We all have subconscious stories.
We tell ourselves like, guys, don't pay attention to me.
My milkshake brings all the boys to the yard.
Every person I date is the same type of person with a different face.
Why can't I attract love?
I'm just that crazy cat lady.
Every person I date is emotionally unavailable.
I feel like I'm always the one to put in the effort.
All of those are stories we may tell ourselves.
However, when we take out the subconscious story we have about love, we become free to
really attract love into our own lives.
Welcome back to another video.
My name is Aaron and I help people expand their consciousness.
Now in this video I'm going to be showing you how to unveil your subconscious story,
which has been on autopilot, running itself out over and over and over again, and you
might not even know it and understand that our reality is a direct reflection of the
story that we tell ourselves consistently.
So when it comes to our subconscious story, this little thing right here is supposed to
be one of those, uh, what do you call it?
Glaciers or something where a lot of them are submerged under the water.
Most of our story about love is under the water and then a little bit of it we are aware
of.
Now, first off, let's understand that subconscious.
We give it this very esoteric meaning we're like, what is this subconscious?
It sounds like this very abstract thing.
Sub just subconscious just means under sub, like underwater, like a submarine.
The idea is that it's just, we're not aware of it.
That's it.
So it doesn't have to be this really mystical flying butterfly thing.
It's like what is that?
What is that?
It's like it just means it's unconscious or subconscious and now you make it conscious
and what you do to do this is you go through and you start to ask questions.
You start to unveil the perspectives you have unveiled some of the perspectives maybe your
parents had and the more aware of the subconscious stories you become, the better.
The more that you are then able to change it.
So realize that we have a little stick figure right here.
Now our reality is a direct, it's a mirror reflection of the story we tell ourselves
on the inside about love.
So question things like I always attract this type of person into my life.
Things like it's hard for me to attract someone into my life or it's easy for me to attract
them, but it's hard for me to keep them.
These are all stories.
Then there might be stories that are parents.
We may have modeled growing up like love doesn't last.
It's something that I've seen divorcing divorce happen a couple times in my family and because
of that, part of me is like, do I even ever want to get married?
That's my subconscious story about love.
And it means that it doesn't have to be this esoteric weird thing cause it's subconscious.
It just means it was subconscious.
Once you make a conscious, then it's a choice.
But until then it's on autopilot.
It's like the shadow that is there.
So your subconscious story may and most likely is exactly what is holding you back from experiencing
love in your life, from attracting the person that you want to be with.
The one that you would really resonate with at a deep level.
There's a subconscious story that keeps that person from coming into your life.
Imagine they're trying to crawl themselves into your life, but what you're doing is you
have the subconscious story that's like blocking them out.
You're like this and then then you don't even see them and they're just crawling, trying
to get in.
But you got that subconscious story there.
And that subconscious story, maybe also something that might come along the lines of your framework
for what it takes for you to be loved.
You may believe that you are not lovable.
Subconsciously, you may have had experiences growing up where someone broke up with you
and you said, I'm not worthy.
So you have these rules in place that many times may hold us back from experiencing the
love that we naturally are and understand that when it comes to attracting love into
our life, it comes due to vibrational resonance.
So the key to this is actually feeling the self love now.
And even think of it like this.
We have someone else in our life over here going like, Hey, nah, [inaudible] and all
the way over there.
Then what happens is we have a rule, a rule about love and side of our mind that says,
well, when I, someone's in my life, I will then be able to feel love because every single
Disney movie that we've ever watched has showed some miserable person that is lonely and miserable
and then eventually they find some type of a person, someone rescues them, whatever the
story is, the story, the subconscious story that is being shown.
And then at the end they lived happily ever after and they are fighting the wholly complete.
Then as we grow up and we're six years old, we see this on Disney and we see Cinderella,
we've seen snow white and all of these, uh, Latin and all these and we're like, Oh, maybe
if I get that person, that Prince charming, that a princess, I will finally feel worthy
holding complete.
This has been embedded in my subconscious mind that this is what it takes to be loved.
This is what it takes.
So then we have a rule and that rule says, when this person comes into my life and shaves
me as the princess that she is as the Prince charming he is, then what we say is, okay,
the rule has been met checking off the list.
