How not to feel empty
For unknown reasons it seems that each and every single one of us is born into this world with a hole
For many of us it's located around this area
And sometimes even this area
Nobody really teaches us how to deal with this holes so we often find ourselves just trying to fill it
Because that's what you do with holes right ?
We turn to various vices out there: food, sex, drugs, porn, alcohols, smoking, we buy things like nice clothes, a nice car, a bigger TV, a newer phone
But the thing about this hole is that whatever you're filling with
You wake up the next day and the hole's empty again.
Whatever you stuffed in falls right out
And all you left with is an empty feeling, it's the same feeling you get when you watch the entire season of Game of Thrones in one sitting.
A feeling that you're still missing something
Now have some good news and bad news for you
The bad news is that the hole is always gonna be there, it's part of the human experience
It's what separates us from all the other animals out there
It's not going away
The good news however is that the empty feeling that usually comes along with this hole
came change in size.
And by doing certain things you can make that feeling shrink to the point where you barely notice it
So here are the 3 solutions to dealing with that empty feeling
Number one: we focus so much attention on this hole
We spend so much money and so much time or we dedicate so much energy into filling this hole
We forget about the rest of our body and even our mind
The first solution to not feeling empty is to focus your time and energy on improving yourself.
I know it sounds fucking "cliché" but the fact to the matter is this hole is not going anywhere.
It's never going to close up, it's not going to change
However, this doesn't mean that the rest of your body doesn't change
If you neglect the rest of your body, let yourself get fat, refuse to exercise, stuff it with drugs and alcohol
I guarantee you, you won't only be feeling like crap because of that empty feeling
You're also going to be feeling like crap because you're destroying your body
And then guess what? You're gonna associate this crappy feeling with the hole
You're gonna say "man, screw that empty feeling, it makes me feel like absolute crap"
But in reality the manner of suffering the hole actually brings you is way less than the suffering you damaged body is.
Learn about fitness, learn about nutrition, learn about good sleep habits
The information is all out there for free, just Google it
The second way to deal with this hole is to create something
Creating comes in many different forms such as art, music, writing, dancing, working on whatever project you're interested in
Hell it can even be working on your fidget spinner tricks
When you create, the focus is no longer on that hole of yours
The focus is now on something outside of your body
The next time you get bit by a mosquito
I want you to pay close attention to your body
If you're focusing enough on the bite, the itch should feels unbearably itchy
But if something is happening around you, like for example let's say you're at the movie's or you're on the middle of a date
the itch will quickly fade away.
By redirecting your focus, that itch literally weakened.
The same applies for that empty feeling, redirect your focus onto your crafts and that empty feeling will fade into the background.
Another great thing about creating, no matter what shape of form your craft is,
is that the next day when you wake up, it's still gonna be there
It doesn't get pissed out like alcohol and drugs does,
your creation is still there, waiting for you to work on it.
You know what, I'll be honest, I used to feel empty all of the time in the past,
I used to just lay in bed, focusing on that feeling and basically complaining in my own mind for hours about it.
But once I started to work on the various projects that now have going on,
especially this channel,
I can proudly say that it's been over three years since that feeling was even a problem for me
The third and final thing you can do to deal with that pesky hole
is actually extremely powerful
But, only if you up, for the task : it's to meditate.
I preach about meditation so much on this channel
But I bet that 90% of you still don't do it.
Sucks for you, because you're really missing out.
When you meditate, all you do is sit down and basically do nothing except observe your own body,
and this often leaves you face to face with that feeling of emptiness
That's why people have an extremely hard time getting into the habit of meditation.
Because it's not comfortable, facing the feeling of emptiness, head on it's the last thing we want to do
All we want to do is run away from it and fill it with our vices.
But, when you sit down, meditate and face it head on, something very interesting happens :
you realise that the feeling is not that bad,
one of the big reason why we dread that feeling of emptiness is because we tell ourselves
"it's not a good thing to have", we tell ourselves that "it's a disease"
that there's something wrong with me, and when you think about it this way,
you feel worse, you feel much worse.
Meditation is all about just looking at it and thinking :
"hmm, it's a.. it's an interesting little feeling"
Funny enough when you meditate constantly for a long period of time,
it's possible for you to even enjoy the feeling, imagine that !
Each, and every single one of us is born into this world with that pesky little hole.
Sadly for most people they never really learn how to deal with it,
and they spend their entire life, trying to fill it with little to no-success.
I hope this video gave you guys some insight on how to deal with this universal human annoyance.
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