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you might be stuck in this situation of
regret and particularly pained by a
decision that you made and/or you think
an outcome that would have been
different had you made another decision
and you feel like you can get out of
these circumstances prophet sallallaahu
ideas on them said these words of not
not being obsessed or not being stuck in
the word if in the word no it's actually
the famous hadith of the prophets of
Allah where you said the stronger
believer is better and more beloved to
Allah than the weak believer although
both good the strength here that's being
referenced is not merely physical
strength is the strength of character
the strength of the strength of faith
it's the strength of independence not
being vulnerable to other people are not
not finding yourself dependent on other
people but instead of being as
independent of them as possible and as
dependent on a lot as possible it
referred to financial strength in the
sense that a lot encourages us to seek a
position of being financially healthy so
that we can spend on those who aren't
the point being is that you should seek
to be in a position of strength I'm not
in an unprincipled way but in a way
that's pleasing to Allah so that you can
do the things that are pleasing to Allah
so this is an empowering hadith and then
the prophets Allah he said obsessed be
you know dedicated strive to seek that
which will benefit and do not feel
helpless strive to do that to accomplish
that which will benefit you so the
prophet slice that I'm here is referring
specifically to the effort that you put
in focus on that which is beneficial to
you focus on that which is beneficial to
you strive towards that which is
beneficial to you and do not feel
helpless
then the Prophet slice and I'm set and
then if something overwhelms you then
say it is the decree of Allah and he
does what He wills so basically this is
once you have put forth your best and
things don't turn out the way that you
want to turn out then say I did my part
Allah Spano it's Allah has decreed and
I'm
with what he has decreed and then the
prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said
and beware of the word if he said the
word if only opens the doors of the ship
on it only gives the room or gives room
for the devil to play and the devil to
distract you and to really really really
mess you up to really mess you up and so
what this hadith is talking about is
that a person gets stuck and this idea
of the outcome and in the process gets
so debilitated that they no longer put
forth their best effort whether it's in
regards to their worship or in regards
to other areas of life which have the
potential to be worshiped the Prophet
SAW I said I'm saying after you have put
forth your best effort after you have
sought to produce the most favorable
outcome as you see it after you've gone
through all of that the Prophet slice a
time said at that point if things
overwhelm you overcome you despite your
best efforts so the best effort has to
be there despite your best effort the
Prophet peace be upon him said then just
at that point sake this is God's decreed
this is a laws decree and the prophets
license up and beware of the word if if
only I would have done this if only this
would have happened if only that would
have happened and there's so many
different ways to to benefit from this
particular last sentence and inshallah
tada I pray that it'll bring comfort to
some people that are stuck in this place
right now and help us change our mindset
when it comes to this word and when it
comes to outcomes there are different
ways to understand this so or different
benefits to take from it first and
foremost the word if here that the word
low is not the word if as a whole is
prohibited or blameworthy it's
particularly what the scholars say it's
particularly the prohibition or if that
is said because of a person regretting
something in the past thinking that
would have produced a different outcome
particularly the type of if that puts
too much too much currency in the bucket
of reasons and means and divorces itself
from the overwhelming decree of a loss
of my notes
and that's something that we have to be
careful of which are the means as much
as this religion pushes us as much as
the Prophet slicin pushes us to do our
best we never become dependent on our
best effort we instead put forth our
best effort but we always recognize the
limitations of our efforts and
recognizing the limitations of our
efforts does not diminish them it simply
allows us to be at peace with the
outcomes once we have put forth our best
effort right so there is a really
interesting balance here that is that we
always have to grapple with no matter
what we're going through in life how do
we come to understand you know how our
role versus the degree of a loss of high
notes and so one aspect of that one
element of that is when you're pursuing
something and you everything about it is
good and it's on its way to you and
suddenly it's taken away from you and
you think to yourself wait a minute why
so the narration of Abdullah Bemis
truths while the allahu ta'ala anhu
where he mentions a loss of panama to
how to decrease a good thing to come
towards someone then as the good is just
about to reach that person a loss of
panama Titus's take it away from that
person do not let it go to that person
because if I give it to that person then
I'll have to punish them because they're
going to do things the implied meaning
of it is that they're the naira that
comes to them the blessing that comes to
them in this form is going to change
their ultimate outcome in the Hereafter
something might change about their
character their personality something
might happen to them that is unknown
even to the angels that are delivering
that goodness or in the process of
delivering that goodness that if I give
it to that person then I'm going to have
to punish that person because they're
going to find themselves in a situation
where they're going to go astray as a
result of that good they're going to
lose themselves they lose their
connection to Allah something's gonna
happen to them that's going to produce
an unfavorable outcome in the hereafter
and Allah in wanting good for that
person removes that goodness in this
life so that it does not compromise
their goodness and the Hereafter
and so it's taken away from that person
and that person looks up and he says
person you know beat me to it this
person got it instead of me you know
that position went to that person that
that stock went to that person and all
it was was the bounty of Allah on you on
you so you were seeing it and saying if
only I would have done this if only I
would have done that it went to this
person that went to that person and this
is not you know being critical of
oneself so that you can produce a better
outcome next time that's healthy right
to go back and to re-strategize and say
okay you know what can I do better next
time this is a person beating themselves
up over what has happened in a way that
makes them stop trying right and in a
way that even worse than that can leave
them to start questioning a laws decree
and all it was the entire time was a
laws blessing on that person Allah
blessing you so that your favorable
outcome in this life does not lead to an