Yay.
Now I feel love, but here's the thing.
All we did was had a rule.
They met that rule, they met that blueprint and then we feel self love the whole time.
By the way, the love is within us.
We can feel the love.
It's just that we've got these stories that keep us from feeling the love because we're
like, wait, don't you feel that love yet?
Don't you feel it?
Because if you feel it, then it's a, the idea is that we have this rule that says that we
can only feel it once they actually come into our life.
And that's the rule that keeps us from feeling the love, which would then help us to actually
attract more love into our life due to vibrational resonance.
And that's why I always say the statement, you find the one you love by doing what you
love, because when you're doing what you love, you're in the core frequency and you're, you're
loving, you know, other parts of your life.
And then that person comes in as a direct reflection of that.
And then you're also kind of putting out this tune this, it's almost like you're in this
vibrational resonance where then somebody can reflect back that true self that you are
versus you being someone you're not.
And then attracting someone based on that reflection.
So the keys to really be who you're meant to be in life, do what you're passionate about.
Now our subconscious story about love is under the surface.
Now in this video, I'm going to show you exactly how to figure that out.
And for that, I have this which I already made, which kind of helps this process of
the visual presentation.
Now, any belief we have, any story, we have a stories of belief.
That's what it is.
Let me say, I'm not worthy of making a certain amount of money.
We may say I'm not worthy of a certain type of relationship.
Whatever the word is.
A lot of the most common limiting belief, by the way, is the belief that I am not worthy.
And I am not enough.
Most common limiting belief that most people have add the key to this is this understanding
right here.
This little diagram.
I did it.
I did a good job, huh?
Huh?
Look at that.
So it says this is a table.
Okay, beautiful.
Well, well, draw a table.
That's my story.
I'm a real good drawer.
I could wet her stuff good too.
So you see, he says, I am not enough.
That's the core belief.
It's about the fight because this is the thing people sometimes will look at, uh, I'm not
attracting a relationship.
I can't manifest love.
That's not a core belief.
That's a side effect of something else.
So people will try to change.
I'm, they'll try to change that says, Oh, I'm can attract love.
And then they'll find that there's other things that also reflecting back to them, that same
thing.
Maybe if they believe they're not worthy, they have trouble finding love and they also
have trouble manifesting money.
You see, so it's a core belief thing and the way you find your core belief is you see what
is the emotion you would feel and what is the fear you have about not attracting a relationship
or not attracting money?
Well then maybe I wouldn't be, I'm abundant.
And then what would happen if I wasn't abundant?
I wouldn't be able to, um, have enough.
Well then what would happen if I didn't have enough?
Then maybe I realize I'm not enough and then maybe I wouldn't be accepted by friends and
family.
And then what would happen if I didn't get accepted by friends and family?
Maybe it all gets tied back to I am not enough.
So we have this tabletop, which is the core belief of I am not enough, which most a lot
of people that if they're having trouble finding and attracting love, it may be there's that
subconscious belief that says I'm not enough.
Now what you'll notice is that each of the legs of a core belief are rooted, are rooted
in a reference experience.
Something that happened in the past now for example, does that happen in the past?
There's one experience that one time I was rejected, which for me there was one time
when I was rejected more than once, but that time that I was rejected was that the first
time that it was really memorable was when I was like 11 to 13 years old.
Um, I think I was 13 because it was like this teenager party at this parks and rec place.
And what I did is that we were allowed to go to the school dance and I asked the 18
year old teacher to dance with me and she just kind of laughed and she wanted to dance
with someone else her age and she kind of passed me off to this other chick I did not
want to dance with and that made me faster rejected and I had this feeling I that then
started to wire in.
Maybe I'm not enough, maybe I'm not enough.
That was one rememorable experience.
I also had experiences that weren't even related to love experiences such as maybe my next
step ex step mom who is a verbally, physically, emotionally abusive, that really wired in,
Oh, Hey, you're not enough.
You'd barely deserve to go to school.
You barely deserve to eat.
So because I had those experiences, then that also helped, that also wired in.
I am not enough now.
There may be other experiences, but the key is to look through your memory bank.
Sometimes we've suppressed those memories, but start to ask your question, the question,
what is the reference experience that may have wired this meaning in this belief that
says, I am not enough?
