hey dan here and due to popular requests seriously this is like the number one
topic i keep getting emailed about i'm going to share some more advice
about feeling disconnected and being stuck at home
during these times
someone emailed me and mentioned being furloughed which i
guess is like a sort of laid off but not your fault situation i never really
looked up what that term means
and feeling really disconnected especially as an enfp and
you know we do love people and what we can do about that
and one of the things i realized in that moment is
having worked for myself for i guess a decade or so now
you learn to manage yourself and all these needs
a lot better i think than employees and that doesn't mean life is always good or
easy but this is very common among
entrepreneurs is you're really aware of your needs for
social contact your needs for disconnection for excitement for all
this because you don't have the same external pressure and you don't have any
structure really created for you and since you don't have any structure
created for you you really have to think ahead and look at your week and say okay
can i schedule lunches with friends some dinners out do i schedule sunday
where we do a trip together somewhere nice you really have to be thinking
about this stuff because a lot of people with day-to-day like normal jobs
at the end of the job they don't want to talk to anyone they want to go home and
have some quiet and disconnect and watch a show
where for people working for themselves and especially
now if you're working remotely it's a similar experience is you're probably
alone on your laptop most of the day at the
end of working the last thing you want to do is sit there with no people
and just kind of disconnect and watch a tv show or something like that so what
should you do to counter these feelings and just really
to feel better while you're at home i talked about this a bit in the last
video i filmed on this topic about understanding your needs so
think about all the needs that were being met by your job and this is
actually good advice just in general virus or not if you're thinking about
quitting a job think about the needs you get from that job maybe a sense of
security uh it's it forces you to get out of the
house which might not be easy to do now but in theory you connect with different
people one interesting thing with connecting with people
is you have a few levels of contact yes you have close friend and it's great to
have deep conversations but one of the things we all need as well
is sort of those lighter contacts those acquaintances
it's nice to have a feeling of a greater larger community around us where you
just kind of say hi you chat a bit you don't just want to have a few really
good friends so think of these different contacts you
might be getting from work maybe even things like there's
part of a ritual you had that you might not even know of
when you drive to work you listen to an audiobook and then you get a great
coffee and that makes you feel really good
you're starting your day with some education
and some caffeine and then now because you're at home and you're not commuting
you're not listening to an audiobook or even better the dreams around the world
podcast and because you're not doing that you're
feeling different and you can't quite place your finger on
it so really go through that go through it like a detective what could i have
been doing when i was at my job what were the different habits i had what was
my routine like and then find ways to replace them while
you're at home now maybe you do lunch meetings with
another friend who's at home or an a co-worker who's both at home and you
guys have lunch together over a zoom call
maybe you just pace around your apartment in circles listening to an
audio book something like that find ways to do the
things that well not i shouldn't say to do the
things you were doing you don't want to duplicate it but what you want to do is
find a way to meet the needs that were being met before ideally in
an even better way that's a way to upgrade your experience not just get
back to your baseline but actually take it
to the next level i might do some more videos on this topic as well if you have
specific questions about quarantine and all that i mentioned in
the last video and i kind of feel like an ass saying this but i've been doing
quite well with this and i think it's because the years of
traveling and working for myself have taught me a lot about how to keep
your sanity when you're living alone maybe when you're feeling isolated and
all that so i'm happy to share more of what i've learned and figured
out but if you have specific questions let me know in the comments and that
will help me put together another video on this topic if you're
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