- Aside from the names that he calls you,
he's also called you a bad Mom, so tell us about that.
- I don't just call her a bad Mom.
Like if I say something like that,
I'll be like, "You're acting like a bad Mom.
"You're being a" like not to--
- [Raneisha] No, you've literally been like--
- I'll tell her like, what she needs to work on like--
- Well what are some of the things that--
(audience laughs)
- You tell your Mom what she needs to work on.
- Okay, but let's here him out.
Let's hear him out, he might have some--
- Hold on y'all, hold on, hold on.
Let's hear from Devaughan.
- She'll have me like, and she'll go with her boyfriend,
and I'll have to like watch my little brother
for like the whole day, or like a couple days,
and then like I tell her like--
- Pause, first of all,
I'm beggin' him to watch-- - Hold on, hold on, hold,
Raneisha, - I'm beggin' him
to watch his brother. - Reneisha, look (stutters).
(audience laughs)
Y'all not gon' argue with each other,
we' gon' try to face the truth today, okay?
Alright, alright, now Devaughan,
finish answering Doctor Judy's question.
- Okay, I'll be watching my little brothers and like,
I tell her like, maybe you should like start watching them,
or like be in their lives more,
like since she wasn't in mine that much,
like you was around but you wasn't like just raising me.
- Devaughan, that was mean.
Right? - How do you feel,
Raneisha, when you hear Devaughan say those things?
- I feel really bad, 'cause I'm already like
trying to raise him, like I said I was young,
you know, we grew up together,
but then when he says things like this,
and I'm like, Devaughan, like I'm always there for you,
I did everything to make you you know,
push yourself to your goals,
to the best ability you could be,
like I done everything, so why do you call me these names?
- Devaughan, do you feel that your Mom maybe
was there throughout your life,
but she really wasn't present as a Mom,
is that what you mean?
- Yeah she was more like,
she was more like my older sister if anything.
I wanted her to be like my Mom,
but that's basically what my great grandmother was doin'.
- But Raneisha, we know you had Devaughan at 16,
so tell us what that has been like for you,
and how maybe that's impacted
your relationship with Devaughan?
- Okay, well first of all, I had him at 16,
I wasn't of legal age, so I had to stay with my grandparents
because my Mom didn't raise me.
I had to stay with my grandparents until basically I was 18,
and the reason why I didn't have him
is because my grandparents called CPS on me
when I was trying to take him out the house
when I had just turned 18, and it was like
this whole big ordeal 'cause they said I was smokin'
and stuff like that, not around him or anything like that,
but just the fact. - But you were smoking?
- Yeah I did smoke.
- Smoking marijuana?
- [Rameisha] Mh-hmm, yeah.
- Okay, every day?
- Yeah.
- Okay, kind of a problem, keep going.
- Okay, well so basically they kind of like
deboed him from me, but I was like always trying to be there
so I was there, like I said,
I was at every event, I put up with every
sport event. - Did they get legal custody?
- Baseball, basketball, football, I was there,
I put him there, I took him to practice, everything.
You know what I mean so--
- Devaughan, do you recognize your Mom being there
for all your games, and the practices?
- I recognize my great grandpa
taking me to my football practices,
and I remember them paying for my football and baseball too.
Like she helped too, but I remember them
doing a lot of the stuff too.
- Well can you maybe be a little more empathetic,
since she's acknowledging that she didn't have
a Mom in her life, her grandparents may be
a tough relationship.
- When I try to help her like, if I try to like
correct her on something she do wrong,
she get defen, like she'll get like real--
- Well Devaughan,
you can't be correcting your mama.
(audience laughs) That ain't how it goes.
- If I don't correct it, and she don't see it,
then who gonna correct it?
It never gonna change, right?
Like last night for instance,
I was on FaceTime with this girl,
and she just in the phone like,
"Who is that, who is that, who is that?"
(audience laughs) I'm just like, chill.
- [Areva] That's what mothers do.
- Mothers do that all the time, Devaughan.
- Like I'm asking like why does it matter,
like what's it-- - Because she's my prod.
- In your life.
- I get mad because he says, "Why does it matter?"
I'm like, because I wanna know who you're on the phone with
at 4:00 in the morning. - Yes, and that's actually--
- Oh oh oh oh!
- It was 4:00 in the morning.
- You conveniently left that part out.
- It was 4:00 in the morning D.C time,
so it was like 1:00 in the morning--
- That's still 1:00 California time.
Okay what you doin' on the phone with somebody
in D.C at 4:00 am?
- Yeah that's a lot.
- [Vivica] How old was she?
See now I'm talkin' like a Mom.
- She was--
- I actually have to say, Shaneisha,
that's a great example of good parenting,
that you're monitoring your son.
- Thank you. - Making sure you know
what he's up to.
- And you said, Devaughan, you want a mother,
that's what mothers do.