- Has he stopped making the effort,
looks like he doesn't care?
Never texts you first
and is showing disinterest in your life?
Well, you come to the right place.
As in this video, I will share with you
the best eight high-value ways
of how to get a man to pursue you.
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My dear ladies, I asked my followers and clients,
out of all the high-value advise that I give on my channel
on how to get a man to chase and pursue you,
Which tip has worked for you the best?
Well, I received many, many answers
but I could not put them all in one video,
it just would be too long.
Yes I picked out the eight most-powerful ways.
So here comes the first one.
Being feminine.
So this step comes from, let's call her lady number one.
"Leaning back, giving the man space by not
over-texting, oversharing, and just receiving
and being feminine, they pursue you."
The lady number two said, "Leaning back,
but receiving him lovingly always and vocally
letting him know I appreciate him.
Showing him I have my own life,
allowing him to initiate contact 85% of the time
in the beginning at about 80% of the time now.
We are a little over a year in, so far so good."
Fantastic.
Now my queens, both of these ladies are exactly right.
It is not your place to pursue a man.
By pursuing him you are acting masculine
and automatically turning him off.
Therefore, stay in your feminine and let him come to you.
And when he does be receptive and happy
so it encourages him to do it more often.
Number two, let him feel as he can be himself
and do not try to change him.
Let's see what lady has to say.
"The way I communicate, talk and listen,
without making them feel negatively judged,
telling what I don't like at the same time.
Positive and relaxing vibes because I can live without him."
Ladies this is a very, very important point.
If you want a man to want to share with you his thoughts
and secrets, when he does, do not judge him.
Accept him for who he is.
Do not try to change him, that is not your job.
Because as soon as you will start to sound judging
in the conversations, he will either stop sharing
or will start lying.
If you can't accept him for who he is
then it's time to let him go
as it's not your place to change him.
The more accepted that he will feel
the more he will come your way.
Number three on how to get a man to pursue you is honesty.
Let's see another comment here.
"I think men also appreciate the women who act
with a little integrity, ethics, dignity, is honest.
Honest yet doesn't reveal all her cards on a plate."
Ladies I absolutely love this.
The point I would like to make here is being honest
and wearing your heart on a sleeve are two
very, very different things.
Being honest in a way but you are wise,
mature and logical makes a man value you.
Whereas wearing your heart on a sleeve
in a naive and emotional way
makes a man to lose value in you.
These are two very different things
that people mix up all the time.
Therefore, please watch my video right here,
why you should not tell him how you feel.
Number four, having your own character
and not trying to please him in order for him to like you.
Let's hear it from the other girl.
"When I have my own opinions about things
and don't agree with everything for being more nice or kind
or the same personality as him.
Saying yes to everything and not showing
your true personality is boring.
Some differences are very interesting
and more mysterious I guess.
Also it shows strength."
Ladies I could not agree more.
When you are a people pleaser you are scared
to show your character as you think the you
will be judged or that your opinion or character
is not good enough or valid to the other person.
So by people pleasing you are undervaluing yourself.
When you undervalue yourself other people
stop seeing value in you and start
to take you for granted.
Whereas having a character shows that you value
your own opinion and beliefs and are ready
to stand up for them which makes others
to value you too even if they disagree with you.
Number five, not taking things personally,
controlling your emotions and not letting
a man manipulate you.
Okay let's read the next one.
"Not emotionally reacting to words a man says.
It has made I feel my man so much more caring
as he opens up more and makes it a point
to make sure my needs are met.
Never have in my 42 years has a man made me feel this way."
Now, ladies, this is why this point really works.
By not reacting emotionally when he says something
that is offensive or rude you are showing
that I'm better than this
and you won't be able to manipulate me
or drag me into your drama.
It is not worth my energy.
And the drama is not valid for me.
When you don't validate the negative behavior
by reacting to it, you are showing that you do not care
about his negativity, which gives him a little bit
of uncertainty and makes him step it up.
Number six, being happy for his own personal growth
and supporting him and his goals.
"Living my own life and allowing him to have his own.
In fact, the more encouraging I was for him to do
his own thing, the more affectionate and pursuing
he became and actually asked me out more."
Now this is why it works.
By supporting his goals and dreams
you are showing that you are a secure and confident woman
who wants her guy to be happy.
Also you're showing that you trust him
and are not intimidated by him, which is very attractive.
Number seven, focusing on your own life and not a man.
Another lady says, "Having lots of plans in place
with friends and when I signed up to a 28-mile
running challenge and did a fundraiser,
he asked if he could do it with me
and then donated a large amount anonymously.
I know it was him.
He loves that I have a life."
The other lady says, "Honestly whenever I'm deeply focused
on my own life being in a good mood, high vibes,
plus not chasing always attracts positive reaction
and pursuit from a guy.
Whereas if I was being a bit needy, complaining,
gets me breadcrumbs and actually just enjoying
my own presence makes me feel the most happy
with or without a guy.
But the happier I am, the more I attract
so it's a win-win."
Ladies, when you live a meaningful life and embrace it,
when he is with you he gets to share your happiness
in your life.
When you give you a life away for a guy,
because you start to put him first everywhere
you start to lose yourself.
And therefore he starts to lose interest in you too.
And here comes the number eight.
Ladies, we would not be able to go without this one.
"Being unapologetic about your desires and standards
and set boundaries even if
they don't like them in the beginning."
This is a very important point
because boundaries are a must in any relationship.
Families, friendships, even with pets we need boundaries.
Boundaries show self-respect, and value
as there is no love without respect.
Learning to set boundaries in any relationship is a must.
And how to do that, I have a different video
the you can find us by following the link right here.
So ladies, these are my, our, eight higher-value tips
and how to get a man to pursue you.
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Thank you for watching, my queens.
Kisses from Dorset.