- Heya playa.
Is your crush currently dating someone,
and you're just in that waiting period
hoping that they break up soon
so you could finally ask them out?
In the mean time, there's something you should be doing.
I'm gonna explain what that is right after this.
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It's a sucky situation to be in,
having to watch your crush be happy with someone else.
They get to hold them and hug them and kiss them,
and you're just on the sidelines waiting,
hoping for your opportunity and chance.
Well, that's what I wanted to talk to you about.
A lot of times when people have crushes,
they solely focus only on that crush.
They hope that when their crush breaks up,
they'll have their chance,
but in the mean time, who knows how long that can last?
Sometimes relationships can end in a day or a week.
Sometimes they last for a year.
Are you gonna be sitting around waiting for a year
just for a chance with one person?
Not even a guarantee, a chance with them?
We sometimes feel like life is a romantic story
that's gonna play out perfectly.
They'll eventually wake up and realize
wow, I don't like this person anymore,
and this person's been waiting for me all along,
but that's not how life works.
Chances are they'll break up with that person.
They'll still have lingering feelings for awhile.
They'll be on and off with them here and there,
and then if they do end up going out with you,
they're still gonna be thinking about them for awhile.
It takes time to process and move on
from an old relationship,
but a lot of times we just think that our crush
is just gonna give them up and focus on us.
Meanwhile, while you're waiting,
you're only hurting yourself.
Think about it like this.
While your crush is in a relationship with someone else,
they're working on their relationship skills.
They're learning how to communicate better,
how to be there for a person,
how to be a better boyfriend or girlfriend,
but you are just kind of hanging out,
not really doing much on your own.
That's why I would recommend
even though you deeply care about your crush
to still pursue other people, to put yourself out there
even if it is just to talk to other people,
to flirt with them, or to even casually date them.
Building that experience will make it
that much easier for you when your crush is single
to actually approach them and to bring
something new to the table.
For example, let's say you tried
to pursue your crush early on,
but you were too nervous or scared,
or you lacked the confidence to really make it happen.
Well, now that time has passed,
your crush is gonna hope to see
that newfound confidence from you,
and you're only gonna build that by talking to other people.
So when you do go back to your crush,
when you finally do ask them out again when they're single,
they're gonna wanna see that difference in you,
that confidence, that newfound you
that is ready to go out with them now
that you didn't have before.
But let's move from strategy to tactics here.
Here are a few practical things I think you should be doing
while you wait for your crush to be single.
Number one, focus on personal development.
If you spend time pursuing your hobbies and your goals,
you're gonna start to develop confidence
in those areas of your life,
and eventually, that'll start to sprinkle
into the relationship portion too.
Second, try to spend more time
hanging out with people of the opposite sex.
I know for me growing up as a guy,
hanging out with girls brought me
such invaluable experience.
It really showed me how girls think
and operate and function,
and it gave me some insight into the girl world,
things that girls are looking for
that I just didn't know to actually pay attention to.
In fact, I'm gonna link up a video over here
to talk about the different kinds
of female friendships I've had over the years
and what I learned from them.
And third, develop and pursue other crushes.
Now, I know.
You may not currently like anyone else right now
to the scale that you do this particular crush,
but by talking to other people, by flirting with them,
you might start to see that hey,
actually I like this other person more
than this crush that I'm pining for.
So you might wanna develop something
with them in the mean time.
It gives you that experience of actually dating other people
which is gonna be super helpful when your crush is single
and you're ready to finally ask them out.
Because no matter what you do,
when your crush finally breaks up with that person,
they're gonna bring this new experience
and evolved version of themselves to the table,
and I know sometimes it's hard for you
to get past the fact that they're dating someone right now
which is why I want you to watch the video right over here
which are five steps you can take
to get over your crush dating someone else.
If you're hung up on them
and you're not working on yourself,
this video's gonna help you break out of that cycle.
On that note guys, I'll catch you next time.
As always, love and peace.