Imagine this situation.
You're having a great conversation with a person you've just met.
You're talking about a topic that both of you are really interested in, and you're sharing
ideas back and forth.
You're both asking great questions and responding with enthusiasm, but then suddenly: silence.
This particular conversation topic has come to its natural conclusion.
You've said all you have to say on this subject.
Does that mean the entire conversation is over too?
Not at all!
What you need to do now is change the subject.
Changing the topic while still keeping the conversation going is a skill.
That's why we're going to practice it today.
In this video, you'll learn how to change the subject and move on to another topic by
using natural-sounding expressions and transition language.
You'll also practice the intonation that native speakers use in order to show that we still
want to keep the conversation going, just on another topic.
After all, using the right intonation patterns helps make sure your meaning is clear.
Beyond running out of things to say on one particular topic, there are other reasons
you may want to change the subject.
For example, you may find yourself in the middle of a conversation with a group of people
at a social event when someone asks you where you're from.
And the truth is, there have been some recent events from your city, country, or even region
of the world that you just don't feel like talking about.
How do you change the subject to avoid getting into a long discussion that just isn't appropriate
right now?
You may want to change the topic of conversation because it's a difficult subject, it's not
appropriate for this situation, or it makes you feel uncomfortable.
Or you may feel like the question was too personal or it puts you on the spot and makes
you feel like the focus of attention when you really don't want to be.
Or maybe you're just not that interested in this particular topic of conversation.
Maybe you notice that other people seem a little bored by it, you have nothing to add,
you feel like it's been going on and on and on for a little bit too long, or you just
have something else you'd like to bring up.
These are just a few reasons why you may want to change the subject and move on to another
topic of conversation.
Now that you've decided you want to introduce a new topic of conversation, let's talk about
four strategies for changing the subject.
As we go through these options, remember that you need to be confident about changing the
subject.
Knowing the right expressions and intonation will help you be prepared so that you can
smoothly move on to another topic.
First, change the subject by asking a related question.
The simplest way to change the subject is to ask the other person a question that is
slightly related to the current topic.
By asking a related question, you give them a chance to talk more about the topic that
they're clearly interested in.
They still get to express their opinions and feelings about the general topic, while you
get to avoid talking about something that you're not interested in discussing.
Let's look at a few examples.
First, let's talk about avoiding questions that are too personal or sensitive.
For example, when someone asks you about your relationship status, when you're going to
get married, when you're going to have kids, or going to have more kids, you may not feel
like sharing these personal details.
So what do you do instead?
Well, you can tell that the person clearly values relationships, so you can ask them
a related question about their family or friends.
For example, if someone asks you if you're in a relationship, you can ask a question
like, "Didn't your daughter get married recently?
How was the wedding?"
If you're lucky, they'll start talking enthusiastically about this topic and you're free from answering
an uncomfortable question.
Or maybe you're talking to someone who's interested in hearing how much money you're making at
your new job.
You probably don't want to answer, so you can say something like, "That was one of the
reasons I changed jobs.
Hey, the last time I saw you, weren't you looking for a new job?
How's that going?"
After all, they're probably curious about the details of your new job because of their
own interest in finding a new one for themselves.
By turning the conversation back to them, you acknowledge their interest in this particular
topic, but hopefully avoid having to answer a question that makes you uncomfortable.
You can also ask a related question if you're just not that interested in the topic the
other person brought up, or you just don't have much to say.
For example, if someone is obsessed with running but you're more interested in biking or some
other sport, you can ask one of these questions: How did you get started running?
What's your training schedule like?
What are some good parks or paths to run in?
This gives them a chance to show off their expertise without going into extreme detail
about why running is the best sport ever.
These questions make the subject a little more general and relatable.
You might be able to share details about how you got started with one of your hobbies,
or your favorite local parks, or the importance of having a daily routine.
Number two: change the subject by introducing a new topic.
If you're not able to come up with a related question, you can change the subject by introducing
a new topic.
In order to do this well, you want to acknowledge or recognize what the other person was just
talking about and then find a way to move on.
When you change the subject without any sort of transition or connection to what you were
just talking about, it can make the other person feel ignored.
To acknowledge the other person's interest, make a comment about what was just said.
You can say something like: That's interesting.
Yeah, I heard about that too.
That seems really popular around here.
That sounds like an intense sport.
Or: That sounds like an intense hobby.
People keep asking me that question.
These short expressions show that you were listening to them, but they don't encourage
more conversation on this particular topic.
Now let's look at some useful expressions and transition words for changing the subject.
