Meaning, the four things you should definitely forget about,
those are the things that I'm going to tell you about,
in just a second, so, stay tuned.
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Let's talk about those things that you should just forget about,
like these are the F words,
I call them the F words,
because maybe you feel like saying the F word,
but instead of saying the F word,
you're just going to forget about these things when it comes to narcissists.
So, the first thing you're just going to forget about…
If you tell them they're a narcissist,
What are they going to do?
The first thing they’re going to do is,
that's what you become,
now, they're going to go tell everybody in the world
that you're a narcissist.
I mean, whatever you say to them,
that's what you're going to become,
or they're going to project, deflect,
they’re going to lie and deny it, whatever,
they're not gonna go,
“Oh, you know what? I think you're right,
I think I need to like, do some self-reflecting,
I think I need to look into my behavior”
They’re not gonna do that, it's not happening,
you definitely don't want to call them out,
don't call them a narcissist, not going to happen.
I do have a whole video on that, by the way,
things you can do instead of calling them a narcissist,
instead of calling them out on that,
which you can check out if you'd like.
So, that is number one, forget about calling them a narcissist,
it's not getting you anywhere.
These are the things that you just don't want to do
because they're not going to get you anywhere.
You want to move forward in your life,
you want to actually get somewhere in your negotiations,
you want to actually create a vision,
you actually want to slay?
Which is what I teach you in my S.L.A.Y program,
you actually want to have a win,
you actually want to have a resolution,
you actually want to have an outcome
where you can walk away relatively unscathed?
Okay, well then don't call them a narcissist,
not getting anywhere.
You're not going to get that feeling of being fulfilled,
you're not going to get that nice tidy bow
when the relationship is over and
you’re not going to feel like satisfied when it's done and
I have a very hard time with this, I have to tell you,
I never was in a romantic relationship with a narcissist,
but I did have to deal with a couple of narcissists,
I've dealt with them a lot in my law practice,
but I did have to deal with them in a couple of situations,
in a business situation and in a family situation,
you don't get closure, okay?
I did a whole video on this too,
It's called, “I was dead wrong” and
I talked about my personal situation and
you can definitely check that out if you'd like,
but, you're not getting closure, so forget about that too.
That's number two, that's your number 2 F word of the day.
They're not going to do that, not willingly.
I mean, the only time you ever see narcissist out in the news,
politicians, entertainment people saying they were sorry, or whatever,
it’s only when they get caught and they have to,
because they need to preserve their face,
they need to preserve a career in some way and
that's when you see them come out.
“Oh, I'm very sorry that I may have hurt somebody”,
which is not a real apology, by the way,
I mean, do you think they would have been out there
apologizing publicly if they hadn't gotten caught?
No, so that's not a real apology.
So, forget about them getting to see what they did wrong
or having any regret about their behavior,
not going to happen, forget it, and by the way,
even if they do say they're sorry, as I said, it's a big fat lie.
All right, let's go to number four.
This is a tough one too,
because a lot of times the relationship has been very one-sided,
you have put way more into this relationship
then you've gotten out of the relationship and
so you want them to see all that you've put into it,
you want them to acknowledge that
they got a lot out of the relationship and
all that you did for them,
you want that, but you're not going to get that,
you want them to see your side,
you want them to feel your feelings,
you want them to see the pain that they caused,
the hurt that they caused,
you want them to see the destruction they caused, acknowledge that and
they don't want to see that, they don't want to acknowledge that,
forget about getting them to do that.
So, those are the four things, those are the four F words
that you should just burn into your brain,
move on,
that's the best thing that you can do with your life, honestly,
move on to somebody who's actually going to acknowledge you,
care, have empathy, see your side, have feelings for you,
actually apologize, actually wants a two sided relationship that serves your soul,
whether it's in business or personal life,
there are lots and lots of people out there,
who are capable of having healthy relationships;
find those people, those are your people.
I always say, stop trying to make
not your people, your people,
these are not your people, okay?
So just move on, it's okay, namaste and walk away.
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I'm Rebecca Zung. I'm so glad you're here.
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