are some of the traits
that you actually respect in other men
and are traits that
will benefit your life by developing.
These are the traits
emotionally healthy high-value women
one, he communicates.
Lord knows women want to talk about it,
but here's the thing.
This benefits you too
because a man who can learn how to communicate
his needs and desires
is more likely to get them meat.
Because unlike many women like to think
we're not actually mind readers
ladies stop assuming
you're not a very good mind reader.
And here's what happens,
yes, women are typically more intuitive
and pick up on subtle signs
we speak a thousand shades of hints
I've said that many times,
but we’re not always right.
What did a woman just say
women are not always right?
Yup, yup, yup she did
because men and women are different
we always expect other people to be like us
women often mistakenly think
that men are just hairy women
and they're going to pick up on little signs.
But you don't so what that means
is we need you to communicate
clearly, lovingly, kindly, and effectively.
So, a man who can communicate
his needs and desires openly is highly attractive.
Key point sharing your needs, desires,
and feelings is not beta.
In fact, it takes a lot of courage
and even further sharing your feelings
can save you from building up
feelings of resentment
and or inadvertently becoming beta
by suppressing your needs and desires
whoa, yeah, exactly.
Now, this is not the same as being needy
or insecure or overly attached
and needing to have her validate
your every thought feeling or action,
which brings us to the next feature
all women want in a man.
Resourcefulness listen carefully
there’s a big difference between
having resources like money
and being resourceful
the ability to put food on the table
even when the chips are down
hmm, interesting.
Now, the reason why wealth,
which a lot of you focus on
is a proof to women of resourcefulness
is because it often takes resourcefulness
capability and effectiveness
to acquire those resources.
So, it's just simply an obvious proof
of resourcefulness, make sense?
And a man who has resources
can keep a roof over his head
and her head and their families
as long as those resources are available.
But not all men who have money
actually had to be effective and capable to get it.
So, what's even better
for any man to be able to prove
is his ability to put food on the table
no matter what resourcefulness
that means that he's able to figure out
how to feed his family no matter what.
But there are other ways to prove resourcefulness
that women appreciate example,
whether you're with her
or you're dating or flirting or what have you
let's say an unexpected bill comes in
that is beyond the budget.
You don't become needy, insecure,
or afraid in that situation,
you become resourceful.
Maybe you pick up some extra hours at work
if you’re dating you even say that
had an unexpected bill
can't see you this weekend
I’m picking up some extra hours at work.
Now, she may be disappointed in the moment,
but she'll appreciate that you’re responsible
and being resourceful in being able to pay the bills.
You will not become a needy dependent child
in the relationship,
same if you're already in a relationship.
Or maybe you create that side hustle
that does make you some extra money
or if it's a proof about health and fitness
you can't afford to go to the gym anymore
it's closed because of covid.
So instead, you go to the local jungle gym
and work out outside.
Resourceful, finding other solutions to problems
remember the got junk story
that guy was homeless I’m sorry I forgot his name
but he turned an idea into a hustle
that became huge hugely successful.
He got creative
resourcefulness takes creativity.
It's basically about solving problems
since she, bottom line she needs to know
she doesn't have to take care of you
if things go sideways.
That's not the same as not being supportive.
She has to be supportive
but she doesn't want to be the mother in the relationship
no, no es bueno.
And in order to have resourcefulness
you're going to need a heck lot of the next quality
which is internal strength.
Now, while physical strength
is great for protecting her
against the zombie apocalypse,
in today's world
maybe it’s more important
to be able to protect her
from the stresses of life.
Now, she's got to manage her own stresses too,
but if you can help by not creating weakness
or being weak when she then has to worry about you
then that's going to allow her to feel safe
and be more in her feminine
and be more available for the feminine things
you appreciate in the relationship
wink, wink, nudge, nudge.
So, inner strength is that gumption
that makes you step up and do what you must do
when you should do it whether you like it or not.
That's actually a Brian Tracy quote
it's actually about not fighting the guy
who’s being antagonistic but is super drunk
and it's just going to lead to a wallop of trouble
even though you know you could kick his butt.
It's when you don't let her emotions trigger you,
but instead, you remain calm, cool, and collected
that takes a lot of strength.
Some may call this stoicism or being stoic
I believe you need to have strength to be stoic.
Now, a little side note
if you are feeling a lack of mental,
physical, or emotional strength
your hormones may be off
and you might want to get your testosterone checked.
And I will put a link in a card
and below the video and over on my website
so you can get that checked.
Basically strong is a man who doesn’t break easily
as I've said many times,
women's primary need is to feel safe
emotionally, physically, mentally the works
and right now we're living
in especially turbulent times
where she appreciates this
even more in your strength is so important.
So, when the world feels unsafe for her
she needs to be able to know at the core of her
that she can lean on your strength
in times of trouble
and yes you will lean on her as well
when things are difficult.
So, remember we’re talking about high value women
not damsels in distress
who are going to suck the life out of you
for your strength.
So, this brings us to the next quality
that's a bit of a shocking one for a lot of men
because they associate it
with weakness and betaness
and it is vulnerability.