Because at a certain time, twine, certain Twyman life, certain time in life something
happened and when that's something happened, we gave it a meaning and that meaning was
the core belief, the core story.
I'm not enough and then I'm not enough translated into other things in our life and that just
was an unquestioned belief that we had.
Now what you want to do is you want to write out whatever that core belief is for you and
then see the reference experiences that you've had that may have wired that in.
This is all unprocessed emotion.
It's all unprocessed emotion, meaning you felt it and it was something that was not
really understood from a certain perspective and therefore it kind of got, it was like
an unquestioned meaning that then got integrated.
So we have these unprocessed emotion as these different legs.
Now the key to this process of what I'm sharing with you today is becoming aware of your subconscious
story.
About love and what it takes for you to be loved, what rules you have about when you'll
know you're loved.
Cause I'll tell you what, the harder you make the rules, the less likely you are to feel
love.
And remember what I'm talking about, attracting love.
It's about you putting that love first, feeling the emotion within you first by loving yourself
and then finding someone else that is also able to love you as well.
Plus making your story really easy for people to to like I, it's easy for me to attract
love into my life.
It's easy for me to exude love cause I am loved.
Those are very easy rules that we can have.
But if we're like it's very hard to attract love and I would only feel love when other
people have said to me, I love you Heron, I love you Aaron.
And then when you say that enough then I'll finally feel it and then you have to buy me
nice gifts.
If you buy me like really nice gifts and you tell me you love me like three times a day
and then maybe I'll co I'll look at that and I'll think about it and then maybe I'll feel
love in.
The harder we make those rules, the less likely we are to feel love.
But if you make it really easy, it's like I feel love cause I really recognize that
within myself that I'm more so able to feel it.
You see?
But we have these unquestioned meanings and these unquestioned beliefs with us.
So here's the process.
How to change your subconscious story about love.
First off, find your core belief is that I'm not enough.
I am not worthy a lot.
I'll tell you right now, a lot of times most people have that limiting belief because we
grow up in a society where we're comparing ourselves to other people.
We're literally made to feel like we're not enough, cause then more better consumers.
The more we feel we're not enough, the better we're going to buy, the more we're going to
buy stuff.
And that's just the way we've been primed from a cultural standpoint.
So when we realized these things and we realize that we have these core beliefs that the Disney
movies, then we start to realize these things and realize that we've been primed in a way
prime to give up the dime, to give up the dime, to give up the money so that we become
even more worthy.
And that's just the way it is.
That's the way we've been programmed.
But we can question these things and that's the part of this process.
Find your core belief.
Find the reference experiences that may have wired that in and start to ask yourself the
question.
Now.
The first step is always awareness.
What does that subconscious story bring?
The subconscious out of the dark and into the light?
You do that with asking questions.
What would this belief be?
What would I believe to be true, to be having this kind of experience?
Understand that the way it works as well is first we have a belief and a meaning or a
story.
Then we have an emotion.
Then we have that of the action we take.
And then we get the result and then that fuels the story.
So emotions come as a result of meaning.
I just felt like Sarah [inaudible] sharing that now.
So understand that the emotion we feel anytime we felt rejected, anytime we felt like we're
not worthy or I feel like I'm shame, guilt, those come from some story, some meaning of
something that happened in the past.
And the key to this is having the awareness.
And then secondly is once you become aware of these little reference experiences of some
of them, you can then start to doubt them.
You can start to doubt them.
You can start to look at the story in a different way.
You can start to question those experiences.
And here's the thing too, that neuroscience shows us every time we remember a memory from
the past, we change it a little bit before we put it back in our memory bank.
So by the time we've thought about something hundreds of times, sometimes thousands of
times, it's a completely different memory that has been over overlaid with the story
over and over again until it's completely changed because of the narrative we put on
it.
So for example, that one time I was rejected.
What actually happened?
Let's look at that.
You could separate the story from what actually happened.
Well, what happened?
I asked some girl to dance with me and she said, no, that's what happened.
That's it.
I asked a girl to dance with me.
She said, no.
Now the story is I went up to this girl, she was 18 years old and I thought she was going
to like me and I asked her to dance with me and she sent me to somebody I did not want
to dance with.
