- One of the things that I struggled with
in the beginning of my career was
that shiny object syndrome, right?
I was trying to learn this, trying to learn that,
and trying different ideas,
and everything sounds good, right?
You're reading a book from this person,
you're reading a book from that person,
and this person tells you to do this,
and the other person tells you to do that,
and sometimes in some cases
they have information that contradicts with each other.
So before I didn't know anything now I know more,
but I'm actually more confused (laughs) than ever.
Have you ever had this experience?
So is it okay to have more than one mentor?
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First of all let me define the idea,
the role of a mentor first of all.
When you're watching someone's video,
when you are following someone on social media
to me that is learning but that's not mentorship.
Mentorship is much more intimate.
It's much more special.
It's not just watching someone passively.
So to me that there are a lot of people
that you can learn from,
and I learned from a lot of people over the years.
I mean I read so many books and attend so many workshops,
and and every lunch and dinner,
and all these people that are business people
that I interact with I learned from them.
I hear their stories,
I hear their struggles,
I hear about the best practices.
However when it comes to mentoring,
when it comes to having a mentor
I've only had really not up to this point
in my life three mentors in my life.
First one his name is Alan.
Alan is my very first mentor.
He taught me marketing and copywriting writing.
Right if you've watched my video you know that.
Second and he has been my mentor since
I was 20 in my early 20s.
Gave me my opportunity, right?
To work for him for one year.
For next to nothing, Willie's working for free,
but I learned a tremendous amount from him,
and he gave me the opportunity.
He gave me a chance, right?
He believed in me when no one believed in me.
My second mentor Dan Pena The 50 Billion Dollar Man, right?
You might have seen him on YouTube.
In fact I'm going to visit him in Scotland
in a couple months and he was here,
if you saw my videos my interview with him.
So he's been my mentor for more than a decade now.
That's my second mentor,
and my third mentor my new mentor Mr. Dwayne, Dwayne Clark.
And Dwayne is a super super successful man
with great values and so that's my third mentor.
So really I learned from everybody,
but when it comes to selecting that right mentor
I'm very very selective.
I want to pick someone that
I could learn from for a long time,
because most people when they pick someone,
they see someone on YouTube,
they see someone on you social media,
I wanna learn from that person,
I wanna learn from that person.
Well, the problem with that approach is think
of it like martial art.
Imagine you are learning, you're taking a lesson
you wanna learn boxing this week.
Next week and you'll learn Brazilian jiu-jitsu,
and then the week after you learn Chinese kung fu,
and then the next month you'll learn something else,
you'll never get good at it.
You never never get good at anything because
you're jumping from one thing to another.
Make sense?
So in order to master something,
how do you become a master at something is
you need to study, under a master, being humble
for long period of time until you master
what this person knows.
So you think by jumping from one thing to another
that's speeds up the process it doesn't.
It doesn't.
If anything it prevents you from really tapping
into your potential.
So I believe you can learn from everybody,
you can read all kinds of books,
but when it comes to mentor if you found the right mentor,
it should be a mentor that you could stay,
and learn from for a long long time.
It shouldn't be jumping from one thing to another.
So I'm more subscribed to the philosophy
of finding a mentor that makes sense.
Finding a mentor that resonate with you.
Finding a mentor that shares the same values,
and when you found that person it's like relationship.
It's like hey you know what,
when do you know that's the one, right?
When do you know that's the person that
you want to spend the rest of your life with?
You know it when you find that person.
You know it when you know, when you hear,
your mentor speaks and shares his story,
and you're like that's the mentor
that I've been looking for.
That's the mentor I've been so so crave
and I've been seeking for a long long time.
When you find that person,
when you find that mentor,
you hang on to their mentor,
and you learn as much as you could,
and being humble, being able to add value.
So that's my recommendation.
Find one very very very good mentor,
and stay with that mentor for a long long time.
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you know I've been traveling a bit,
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