After acknowledging the other person's curiosity or interest, you can bring up a new topic.
Let's take a look at some of the most common transitions.
As I share these expressions, pay attention to my intonation.
You want to use light, friendly intonation that shows you're interested in the conversation.
You'll follow these expressions with a new topic.
So...
Speaking of...
Speaking of which...
Talking about...
By the way...
Anyway...
That reminds me...
Oh, before I forget...
I wanted to mention...
Let's talk about...
We need to discuss...
Oh, I wanted to tell you...
Funny you should mention that...
Hey, we haven't talked about this other subject yet...
Hey, we haven't talked about another subject yet.
These expressions suggest that the conversation reminded you of something related, or something
that you don't want to forget to talk about.
If the conversation has suddenly gone silent, you can just go ahead and ask a completely
different question.
Lulls, or pauses in conversation, happen when you've completely exhausted everything you
have to say on a particular topic.
They signal that it's time to talk about something different.
In this case, you don't have to relate the new topic to what you were just talking about.
Here are some phrases you can use.
Completely changing the subject...
This has nothing to do with what we were talking about, but...
Not to change the subject, but... and then go ahead and change the subject.
Not to change the subject, but...
Changing gears a little bit...
Changing the topic slightly...
Totally unrelated...
Your intonation will show enthusiasm for the new topic, so that the other person feels
interested in keeping the conversation going as well.
Number three: change the subject by creating a distraction.
If asking a related question or introducing another topic hasn't worked, and the other
person wants to keep talking about the uncomfortable or uninteresting subject, then you need another
plan.
In this case, you can create a distraction that will get you off topic.
Then hopefully the other person will forget what you're discussing and then you can talk
about something else.
One way to do this is to give the person a compliment.
You can compliment their enthusiasm for the topic or their detailed explanation.
For example: Wow, you're so passionate about this topic.
I can tell you've invested a lot of time in studying it.
Thanks for sharing so many resources about your training program.
I learned a lot.
Or you can give them a compliment on their hair, outfit, accessory or personal possession.
Follow the compliment with a question to smoothly change the subject.
Hey, I like your haircut.
When did you get it done?
I really love that jacket.
Where'd you find it?
What a pretty bracelet.
How long have you had it?
Nice phone.
Do you usually buy that brand?
You have a nice apartment.
Have you lived here for a long time?
Another way to create a distraction is to physically leave.
Apologize and head to the bathroom, get a drink or a snack, or request a song from the
DJ.
This can be a really good strategy if you're enjoying the conversation, but don't want
to keep talking about a certain topic.
If you leave and come back, chances are the conversation will have moved on to a new topic,
or you'll be able to change it to something that's more interesting to you.
If you're in a one on one conversation, you can bring other people into the conversation.
You can introduce a friend and then mention something that you all have in common.
This is a simple way to move on to another topic while still keeping the conversation
friendly.
Number four: abruptly change the subject.
Finally, there are times when you'll need to abruptly change the subject.
If someone makes a joke that isn't funny, or says something really inappropriate or
offensive, or the silence between topics gets too long, you can use one of these expressions
to abruptly change the subject.
Keep in mind that intonation is really important.
Depending on the situation, you may want to be funny or sarcastic, you might want to show
annoyance, or you may need to quietly acknowledge that a comment offended someone.
As always, use your best judgment.
You'll handle situations with strangers, acquaintances, friends, colleagues, and coworkers differently.
Here are some expressions for obviously changing the subject.
Because your goal is to completely change the subject and you're being very clear and
obvious about it, it can make the situation flow a little easier.
Moving on!
Anyway!
OOO-kay.
On THAT note...
On a happier note...
On a sad note...
In other news...
And now for something completely different...
When you say these expressions with the right intonation, native speakers will get your
meaning and understand that it's really time to change the subject.
Let's review the four strategies I recommend for changing the subject or conversation topic
in English.
Number one: change the subject by asking a related question.
Number two: change the subject by introducing a new topic.
Number three: change the subject by creating a distraction.
Number four: abruptly change the subject.
Now I'd love to hear from you!
Which expressions do you think will be most useful for you?
Do you feel more confident saying them with the right intonation?
What are some other strategies you've heard people use to change the subject?
Leave a comment and let me know.
Remember, knowing how to smoothly move on to a new topic of conversation will help you
feel more confident when interacting with native speakers.
You may not be able to predict what people will say, but you can definitely prepare to
handle these common situations confidently.
Once again, I'm Kim from englishwithkim.com.
I'm your guide to the essential communication skills you need to sound more natural in English.
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