do you have a good life but for some strange reason you're just not satisfied
and you know it could be a lot better today I'm going to share with you why
that is keep watching this is life mastery gym I'm Damon Cart and I teach
people just like you cutting edge processes and techniques to help you
take charge of your destiny and create the life that you want to live if that
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these videos on a regular basis your bills are paid your family has
everything they need you have everything you need but for some reason it just
doesn't feel like enough now this does not mean that you're a bad person this
doesn't mean that you're a selfish person I've been there before and I've
made it through to the other side and I've also helped many of my clients do
the same thing find their way from an unsatisfying life to a deeply fulfilling
and extremely satisfying and happy life and that is what I'm going to share with
you in a moment by the end of this video you will know how to do this for
yourself and make sure you stay tuned until the end because I will show you a
way to take this even deeper with some free training what part of your life are
you most satisfied with and what part of your life are you least satisfied with
let me know in the comments below I'm genuinely curious about this we all want
to find our actual potential and fulfill it and we all want to find our true
selves but so many people in personal development and self-improvement and
self-help are faking it and it is even people who advocated with the this idea
of fake it until you make it I think this is actually at the heart of what
the problem is which I will address in a moment and I'm also going to give you a
definition that I think you'll find very useful for self actualization but first
let's talk about self esteem now I you didn't click on this video to learn
about self-esteem but I think it's super important and it's also very much
overlooked when it comes to self actualization actually it's self esteem
that acts as a compass in your self-actualization journey so it's super
important that we pay attention to this most people don't like to talk about
self-esteem and even more people are unwilling to admit that they lack
self-esteem let's get over this right now and let's
define it in a new way so that it doesn't sound like it's something you
learned about in junior high and that it has to do with people picking on you
this is a real problem that a lot of people deal with into adulthood
so basically what self esteem really is is it's how do you feel about yourself
are you satisfied with yourself or are you unsatisfied with yourself and when I
say this when I say yourself I also mean your life so are you
unsatisfied with your life or are you satisfied with your life because your
life and you yourself or one in the same there really are the same thing because
without you there is no life that you could possibly know of so how you feel
about your life has a lot to say about how you feel about yourself it's pretty
much the same thing so the first step is to discover what
part of yourself and life are you most satisfied with and what part of your
self and your life are you least satisfied with we all have both and if
you don't and you feel like you are 100% satisfied with all parts of yourself in
your lives then I would wonder why you're watching this video if you're
thinking Damon I'm not satisfied with any part of myself or my life I would
then want to question you more about that is that absolutely true is there
act is there absolutely no aspect of yourself and no aspect of your life that
you're satisfied with of course not of course there are some parts of you and
your life no matter how bad your life is or how bad you think you are there are
parts of yourself and your life that you are satisfied with and if you really
don't think that there is please come in in the
comment section below I will respond to you now I highly recommend that you
write this down write down take inventory all the aspects of yourself in
your life that you're most satisfied with and write them down and then take
inventory of all the parts of yourself in your life that you're not satisfied
with and write them down and then look at them and ask yourself what do they
have in common and what are the differences and again I would recommend
that you write down the commonalities and that you also write down the
differences between the two you might be thinking well they have
nothing in common that's why one is satisfying and one is unsatisfying to
which I would say that is simply not true
you will you can always find commonalities between the two if nothing
else there is one important commonality between what you're satisfied with and
what you're not satisfied with and that is you and this is actually very very
important to understand and last but not least just look at the parts that you're
satisfied with and write down what's common between all of the parts of your
life and yourself that you are satisfied with write those down and then look over
at just the column that are the parts of yourself in your life that you're
unsatisfied with and find all the commonalities between all of them and
write those down of course the final step is to start creating
generalizations about all the commonalities and all the differences of
all of these aspects of your life now you might be thinking wait a minute
Damon I was always told that I should not make generalizations and to a
certain extent I would agree with you that you want to be careful about what
you make generalizations about and who you make generalizations about because
some of them are can be really unfair however we constantly make
generalizations this is how we learn we take something we understand something
that's familiar and we apply it to the unknown it can be a very useful tool and
of course yes it could be a harmful tool but in this case what you're doing is
you're drawing out all the generalizations about what you're
satisfied with what you're not satisfied with within
yourself yes this is a generalization just simply labeling something some
aspect of your life as unsatisfying or satisfying you're making a
generalization right there when you elicit these generalizations that's when
you can start gaining control over this is if they're unconscious the program is
really running you these generalizations are running you because you don't know
what they are but if you make them conscious now you can change them so now
that you're conscious of the generalizations that you make about what
you're satisfied with in your life and in yourself and you also know now
consciously what are the generalizations you make about the areas of your life
and yourself that you're unsatisfied with what new generalizations can you
make what now is possible what new generalizations are possible now because
you simply know this and you understand this so much better than you did just a
few minutes ago what does this have to do with self actualization well when it
comes to self actualization you need to know where in your life and in yourself
or are you fulfilling your potential and where in your life is your potential
going unfulfilled the best clue you have to whether or not you are fulfilling
your potential is how satisfied and fulfilled you feel and even more so how
good is your self-esteem in that area and I'm talking about real self-esteem
I'm not talking about arrogance that's not real self-esteem it's how do you
genuinely feel in this area of your life how satisfying is it how fulfilled are
you that is the clue to whether or not you're fulfilling your potential in that
area and if you're not satisfied then you know you need to change something
and most of the time that takes action you can't just think it you actually
have to do something about it and action is what really engages us and
that action teaches us more so than anything else
experience teaches us more so than anything else and so when you put
yourself out there when you take an action and you get feedback
that will tell you a lot more than anything I could tell you or anything
that you could read so go back to the areas where you're not fulfilled and
look for the clues and you might be saying well what actions should I take
well that depends on what you're seeing there what when you go back over the
generalizations that you made and the clues the commonalities or the
differences go back over those those usually reveal the clues to what actions
you should be taking so now you understand where your more fulfilled in
life now you understand where you are fulfilling your potential how do you
take what you understand about that and move it into the areas where you're not
fulfilled that should give you some really good clues of the actions you can
take to become more fulfilled which is meaning you can you will be fulfilling
your potential in those areas which will create more fulfilment more satisfaction
and higher self-esteem so once again go back over what you just wrote out and
use that as a guide to fulfill your potential and go fulfill your potential
now you have a solid strategy for self actualizing but what you don't know yet
is how to elicit your highest values which are usually deeply unconscious and
when you're able to elicit those values you will achieve your highest potential
so that's why I created a four-part video series on how to do exactly that
and a lot more so there's a link in the description below and there's also a
link in the comments below when you click that link it will bring you to a
page where you can get immediate access to the first video and then you'll get a
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