Hi it's Stephan how you doing
uh... today we talk about conference and how to look confident
and uh... there is a big mess out there that i wanna destroying in the studio
and i'm gonna destroyed the actual proof
factual numerical testing proof
and that will be quite revealing and surprising maybe from any
off pots
because
most men
unfortunately get this wrong and that's why you end up very often
bars and clubs
with a lot of men
acting a bit read it
so what happens when we'd lose confidence
because that's normally when we get nervous and when the
become aware that we want more confidence
what happens
well uh... it's very much linked with getting self-conscious
when we get self-conscious it means that we becoming very conscious of what they
look like and can ourselves so will the focus is in here
on all body on ourselves
so it's not alter you know when we interacted with people
we forget about them very often which has become self-conscious yeah
so then we try to be more confident relook trying to look confident yet
because we know who live beginning at the spot so we try to look on then
so what we normally do
what we've already got all the attention ourselves so we now trying to look tough
and a bit like the action heroes or like maybe the rappers in the videos
so you know
we get a bit more like
now there's some guys that spend the whole life
trying to look like that
what's the problem with that well it's an interesting one i've always thought
that that is what confidence this
and i know a lot of people do
uh... but
i realized something i realized something off to the middle test i'm
going to show you in a minute
agree on something and that was that
you know although situations like movies or rap videos
when it comes to the main guy looking confident
and in charge
it's funny
there's a lot going into that
and it's nothing related to the main guy
it's related to all the actors around them
all of my team all the camera angles and everything it's all their in order to
make the meeting guy
super confident
and in charge
or the twenty
bikini clad keno models which are hanging around the main guide looking at
doing the action
are there to make him no-confidence so he doesn't have to do anything
that if you got twenty girls
touching on the side and you just sit there on your throne yeah
of course
you would look confident you didn't have to do anything
movies
action movies the main action hero
he's always gotta go to rescue that will make him look confident
while he's doing that
he looks like he's in control he's confident
he needs the action
and whole setup to make him look confident
so
they need to put on that
dot face like it doesn't really matter
then he just only has to do is just to be
you know totally depend
and not to share anything back to st bruce willis uh... you know any other
action heroes like entries whatever yeah
together for or they have to do is look really come
and do what's it what what what what they have to do
and fulfill the action
and the whole thing is setup so that they always under pressure so they look
pretty common and uh... and the pressure went
now doesn't really apply to a for people in normal situation that one of the more
confident
because you don't have all that stuff going around
uh... to make you look confident and then just to step back so most people
have a completely different idea or wrong idea
about what conference really looks like
and especially when we get self-conscious
we do you have no control again about
about what we've really uh... how-to leading to a confident alternative fuel
confident
so we try to put it on and we'll look at the teachers
offers action movies or the rapid today
so and i will look at it like you know that we've just been head of the head
with a piece of wood
you know but like a yet
you see is a lot and to know
the problem is it's really hard to get rid of it when you're ready
self-conscious i
so his beloved test i wanted to tell you about because it was very surprising to
me okay
now you probably know i know that that i have the perfect model of the c_s_o_
that uh... and i still think he's really design active
anti the chance of course but also there's this constant serviced by pin
number off for a long time
and has this cool little service within their website
when you can basically assessed of people's pictures of the actresses
actress and actresses pictures
and as and you know hold what used to seeing himself they give you a list of
characteristics and stuff that you can pick for yes we just click on all this
one looks like heroin
and then you clicked and all of this one is tracked if from the menu this one is
psychopath
bull this one looks like a doctor boom
so i asked some pictures on their hands a are two pictures which i am deeply
interested in and showing you now
hands here they are
this morning
and this one here
can you see them
black-and-white so it doesn't look like me but that's the whole point isn't it
marine unit site these two pictures and i have very clear expectations as to
walked by happened four k
this long was meant for the you know tough confident strong roles
this one was for the fruit friendly approachable stuff you know this one i
just can't in order to look for indian approachable
this one ask for any role that required me to be a tough strong
constant diet
i looked at the test results and it was just amazing
turns out people didn't think this was long this almost a confident bomb
this one laws this one glossed so many great things which are confident and
attractive confident and attractive within little with the main ratings for
this one yet
so most people that looked at them and and women
so this one was confident and attractive
this one on the other hand
i got a lot of stuff like cyto or angry
all you know
psychopath basically psychopath andrea koppel okay
so that's that's the kind of roles that people could see
refers to purchase here
this one amazingly yet big green bay cabinet cheesy grin
go out
confident an attractive
so what does that tell you what is it told me at the time
when he told me that actually looking happy he's okay and looking happy
actually makes you look a lot more confident
then when you look
like you're holding something back
when you looked like to try to be tough
uh... when you look like the little guys log
when they try to look confident
you with me
so
the way forward
to look more confident
is to look happy
that's the rule that i took from that
perhaps in fact
in social situations
out of movies and out of rap videos
they're happier you look
the more confident
jen moody
do you come across
now i don't mean that you got around and go
proc properly that time i thought about being a right to take
constant com happiness
and at the most interactions
rather than self-conscious like
confidence
like this
uh... what most people do
that's what makes you look for confident okay
so
let's let go of that poll you know vin diesel frame uh... bucks actually what
makes you more confident
to look happier
as prison by these test results ok
this was the patient that looked more confident
way more confident and attractive to people
this one
yeah you got off of my pictures how it's okay
and so uh... that's the role of k
the how do you look at social situations that happy you're caught in social
situations
the more confident you
that's those of the test results and so i i don't know what you think of this
and how it's going to change how you're going to approach things
going forward
interesting though isn't it really so i want to let you know about that and
uh... i want to also ask you to let you know what you think of it
now with this surprise you told by the this was already clear to you when i was
maybe i was just the anyone who's cupid
and uh... what do you think of it now
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there
and we can begin to track them
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