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How To Dress Sharp When NO ONE Does With Gentleman's Gazette
[0:00:00] Antonio: Gentlemen, today, I’ve got Raphael
Schneider of the Gentleman’s Gazette here.
And, we’re going to talk about how to dress sharp when no one around you does.
Are you ready, guys?
Let’s get into it.
[Music] Okay.
So, Raphael has a lot of experience being the best-dressed man in the room.
You live in Minneapolis, Minnesota.
Raphael: That’s right.
Antonio: And you’re oftentimes the only guy wearing an ascot, the only guy wearing
a bowtie, the only guy wearing a necktie.
And you really set the standard when it comes to dressing sharp, but that’s a bit of courage
and it also takes a bit of planning.
And, Raphael, you’re going to give us maybe some of your best tips to being the best-dressed
man in the room, having the courage to be the guy that stands out that sets the standard
that isn’t afraid maybe of the attention that you’re going to get, right?
Raphael: Yes, exactly.
So, basically when you start out the first thing to ask yourself is can I be the best-dressed
man in the room and why should I be the best-dressed man in the room?
We’re at a conference right now and, you know, we’re dressed pretty sharp with sports
coats on with accessories a pocket square.
I’m wearing a bowtie today and because of that, we stand out from the crowd.
People see us and they noticed us and they’re much more likely to come up to us and talk
to us.
When you dress up, people automatically think you’re smarter, you’re more educated,
and they have more respect for you.
Antonio: Not always about me, but they definitely probably think that of you, Raphael.
Raphael: [Laughs] Antonio: But, let’s face it, not everyone
is going out to a conference where it actually it’s obvious why you want to dress sharp
for a conference, but what about in the normal day?
I mean you’re out walking around town Minneapolis.
Raphael: Exactly.
Antonio: You’re going to Best Buy, you’re going to a truck stop.
Raphael: Yeah, just picking up some bagels or some donuts and people know me as the dressed
up guy.
When I go there after the gym, they’re like, what’s going on?
You’re not dressed today.
Right?
Antonio: Yeah.
Raphael: But, it’s – they recognize me they know me for it and...
Antonio: So, a lot of guys don’t have a fear of like someone is going to say, oh,
what are you so dressed up for?
You know who do you think you are? Raphael: Exactly.
And that’s hard.
I hear you and I get it all the time, sometimes it’s more aggressive, sometimes it’s just,
hey, why are you wearing that or do you think you’re better than us.
And, I think one of the most important things is this that, one, wear things with confidence.
That means if you put something on dressed up, you have to look effortless in it.
It has to be part of who you are.
Antonio: There’s an Italian word that goes kind of with that, right?
Raphael: Yes.
It’s called sprezzatura.
Antonio: See, I don’t pronounce it like that.
That’s why I had him say it.
Raphael: Yes.
Antonio: For me, what dressing with confidence is actually practicing what you’re wearing.
Everything I would put together it’s like I practice wearing it just simply maybe around
my office or around my family, but I practice wearing it so I know what to expect whether
it’d be it’s a little bit uncomfortable I need to get the clothing adjusted or just
simply how it feels and getting used to it.
Raphael: If you just put something on like own it, right?
And, two, it’s very important that you have kind of a comeback ready.
So, when people ask me, what are you dressed up for?
I can say it’s Thursday or I could say I’m prepared for adulthood or if you want to be...
Antonio: I like that one.
Raphael: If you want to be a little kinder you can say, oh, I knew that I would meet
a very important person today and that just happened.
Antonio: Yeah.
Raphael: So, that’s kind.
Even if they’re negative, try to be above that and just do it in a kind way that shuts
down the conversation because usually they don’t have a comeback ready and you just
go about your day.
It’s just important that you pick something that suits your personality, right?
If you never joke and you’re always quite serious, then you should probably stick to
that.
If it’s an out of character response, it just doesn’t feel genuine and that’s not
good.
Antonio: I found that I talk about like what my career choice is, where I’m going and
a very quick explanation, people just accept it.
And that’s been shown like, you know, even if you’re going to cut in front of somebody
in line, if you give them a reason or an excuse or, hey, it’s because of this, people just
are more likely to accept it.
Raphael: Yeah.
Antonio: And, I agree.
Have you ever had anybody actually say the way you’re dressing like upsets me or offensive?
Raphael: It’s usually the other way around.
You know like people treat you very well, right?
They give you an upgrade or you’re at the hotel, you know, they may upgrade you to the
suite, the airplane upgrade your seat...
Antonio: They just give you compliments.
Raphael: They give you compliments.
And, I always try and it’s my personality, I’m friendly to all the people around me
with the staff and I smile at them and that just gets or brings out the best in them as
well.
And so, even though I’m dressed maybe very differently than they are, if I can connect
with them about a topic that they’re interested in whether be it like, you know, football
or just something that’s going on in their lives, they – they really respect that and
they’re like, oh, you’re great guy and I really want to dress like you.
Antonio: I am a great guy.
Raphael: Absolutely, man.
Antonio: Raphael, thank you very much for imparting your words of wisdom.
Now, guys, I’m going to link to some of Raphael’s best videos down in the description
of this video along with the video that talks specifically about this topic but went into
more detail.
Raphael: Exactly.
Antonio: And, guys, so go check it out.
Check out Raphael’s channel.
I’m sure many of you guys are already fans of that channel.
Go over there subscribe, check out his videos.
And, that’s it, guys.
Take care.
I’ll see you in the next video.
Raphael: Sounds good.
See you over there.
Stay tuned.
Antonio: Don’t stay tune too long, come back to Real Men Real Style.
Okay?
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