Hey Tripp. My name is Wolfie. I’m 23, I live in Texas and I was just wondering, my question is
how do you figure out what you want out of…. and who you want to become so you know what woman
you want by your side? What a deep question. How do you figure out who you want to become
so you know what kind of woman to have by your side? What a great question.
And like I said, very deep. How do you find out who you want to become?
This kind of goes along with a similar question, which is one that I have
definitely dabbled with personally for for many years, what you want your life to look like,
and what kind of person do you want to be goes along with how do you want to spend your time?
And your time is going to be spent in your career making money, spending time with people,
your hobbies. What do you do in your free time? I would say, first of all, to answer those questions
it's a two part answer. One, I would say you don't necessarily need to figure out exactly to
the tee who you are to know what kind of woman to have by your side. And I say that because
you're going to change. And I'm comfortable saying that as a 36 year old because...
I mean, not that much different but there are different desires and wants that
I've had since I was 18 years old and it's changed over the course of the past, what is it, 18 years?
Either you're never going to fully find out who you are because you're an evolving being.
But of course, I enjoy this question because you got to have some sense of who you are as a person
and what you want out of life. And I believe that having those answers will help figure out
what kind of woman you want. Because you're going to figure out what kind of lifestyle you want,
you're going to figure out what it is that you're passionate about, and all those things. I think
that is important. This is actually a 3 part answer. I'll get into part 3 in a second.
But to answer the question of how do you figure out who you want to be...
and it's funny. I feel like I'm the only one, even though it's such a common sense answer,
but I've never seen it anywhere. No one's ever... I did a lot of research on this for myself.
When I was diving into this a decade ago, but even into making this podcast, there were still
many years where I was saying, what do I want my life to look like? I knew I always wanted to
be a dating coach and continue dating and building Tripp Advice. But
what was it that I wanted my lifestyle to look like? And I just sat there and I thought about
it and I thought about it and I would ask mentors and people and I would do research on this.
I just couldn't find the answer anywhere. There was nothing out there that spoke to this
until in finally clicked one day. And now I get to share here with you.
You have to... again, it's gonna be such a common sense answer where you're gonna say
"duh". But again, not many people think about this. And no one's ever said it. The answer is
that you need to try different things and especially, you have the freedom to do that
as someone who is 23 years old. You need to try new things, you need to experiment,
you need to... you can also talk to people and figure out what other people are doing, what are
their lifestyles like. More importantly, you need to do. If you don't know where you want to live,
just move and move somewhere else and live. If you don't know what kind of career you want,
jump into something and see if you like it. You can never think your way to who you want to be,
you have to do your way to who you want to be. You need to take action there.
Part 3 is this. If you want to make this really simple, you can just look for 3 qualities in a
woman and you can still build you and who you want to be and take the advice I just gave. But
if you want to make it really simple in terms of what kind of woman you want, I find that most men
who don't really understand this or know it, but I've broken it down and I've listened to other
gurus who have talked about this. And they've broken it down and I've helped break it down to 3
easy qualities to look for. And qualities that I know that most men appreciate but don't think
to necessarily look for it or not putting a word to it. Those 3 qualities... I feel like I build
everything up so much just to keep you on the edge of your seat... anyway, the 3 qualities are fit,
feminine and friendly. I have found that most men really appreciate a woman who is fit,
who is very feminine, who is very friendly. That is someone who is fit who's in good shape,
prioritizes their health. Feminine, I think that is a woman who acts in a feminine way,
she is very easy going. She is someone who wears feminine clothing,
who appreciates being in her feminine. And then there is friendly. A woman who is friendly,
who's nice, who's sweet. Fit, feminine friendly. Wolfie, you can take that and run with it
while you're looking for the person who you are, but at the same time
want to still date and find a great partner. You can use those 3 – fit, feminine, and friendly.