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So let's learn about narcissists in this video and
how they teach you about who
they are from their body language.
So, did you know that what we say is
actually only 7% of our communication.
That's right.
Tone of voice is actually 38% of our communication and
body language is the other 55% of what we say.
So, when we are expressing ourselves, more than
half of what we say is coming from body language.
That means, when we are listening or watching narcissists,
they're saying a lot from their body language.
Alright. So, I've got six telltale signs.
So grab your notepad. Grab your pen.
You are not going to want to miss out on
these 6 telltale signs, and I'm going to do them
in reverse order, from number six, to number one,
so that you stay tuned all the way till the end.
Ready? Let's go. Number six.
They don’t look up, they don't look at you,
they have trouble while they're talking to you,
actually, looking at you.
Now, I know that a lot of you are from
other cultures, sometimes this is a cultural thing so,
you have to take into account different cultures,
sometimes, it's actually disrespectful to
look at people in the eye, depending on
the culture that they're in,
so, do take that into account as well.
Sometimes, people are fearful of others as well,
so you do have to kind of look at this as a whole,
before all the haters come rushing in,
just make sure that you do understand that
you do have to look at this as a whole.
So, that's number six.
You ready for number five?
They’re kind of desinterested in meeting new people
they can't get themselves to get up off the couch,
they can't get themselves to come over
unless the person can do something for them.
Then, maybe they're animated, right?
They're in a situation where maybe
a new person comes into the room,
or maybe they come into the room and there's other
people there they haven't met before and
they just really don't want to meet new people
unless they can do something for them and
again, you have to kind of take
all of these as a whole, because, of course,
there are people out there that might
have social anxiety or, have other issues, right?
But, this is just kind of taken together, got it?
That's number five.
Number four is much more subtle.
I've been there, I have I felt this.
There's this silent resentment when
their target, that person that they’re with,
that person might be your spouse,
it might be your business partner,
it might be anyone.
But, the one who's like that target,
the person that they're dealing with right now,
it's probably you who's watching,
because you're the one who's watching,
is interacting with other people.
So, you are in a social situation and
you're enjoying yourself, and
you're feeling that silent resentment,
they are so upset with you because you're having fun,
because you're talking to other people.
They cannot stand that you are interacting with others,
you know that later on you're going to pay for it.
This is the kind of thing that they do on holidays,
by the way,
I have a whole video on why narcissists ruin holidays.
If you want to check that out,
you can definitely check that out because
this is like one of the things and you just
kind of feel that underlying sort of seething, and
you might get these little like whips,
you might get these little like comments,
these little like subtle devaluing like,
why do you gotta go to do and say that,
or how come you're eating that way?
Or why do you look like that?
who are you talking to?
or they don't want to hear about that,
there's like these little things that are happening and
you feel this silent sort of resentment,
going on there, okay?
So, that's number four.
You ready for the next one? All right.
Just closed off, maybe folded arms,
maybe like sitting away from others,
maybe they're like facing the door,
they're just like disinterested and show others
that they're not interested in you.
I mean, a lot of times, by the way,
if you want to know
if an agreement is going to stick,
you should look to see how somebody is facing,
because if they're looking at you,
but, they're facing toward the door,
they're not necessarily engaged with you.
They might be kind of half out the door.
They might be sort of like not really
actually committing to whatever it is that
they may even be saying that are committing to, and
then down the road, you might find that
that agreement didn't actually hold together and
didn't actually stick and you're wondering why?
Because they said that they would and that's why,
because you didn't read the body language,
you didn't know to read the body language
that they weren't actually sticking.
So, if you see that they're closed off,
or you see that they're sitting and
facing away like that, that might show that
they're narcissistic or not engaged in the situation.
Okay, so that's the next one.
If I'm on track so far, and you've seen some of these,
give me an “On track” in the comments below.
All right, next one is,
I know you guys have seen this too,
I have definitely seen this from narcissistic people.
Thay say, “How did you come to have this happen to you?”
or “how is it going with your business?
whatever, and you start to answer them and
then they don't even listen for your answer,
halfway through the sentence and there are like off
doing something else, or they see someone else,
they don't even say excuse me, they leave,
they start looking at their phone and
they're not engaged, like
they don't even care enough to hear
the rest of what you're saying and
maybe a better source of supply came along,
or whatever, and there you are,
you just sort of like, yeah, well, nevermind and
that's another one.
They're just kind of like inconsiderate,
especially, if a better source of supply comes along.
So, that's the next one and,
if you want to know what number one is
you got to make sure you stay ready.
Ready for number one?
They keep a distance,
they actually have more physical proximity
than others do in conversation and again,
sort of the trouble with making eye contact,
you do want to take into account different countries,
different cultures, because obviously certain cultures,
stand closer than others.
So, you do want to think about that.
But, if you are in the same culture and
you kind of know what the social norms are
in your particular culture,
narcissistic people do tend to stand a little
further away from each other, than other people do.
So, those are some telltale signs of narcissistic body language.
If you have some others,
dropped them in the comments below.
I'd love to know what other ones you guys have seen.
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