you’re like, well, there's a lot of other behavior that's kind of good,
so you're not really sure and
what happens is, you've been conditioned and
now you have to start asserting yourself.
If you want to start to shift the dynamic,
if you want to start to change how things are going to be,
you have to start incrementally shifting,
so that you're now actually changing the power dynamic and
that's what you have to start doing.
So, number three is asserting yourself when needed and
now you're actually no longer allowing them to walk over you and
it's actually going to start to feel uncomfortable for you,
because you're not used to it.
If you've been a victim of a narcissist,
you get nervous about how they're going to react and
they will react, because narcissists, they'll start to have their tantrums,
but, you just have to kind of get through that phase,
It's almost like having a two-year-old,
we have to kind of get through that phase where they will react and
you just have to understand that that's what they're going to do.
Including setting clear rules for what is going to be acceptable behavior,
what's going to be tolerated and
avoid giving into their demands and
being okay with understanding that
it may end up getting worse, and that's okay,
because it will probably get worse before it gets better,
but it will end up getting better and understand that,
this is the only way to get a narcissist to respect you.
I do have a whole video on much more about that and
you can definitely check out my video,
it's called “This is the only way to make a narcissist to respect you”.
Definitely check that out.
Remind yourself all the good qualities about yourself,
just stay strong.
Because they will start to hoover you,
they will start to come back.
They're going to try to test you to see if you're going to be weak,
they're going to try to see if maybe,
there's some holes in your boundaries,
they're going to see if maybe you are going to allow them
to come back in some way or
maybe there's some way they can come back and
get some more supply out of you.
You really have to make sure that you're going to let them know that NO!
You are distancing yourself as much as possible.
They are not going to change.
Remember that you are not going to get closure from this situation,
you are not going to be able to get them to understand your position,
you are never going to be able to get them
to acknowledge anything that you ever did.
I mean, that was one of the hardest things for me,
I had a business situation with a narcissist,
I gave and gave and gave and gave and
I really thought I would be able to have some sort of closure and
I would be able to have at least a cordial relationship going forward,
and I really worked hard on trying to make sure
that things would be as good as possible,
even giving as much as I possibly could and
no matter what you do, no matter how much you try,
they just aren't ever going to be able to do that.
You're dealing with a person who is just inherently broken and
and yes, you can have empathy for that person,
but that doesn't mean that you can fix them,
that doesn't mean that you're going to have closure,
that doesn't mean that you can do anything for them
other than Namaste and walk away.
Wish them well, walk away.
You can heal yourself,
you can thank them for the gift of showing you who they are.
Go and find yourself somebody who is whole and complete and
deserves you and deserves your time.
That is how you can actually
become very deadly against narcissists and
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I will definitely see you in the next video.