Hey, everybody. Happy Thursday! And since it's Thursday here
I actually have a bunch of different things to talk about today. Um
So let's get going, right? The first thing is, um
I've started to think that our community is growing and I know that a lot of you help each other like in the comments
You talk amongst yourselves on um
"Katimorton.com" my website, you do the same, and you really help each other and I was thinking
"What should we call ourselves as a community?" You know like um
Miranda Sings has Mirfandas and Pewdiepie has the Bros and
You know Hannah Hart has the Hartosexuals., hart-os-exuals, um
So, what should we call ourselves?
I don't know, I wish minions wasn't copyrighted. I was talking to Carly about this on Twitter. I wish Minions had not
been so popular. But then maybe we wouldn't have talked about minions anyways....
I don't know, but let me know, leave it in the comments.
Are there any ideas, any cute catchy things that we think would be cool as a community to call ourselves?
Because I think it would be cool to
have that and then when we do meet ups we get together and we do things, we have a name for it.
Maybe I'll make t-shirts, hey! And there are new t-shirts on my spreadshirt thing
I haven't put the ones up for the men yet so stay tuned for that but, I'm putting those together as well.
I'm trying to make them a little more
something that I would want to wear that's not just the tree. um
with fun sayings and things like that so check them out let me know what you think.
Okay so that was my first thing. Now the question that I'm going to answer today,
and I've kind of like doing one
question each, because then I get to really talk about it kind of like the olden days when I just rambled on and on and
on and on and on....you get the idea. Okay, so the first question and only question is:
"Hey, Kati, is it normal for things such as depression, anxiety, et cetera to sort of come and go? Like sometimes
they're so bad you really can't function at all and other times
it's like they barely exist. Also is it normal for my self harm to improve
my mood so that I can't even really remember the issue?
I found that sometimes I have a week that I feel okay
but then I look back and I have self-harmed everyday that week, and I think that's why my week was okay.Does that make sense?
Thanks." [End question]
I want to talk about this for two reasons because it touches on two different things that a lot of people struggle with.
Number one being, uummm,
depression/anxiety for those things to come and go.
And I think I may have talked about this in the past. I've talked about a lot of things you guys, but it's definitely
normal. That's honestly why depression/anxiety all that stuff, well
I guess mainly depression, but all of those feelings that come along with depression which can be even like an anxious feeling um
is under "mood disorders" and our mood can shift and our mood can change and
some days can feel better than others and some worse and so on because different things are going on at different times and everyone
experiences that. I even, as a person who doesn't struggle with depression,
have good days and bad days. And so, you have to always, I find this as always an issue, Is that people think that "okay
Well this person," or if you're talking to yourself you're like, "I have a mental illness therefore
I have no other normal baseline."
But that's wrong because even though you have a mental illness, let's say you struggle with depression,
you're still going to have the normal person ups and downs and good days and bad days. Yours may just be
amplified by the fact that you struggle with depression. And so taking that into consideration and thinking well do other people have this and like
did they talk about it coming and going? Like does my
best friend have good days and bad days? Or is it normal for some people to feel really good and then feel really bad?
And the answer is yes,. It varies day to day, moment to moment, okay?
Second part of this question and another reason why I thought it was really cool to answer it is
Is it normal for my self harm to improve my mood, so I can barely remember the issue? Uh
Yeah, hello. It's a coping skill. I don't mean that is like a duh, but
that's the truth. That's what we talk about all the time.
I think often people forget that we use things that are unhealthy like drugs, alcohol, self-harm, eating disorders,
exercise to the max like over exercising, obviously some exercise is good, but
we use those things as
coping skills and
they're detrimental to us, but they help in the moment.
Sometimes they don't even help anymore, and they're still hanging around. We're like why the fuck are you still here? But it's definitely
there for a reason. It serves a purpose and for you, whoever asked this question, um it improves your mood
and it makes you don't even remember the issue.
Tada! Coping skill is working, but you really don't like it.
And that's why we have to replace our eating disorders, our self-harm, our alcoholism, whatever it is.
Why it's so important to replace it with a healthy one and yes it may take like ten healthy ones to even
barely get to the point where you're like okay; I can tolerate it. I can tolerate the feelings, the emotions, the issue.
Where it only takes you know cutting once. I know that it doesn't always equate like one to one,
but know that it's worth the fight.
Do you want to be self harming your whole life, trying to hide your scars, trying to hide it from people?
It ends up not really being a good thing for us and so, of course it can help in the moment.
But let's think long-term.
Let's try to replace it with other health, healthy coping skills. Aand if you haven't checked it out on my website "katimorton.com"
I have a free self-harm workbook and if any of you had trouble downloading it,
I know a lot of times it gets into junk folders, or it doesn't come through
I'm not sure why some of you have trouble and others don't, but you can always let me know in the comments
and I will correct it on my side, and shoot it back out to you. Okay? I love you all
I will see you on Saturday with the journal topic and thanks for everybody sending those to me
And then I'm on my way, we'll see you Monday, but then I'm heading up North to the northwest
So if you're gonna be at Vlogger Fair, I can't wait to meet you. Talk to you soon. Bye!