Hey friends, welcome back to Skillopedia, the place to learn skills for the real world.
You are with me; Niharika and what are we going to learn in today's session? Well, we
are going to look at certain phrases that you need to drop out of your vocabulary right
now. Well, I call them as career killers. You know there are certain phrases that smart
people do not use because you never know how people would interpret them. So it's important
for you to use the same phrases, however in other ways and that's what I’m going to
help you with in today's session. So which are these career killers that you need to
drop out of your vocabulary, well let's have a look.
Well the first phrase that you are not supposed to use in the business world is, it's not
fair. Well of course life is not fair. Well we do want our life to be just perfect, but
that's not reality. Life is never fair but you can't really use this phrase in front
of people because when you end up using that hey life is not fair in front of people in
the business world, well people would think that you are absolutely immature or naive.
It's important for you to stay constructive and confused. For example, well there was
this really important project that you wanted to work on, but your boss assigned it to one
of your colleagues. Now you are really upset about it. So what do you do? You walk up to
your boss and you end up saying, hey that's not fair. Well no. you are not going to do
that. You are not a little kid to do that. Well what you are going to do is, you are
going to go up to your boss and you are going to ask for a feedback. You are going to say
that, hey I was really looking forward for this project and I was really wanting to work
on it but you assigned to John so what's the reason like is there anything that I need
to improve on? Well that's how you put it. So stop using the phrase, that's not fair.
The next phrase that you need to stay away from, is this is how it works always. Well
are you really very lazy? You need to stop using that phrase. Now, if you end up telling
people, your boss, your colleagues or your clients that hey this is how it works always.
Well it shows that you are way too lazy and you don't want to improve on things. For example
technology, like even technology, a six month old process seems to be very outdated, right?
So why not the pattern of your work? It has to change, you need to bring in changes to
improve on something. So the next time someone comes to you and wants things in a different
way, you are not supposed to say that , hey this is how it works always. Well you need
to work on yourself, you need to bring in new things in order to improve your work.
So stop using that kind of a phrase.
Another commonly used phrase which is sure shot a career killer is, I'm going to ask
you a very silly question. Well no question is silly, no question is stupid. Many people
tend to do that. I know this is a very silly or a very stupid question. Well this means
that you are not confident about yourself. Well do not judge yourself, do not be your
worst critic. You need to come out confidently. If you have a question, if you have any kind
of information or any idea that you would like to share with your team members, with
your clients or with your boss, just go ahead. Be confident about it. By saying that, hey
this is a very silly idea or by saying that this is a very stupid question, well that's
it, people are not going to trust you. It just shows that you are not confident about
yourself. So just ne confident and go ahead ask your question or share your ideas.
The next common phrase that people use is, that he is such a jerk, he is absolutely incompetent.
He is so lazy. Well you need to stop doing that. You cannot really go ahead and start
announcing or form opinions about others. By doing so, it just shows that how insecure
you are about yourself. Now if you don't have the power to improve them or if you don't
have the power to fire them, then what's the point of announcing or broadcasting them as
lazy, incompetent or jerks. That's not going to help you, right? So, it's important for
you to just understand that yes there are times that we do live with difficult people,
we do work with lazy, incompetent jerks. But there's no point by announcing them as one
of these lazy, jerk people. Just stay confident, just focus on your work and you would be successful.
The next phrase that people end up using which I consider to be the great career killer is,
that it's not my fault. Yes there are people who love to play the blame game. It’s not
my fault, it's coz of him. It's because of her that this just went wrong. Well stop doing
that, it just shows that you lack accountability. There are people who are going to build this
negative image about you, you start pointing out fingers. People are going to really avoid
working with you. So if you want to be a great team player, it's important for you to take
the accountability. If it is your fault have the courage to admit it. If it is someone
else's fault well let your boss or your colleague figure that out. You don't have to be the
one to point out fingers and by saying that hey it's not my fault. Just quit doing that
and trust me that it is going to work in your favor.
The most important phrase that you need to drop from your vocabulary is, I hate, I hate,
I hate. So what do you hate? Well yes there are people around you, who end up using this
phrase way too much. They love to crib and complain about everything. I hate my boss,
I hate my job, I’m so stressed. I hate my colleagues, I hate everything. Yes, if you
hate your life or your job or your boss so much, it's time to quit. Stop spoiling the
work environment. There are people around you who want to feel motivated and encouraged.
Now is you end up being so negative, you are spoiling the work environment. Nobody is going
to really enjoy working with you and like I said, if you hate so many things about your
job, about your work, about your life, then try to work on things that would improve your
life. Try to do something that you would really want to and like to. So stop using the phrase,
I hate, I hate, I hate.
So this brings me to the end of this session today. It's time for you to eliminate these
phrases if you are using them because this will make you into a complete negative person.
So please do eliminate these phrase from your vocabulary because they are definitely not
used by smart and successful people and do follow us on Skillopedia, the place to learn skills for the real world.