What? I know I told you it's a shocking one.
Believe it or not vulnerability
is attractive to women
if it's presented in the right way
at the right time.
In fact, if a man can show vulnerability
on a backdrop of strength and resourcefulness
that can be a major turn on for women
don't believe me know this stat
while this isn't true for men it's true for women.
One of the things that turn a woman on
and prep her for wink, wink, nudge, nudge
is watching her man play with their kids
genuinely enjoying it.
Now, guys you’re like what really
of course it doesn’t make sense to you
because it doesn’t work the other way around
you don't get turned on
when she's playing with the kids
or attending to their needs or being nurturing
you appreciate that, you feel loving toward her
but it doesn't prep you for physical intimacy,
but it does for women.
So, that's a form of vulnerability
playing with the children here's some more, ready?
A strong man holding a baby tenderly
she'd be dripping
you'd be tripping she'd be dripping.
It's a true life story someone I know.
Okay, my ex-husband he'll kill me
if he ever knew that
this was being posted
okay he was rough and tough and hard to bluff.
He's a big strong contractor man.
He was a very tender man
in the ways that he would tear up
if he saw some act of genuine
selfless compassion, commercial, a movie
freak how many times did he
have a glistening eye
watching Conan the barbarian in certain scenes,
but it was balanced out
by his very overt masculinity
in all of the other ways.
So, he had a tender heart and even though I...
Okay, I’m really going to give it to you now
my nickname for him was Blinky
because if he saw something that moved him
touched his heart emotionally
he would start blinking away
because he didn’t want to show himself
being moved by it or being weak.
But it wasn't weak at all it was beautiful
he got a lot of loving, he got a lot loving.
So, it's all about the context
but if you're crying
because you're needy or insecure or attached
or co-dependent or not able to handle life
big difference.
Different source of emotions
that comes from weakness not from strength,
not from tenderness, not from compassion,
not from love.
Comes from self-loathing
not attractive big difference.
And again, if you used to be more assertive
and you've lost your assertiveness
and you’re not sure where it's gone or why
you may want to get your hormones checked
because this is one of the signs of low testosterone.
So, you definitely want to check in on that
because it can be fixed
not just through a prescription necessarily,
but there are behavioral and other ways
of balancing hormones.
And if you want to know
how to get back into your masculine frame
after exposing yourself
in the presence of your woman,
exposing your vulnerable self
in the presence of your woman,
then you want to watch my video
on how to balance masculinity
with emotions and vulnerability.
Now, speaking of exposing oneself
that will lead us to the juicy trait all women love
here is another example of vulnerability.
Vulnerability can be when you feel awkward,
uncomfortable and self-conscious
by asking her how you can better please her in bed
and actually listening without getting defensive
ohh, really? Yeah, really.
And that my friends brings us to the next trait,
a man's seduction skills.
Bow chick a wow wow.
Every woman wants her man
to be able to make her melt
and to make her want
and desire him physically, ***.
Even though we often talk about
women being seductresses
we also need our man to seduce us.
A man who can make his woman crave him
and lose her inhibitions
will have a woman who keeps coming back for more.
And as I've mentioned many times
the art of seduction starts right after her last O,
for a woman to be mentally and physically
ready for physical intimacy
she also needs to be mentally and emotionally ready.
And this will require
your assistance for best results.
For example, especially some of you guys
who've been in longer relationships
will probably relate to this.
If she's feeling stressed out
because she has a lot of things on her to-do list
that haven't gotten to done
she's not going to be mentally,
emotionally, or physically prepped for ***.
Now, how to help her get there
could be a whole other video. So, if you want that
write a comment.
But Anna, what about the *** at the bar?
I didn't do anything to get them
they were just ready to go.
Well, she prepped herself mentally,
emotionally, physically
by putting all that stuff on
before she went out, she was hoping to find someone
that wouldn't turn her off
so she could get turned on.
She primed her own
pump
well she doesn't have the pump,
you get what I mean though.
So, these are the features that women want
in a high value man
because you can spend all your time
looking for that elusive unicorn
an amazing woman
that meets enough of your criteria to consider,
but if she's high value
there's going to be high competition.
So, the more of these traits you have
the more of a chance you have to be with her.
And looking back on the traits
they're things that you appreciate
and respect in yourself if you can develop them.
And if you want to know what
some of the other traits are
that high value women need in men
or a man that she'll consider
you want to check out the videos
in my what makes a real man to her series.
All of the traits are things
that any man can develop.
And that every man will appreciate
developing in his life for himself.
Regardless of any woman
these traits will improve your life,
you will have higher satisfaction in life
even if you choose to stay single forever.
And again, for those of you
who feel a lack of strength,
a loss of libido, man boobs,
or a loss of assertiveness
then definitely get your testosterone checked.
Again, I've got a link that will take you to a site
where you can send in your lab,
you can do it from home and get your results
and then there’s lots of options
there's a way to fix it so get on it.
So, you can get on her
thanks for being here, God bless.
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