unfavorable outcome in the hereafter
which is far more important and so
that's one element of this and sometimes
it's even with the most bitter things
that a person will experience in life
what could be more bitter than slander
right than slander you know the slander
of a happy fellow the allaha time huh
and what it did to her what it did to
the community what it did to the
prophets all along are do some of the
pain that it caused to the prophets like
that I'm himself and Allah I know Tata
reveals don't think that it is bad for
you rather it is good for you now that
doesn't mean that I'm shallow the aloha
an has to like the slander that doesn't
mean that this is after the fact that
obviously the community has learned it's
lesson community understand the
importance of the honor of another
person all of these things are shaped
right by this incident that happened
with Aisha of the Allahabad though
unfortunately we still will fall into
the darkness sometimes not because Allah
has not given us sufficient guidance but
how many people are rescued because they
read the story of I sold the Aloha and
they say I'm not going near that this is
this is heinous we don't tarnish the the
honor of
a believer we don't we don't engage in
this type of oppression and slander but
a loss of Hanna Jota Ana reveals this
was not bad for you in the grand scheme
of things it's rather good for you
why because though every time I shall be
alone how would remember the slander it
would cause her pain right she would go
back to that moment she'd remember what
it felt like to the abandon alone and
slandered and all those types of things
the honor of a high shot of the Aloha in
the Hira elevation her reward as a
result of what she bore in this world is
a favorable outcome I shall only allow
an how could can inflict a lot of self
blame you know so I didn't oversleep
under that tree then nothing would have
none of this would have happened in the
first place right I wouldn't have ended
up in a situation I'm The Blob no babe
and said who did was he suggested
something about our shuttle the Eloheinu
and then the people ran with it without
social media and turned it into all
sorts of things and it goes back to the
the filth of Abu Lahab no they've been
sued now he's totally alone on how she
could have beat herself up and said you
know if I wouldn't have overslept if I
would have you know then I wouldn't have
ended up in this situation but Allah
Subhanahu WA Ta'ala is telling I you
follow the alarm and the community by
extension look the outcome of this it
hurts but the end of this is good for
you it's a lesson for the community and
in his elevation of you oh man what we
mean it's innovation of Aisha it's the
elevation of Aisha all of the Elana the
elevation of her station right so the
community learns its lessons aha I shall
de laranja enjoys her rewards Allah
declared her innocence from above seven
heavens and Allah spano attala grants
her a higher ranking in Paradise because
of her patience in the midst of all of
that devastation so you don't have to
like the slander itself but don't beat
yourself up so much over the outcome
seed the positive see what comes out of
this for you in regards to the outcomes
and don't go back and say if I would
have done this differently if I would
have done that differently no Allah
subhana WA - I too had a plan for you
and the end of that plan is good free so
be patient and don't think this is bad
for you
and and this is an important thing to
separate between and you know it's
really beautiful to me spend a lot when
when I read this even in the in the
words of the prophets themselves I think
he lost a lot to us stood out in the
words of the Companions themselves the
Sahaba you know Allah Subhanahu WA
Ta'ala was was was giving lessons to the
prophets and through the lessons to the
prophets are lessons for us through the
lessons to this infallible group of
people write our lessons to us and so
subhanAllah you know when you look at
the lives of the prophets and very human
pain very real pain but the patience is
extraordinary and then the reward is
extraordinary and the station is
extraordinary of course the prophets do
not commit do not commit acts of evil
they don't find themselves in those
situations because they're not like us
and that Allah has protected them their
Marcille mean they're infallible now
don't dwell on the past instead think
about how you can make the most of the
present for the future don't dwell on it
that's what the prophets lysozyme is
saying because if you open those doors
of shape on and you say if I would have
done this if this would have been
different done differently then what
you're gonna end up doing is you're just
going to be constantly in a place of
doubt and despair and that's where
Shaitaan wants you to be because you
won't be able to move towards a lot and
that's his ultimate goal is to keep you
separated from him you're not gonna be
able to make any movement forward you do
not know what chapter you're in you
don't see the end of the story you don't
even know what chapter you're currently
in so don't focus on if I would have
done this or if this would have turned
out differently focus on making sure
that the end of the story is good I do
pray this bring some comfort to many
people that feel stuck we pray that a
loss of parent aina activate us all
towards his forgiveness towards his
pleasure so that we seek repentance so
that we glorify Him so that we do good
so that we make it a point to use the
past to propel us forward not to
paralyze us so that even when we look at
our sins we learn from our mistakes we
don't beat ourselves up over our
mistakes we
from them and we learn from them so that
we can have better in chipolata filling
up our records and our Scrolls when we
meet Allah so kind of Assad
make an effort go out search try try
again try ten times perhaps you will
come right once but if you're not going
to make an effort blame none other than
yourselves when you want to seek the
help of Allah
look what the prophets of Allah and SLM
says seek the help of Allah and don't
give up work hard towards achieving that
which you believe is beneficial for you
work hard why would Allah say that why
would Allah say work hard towards
achieving that which is beneficial for
you seek the help in Allah and don't be
lazy Subhan Allah and don't give up
either Subhan Allah listen to it work
hard towards achieving that which is
beneficial for you and seek the help in
Allah and don't give up and don't be
lazy then if something were to happen to
you if then something were to happen
don't say oh you know had I done this
then that would have happened if I did
this this would have happened if I
didn't do this that wouldn't have
happened and so on the Prophet SAW said
Allah teaches us never use that word if
if if when you know you did your best
and you left it in the hands of Allah
thereafter you tried you sought the help
of Allah you were not lazy you did not
give up then when something happened do
not use the term if because if opens the
door of the devil and if is from the
handiwork of the devil
you know if can fill a dictionary
without actually giving you what exactly
is being said may Allah Subhanahu WA
Ta'ala grant us a deep understanding
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