I think this whole reframe is really it's kind of it's not just about
labeling and whatnot it's about this idea of like a challenge
is is often something we we interpret as an issue which has kind of come to us
from a third party it might not have been something we've caused ourselves
and for me that is the blame game and I think that is just the most
disempowering thing that we can we can do is to blame anyone for anything that
ever happens blaming the economy blaming you know a competitor blaming you know a
friend for stabbing you in the back or whatever it might be if we can get to a
place where actually no matter what the circumstances that we find ourself in
I've created that then actually you you know you regain your power and that
means when I win I'm responsible when I fail I'm responsible when the things
that when the whole world is kind of against me if you like things aren't
going I wanted them to be I'm absolutely responsible for that and
it's about that kind of acceptance of the way in which things are being manned
and you kind of being okay with that and it's this kind of concept of being at
the source of your life like what do you what do you mean by that explain expound
on that like everything in in my life in your life is something that we have
created ourselves whether we're necessarily aware of it or not it
whether it be the people we've attracted into our lives whether it be the fact
that you're sitting on this stage right now the fact that I'm sitting here and
everything has been a function of small decisions we've made people we've you
know surrounded ourselves by the decisions we haven't made the things
we've avoided doing absolutely everything is a creation of of what
we've walked down with manifested it and when we really get present to that and
appreciate that it's the most empowering thing when I first started looking at
this idea of you know you know it when I first start they
can't the idea of life me being responsible for everything the initial
idea was actually a little bit scary disempowering I'm like how on earth did
I create the fact that you know a competitor has done this you know or how
how on earth did I create the fact that someone who weren't hired in my team who
I thought was gonna be an amazing manager you know turned out not to
deliver what I wanted but rather than looking for reasons to explain why it's
my responsibility if I moved to a place of it is my responsibility and look from
there I can start to see like I hired people in my executive team a few years
ago who I didn't know at the time but they were yes people and where I was a
few years ago was you know if people were challenging the way I was thinking
the way that I was bored in my business then I would find that a little bit
uncomfortable and so as a result that manifests itself as you know I might be
interviewing various people for a role wouldn't the vibes not right with this
chat you know but for this other chap who you know I feel like they're the
right kind of fit but that was just energetically I didn't feel as perhaps
threatened or something like that and that that was very very present for me
in a few of the hires that I made over over the past years but then and so in
that way I manifest the fact that I had an ineffective executive team around me
and by taking control of that it's incredibly disempowering to say
so-and-so's not performing well because how can I control their behavior I can
manage them I can try and you know work with them but I can't control their
behavior but if I say I've hired you know the wrong person I've attracted
someone here you know who I don't think is the right fit for me then I'm
empowered to make change in that space
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