That's all a story.
What actually happened?
I asked to dance with the girl.
She said, no.
Now the story is emotionally charged.
What happened is not emotionally charged when you're able to see and doubt the old story.
And I could even add a different story to what maybe she was having a bad day or maybe
she, I was just too much of a 13 year old stud and she was just worried and like not
confident around me cause I was so confident as a little 13 year old guy.
Maybe that was it.
Right?
But when you start to see it from a different perspective, it starts to doubt it.
You start to relate to it in a new way.
Also, you can have fun with it.
That's why I'm kind of saying it in his fun, lightweight.
Maybe I was just, she was just, I dunno, I could, I could go all day with, with coming
up with little creative things about it.
But in general the idea is that then you're able to see it in a different way.
You're able to relate to it in a different way and you're able to doubt these different
reference experiences.
One thing with my ex step mom, I realized that she was treated the same way from her
dad when she was a kid.
And that's the only way she thought she could feel powerful.
So I could imagine it like she's um, you know, like tearing down people's sandcastles.
She's going around like I'd make a case out of council and she would read it like this
and just kick it like, like this, and then I'd feel sad.
You see?
So it's like I'm able to see it in a funnier way.
It didn't relate to it a different way, but really she was just afraid because she didn't
want other people to build really nice Sam castles.
And she felt kind of threatened if somebody did have good sand castles.
So that's why she tore down people sand castles.
You see, that's a metaphor.
But that's the idea as the idea is you're able to see them and then doubt them and kind
of relate to them a new way.
So it's awareness than doubt.
And then the third step to changing your subconscious story about love or really anything is reframing
it with your new identity reframe.
So that was the reframe.
See in a new way and seeing that these couple of reference experiences that built up this
core belief, it's only a couple.
Many times if you look through your past about love, you can find many exceptions or many
instances where you were actually loved.
I have other experiences when I went up to someone and I asked them out, they said yes,
but y'all focus on that deal yet because they've got these core beliefs is I'm not enough.
You see, so the key is then focusing on these other part.
That's something I found actually helps as well.
A scenes is seeing some of these old belief as the old identity as an old identity and
seeing that as the old way of going about things and you start to relate to it in a
different way.
It's like, Oh, that was like AA run a Ron was sad of it.
People would kicked out his sandcastle.
A rod got rejected by that 18 year old that one time.
Who was afraid that he was going to, that he was just so confident.
You see that's a story though.
I'm not saying necessarily the best thing to do is to build another story, but it's
to realize what happened to the story we tell ourselves about what happened.
You see, so this is a three step process to love and to really just hear if there's one
other thing I could tell you as well that really helps is, is understanding that you
are the star of your own movie.
You are the star of your own movie.
You're not the cameo.
The more you realize you are the star of your own movie, the more you show up in the world
as the star and the more that then people respond to you in that way, you would literally
are the star of your own movie.
And anytime it's been difficult for me to attract love into my life, it's because I'm
trying to be cameo in someone else's movie, not understanding that I am the star of my
own movie.
And you are the star of your own movie.
And that's also when you can make powerful choices.
You can make new choices about who you are.
And when you make these new choices, you find that then you feel empowered.
And when you also make choices and you're doing what you're passionate about for a living
and you make it a choice to just go for it and you focus on things like that, you'll
then be in a more powerful state.
So realize that we may have a subconscious story that we tell ourselves about who we
are and the subconscious story is running our life about love.
But what you can do is become aware of that subconscious story.
And as you become aware of that subconscious story, you then bringing out of the dark and
into the light, and then guess what?
You do whatever you want with it.
You can then choose a new story.
You can then be the best version of yourself and you can question those old beliefs about
love, that you have realized that anybody on the outside that loves you back, you're
giving yourself permission.
They're meeting a rule inside of you.
And then because they need that rule, then you give yourself permission to feel love.
But the love is inside you the whole entire time.
Now, if you haven't seen, there's a meditation I have where a lot of people have attracted
love based on listening to this meditation for 21 days.
It's in the top description box below.
Uh, read the comments just to see what's possible.
Other than that, hope you enjoyed this video piece for schlub and Nama stay.