Welcome back to the Six Figure Mastermind. Today we're going to be
discussing on how to become a good public speaker. There's one of these
rules called the six second rule. I want to tell you about what that is. So stay
tuned.
The most important thing you need to know about becoming a public speaker is
to be your self. Now, I'm sure you've heard that all the time. You hear from
motivational posters everywhere. It's just be you right? But what does that even
mean? Do you even know who you is? Do you know what it means to be you? Do you know
what you want people to think when they see you? I'm going to give you a quick tip
on how to find out... Whoa wait. I'm going to give you a quick tip on how to kind of
identify yourself and what being you means. I want you to pick 3 words
that you want people to see, think, feel, experience, smell, taste, whatever. When
they're around you. Pick 3 words that you feel define you. Now, I give you an
example. My 3 words are spunky, tenacious and go-getter.
Those are my 3 words. That's what I want people to think, feel, see, experience
when they're around me, okay? Spunky, tenacious and go-getter. That means
whenever I'm out picking out clothes for the stage, I want clothes that say spunky.
I want the clothes I say tenacious. I want clothes that say go-getter. I want
hairstyle, makeup, total a-to-z appearance in everything I do to say that. I mean,
it's part of branding yourself, right? Everything you do online should have
those 3 key words. You know you can borrow my 3 key words if you want.
You're going to do it differently than me. But pick 3 words that really
define you. Dress the part, act the part and allow that to be the definition of
who you are. Once you've defined who you are, now it's time to forget yourself and
go to work. Because guys, the stage, it's not all about you. It's actually about
the people. The reason that that room is full is because there's dozens or maybe
even hundreds of people in that room who want to be better off because they were
with you. And it's your job to provide that. So, if you're consumed with, "Oh, does
my hair look right? Oh, am i reflecting my three keywords? Oh am i walking to the
right part of the stage?' You've lost it. Your concern needs to be the people in
the room. Are you providing value for them? Do they feel like rock stars?
Dan Clark is one of my favorite speakers of all time and it's primarily because
of this key phrase. I want you to write this down. I'm serious like, write this
down, put on a sticky note next to the computer,
make it the background on your phone screen. Whatever you want to do with it.
But take note. This phrase changed my world. "I like me better when I'm with you,
I want to see you again." That's what your clients, your customers, your audience
members need to be feeling after you spend time with you. I like me better
when I'm with you, I want to see you again. And that is best accomplished when
you understand that your clients, your audience, the people in front of you,
they are the rock stars of this show. It's not all about you. Okay, I want to
tell you about that 6 second rule. Connection is so important when you're
speaking to people. They get that Rockstar status because they feel a
connection with you. When you're sharing the the depths of your soul, when you're
sharing your emotions with them. I want to tell you about a man that I
highly respect. His name is Michael Caine. Some of you may have heard of him. He's a
very popular actor. you've probably seen him in very many movies. Michael Caine is
an incredible actor and frankly he got most of his parts because of this rule.
So here it is. The 6 second rule is this. When you make eye contact with
someone for more than six seconds, they start to get uncomfortable. After 6
seconds, that's when you start making an impact.
Most people will look away after 6 seconds of eye contact and that's even
pushing it sometimes. But if you can maintain at least 6 seconds of eye
contact, direct eye contact without looking away and without blinking, you've
unlocked something. You've connected with someone. And you've connected with them
on a level that pushed past their comfort zone. As a speaker, as a mentor on
stage, you need to be willing to be the person that pushes past what people are
typically uncomfortable with. People will never change.
They will never transform, they will never improve upon their lives if they
stay within their current comfort zone. It's your job as a speaker and as a
mentor to gently guide them out of that. And even something so simple as holding
their gaze for more than 6 seconds without blinking, without looking away.
That can be enough of a shift for them to realize and understand that you see
something different in them. That you're willing to escort them out of their
comfort zone and into the space where the magic happens. The last thing I want
you to remember is this. And I tell all of my
this. And I'm constantly reminding them and myself of this whenever I go onstage.
You are never ever speaking to an audience. I don't care if you're an arena
of 100 people, I don't care if you're in an arena of a thousand people, I don't
care if you're speaking to an entire city.
Maybe you're broadcasting all over the world. You are never speaking to an
audience. You're speaking to a group of individuals. And if I'm going to clarify it
more, you're speaking to the one. I can remember one time, I was getting ready
for an event and we had our team together on stage and we were grouping
up and psyching ourselves up for this stage. And we were psyching ourselves up
for this event, preparing ourselves for all the people that are going to be
walking through the door. And the question was asked, "How many people do
you want to help today?' And I knew our registration numbers. I knew how many
people were going to be expected at the event. I knew our attrition would look
like. And I knew all of those things. And typically in the past, my answer would
have been hundreds, thousands, millions. But that day, I changed it. And I said, you
know what? I just want to find one. I want to find one person who I can make a
difference for. Whose life will be better off. And instead of going into that event
looking for 20 people, I was looking for the one person. The one single person
whose life I could make a difference in. And when I found who I thought was that
one person, I would go for it and then the next day, I was looking for that one
person again. And maybe I would find that one person
two or three or maybe in four times over the course of a day. With different
people. But if you look for and speak to the one, you will become a great speaker
and you will do what's most important. We just make a huge impact. Hey, thanks for
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