Hey, this is Mat Boggs and today I want to share with you three phrases that men love
to hear and one phrase we don’t love to hear.
You know, communication is the tool of every great relationship, so knowing how to trigger
attraction in men is a really vital skill.
So I want to tell you a quick story.
I’m driving in the car with my wife and we’re driving down the freeway and I see
this billboard with Jason Statham, one of my favorite action heroes on this billboard.
And I turn to my wife, I was like, “Hey, babe.
Check that out.
You see that Jason Statham?”
and she was like, “Um, yeah.
Who’s that?”
and I said, “Oh, he’s an action hero guy and I actually met that guy.”
And she was like, “Oh, wow.
Cool.”
I was like, “Yeah, you know what?
He’s my size, babe.”
And then she went, “He is tiny!”
I was like, “Tiny?
What?
Like are you –?” As soon as I was like, “What?” she was like, “No, no, no, no,
that’s not what I said.”
I was like, “No, no, no.
You said tiny.
Like you said the word ‘tiny.’
Like what?
What?
Tiny?
Like that’s what you think?
You think that I’m tiny?”
Let me tell you.
There’s one thing you never want to tell your man and that is that you think he’s
tiny, okay?
That’s not the word that triggers attraction in men.
And so immediately she starts backpedaling and I’m like, “Tiny.
Babe, let me just tell you.
I am 5’9”.
I know I’m not a super large man, but I am nine inches, nine long inches above five
feet tall, okay?
I’m not tiny.”
And immediately I started to get defensive because why?
As men, we want to feel powerful.
As men, we want to feel like we’re providers.
As men, we want to feel like we are able to deliver to you everything you’ve ever wanted
in a man, and more than that, we want to feel celebrated for that.
We want to feel large and powerful.
And you know what?
Actually, Alex, let’s change the whole dynamic of this shot right now because bringing up
the whole tiny thing, let’s change the dynamic.
Let’s create a new perspective for this video, okay?
Here we go.
There we go.
All right, now this feels good.
This feels like I’m powerful, this feels like I’m capable.
I’m seen as a man in your eyes.
This feels good.
Every man wants to feel strong and powerful, right?
Yeah.
This feels right.
Actually, this doesn’t feel right.
This is actually a little awkward.
This is not good.
Alex, let’s switch it back, man.
Let’s switch it back to the regular angle.
Here we go.
Okay, all right.
This is much better.
So, as I was saying, we want to feel powerful, we want to feel charged up, we want to feel
what I call hero-sized in your eyes.
You know what?
Let me give you an image or how we want to feel.
Here we go.
Let’s pull this up right here.
There were go.
Yeah!
This is how we want feel right here, right?
Hold up.
Alex, I’m missing something, man.
Help me out.
Here we go.
Yeah!
There we go.
This is how we want to feel right here, like a superhero for you.
We want to feel hero-sized.
Okay, we can go ahead and bring this back down.
Bring it back down.
There we go.
Okay.
Now, again, there’s nothing wrong – it’s not about the size of the man.
There are lots of men who are powerful, capable and celebrated and everything that you want
that are less than 5’9”.
A lot of women, if you’re five foot tall, you might want a guy who’s 5’6”.
It doesn’t matter about the height.
This isn’t about the height.
It’s not about being 5’9” or 6’5”, it’s about how he feels in your presence.
Every man wants to be the man that his woman desires.
So right now I’m going to share with you three phrases that men love to hear that actually
triggers attraction in them when you say these phrases because make no mistake.
When a man feels special in your presence, you become special to him.
Now, I first learned these phrases actually from Dr. John Gray years ago and they’re
phenomenal.
I think he’s brilliant, right?
And I use them in my relationship, I taught them to my wife and she says these phrases.
I know she’s saying them on purpose.
I know that she knows it’ll make me feel good and it works every time.
Like I feel more expanded as a man, I feel more like a man when she says these phrases.
And I’ve taught them to thousands of women around the world.
They’ve used them with great results so I want to share them with you.
Try it out and see the results that you get.
Here are the three phrases: “You’re brilliant,” “You saved me,” and “You’re my hero.”
Now, you might be the kind of woman when you’re hearing this, you might roll your eyes and
say, “I am never going to say that to my man.
Like why would I be the one to say that to my man?
Why am I the one who has to do things?
He should be pouring into me.
He should be celebrating me.
He should be appreciating me, right?
And when he does that, then I might think about saying those phrases.”
Well, let me tell you this.
In relationships, that mentality is like standing in front of a wood stove and saying, “Hey,
look, when you give me some heat, then I’m going to give you the wood.
As soon as you give me heat, look, I’ve got all the wood in the world.
I’m going to give it to you but you’ve got to give me some heart first.”
It doesn’t work that way.
When you put in the fuel, that’s when you get the heat back.
When you pour into your man and you help him feel more like a man in your presence and
you fill his cup, he will naturally want to pour right back into you.
And here’s the cool thing.
It doesn’t have to be major events when you’re using these phrases.
I’ll just give you a couple examples.
A couple nights ago, my wife and I were outside and she saw a spider under her chair and she’s
like, “Ah!
Spider!
Get it, babe!
Get it!”
And I went and I got the spider and I killed the spider and then said a little prayer of
the little spider soul and she came and hugged me.
She goes, “Oh, you saved me.
Thank you so much.
You saved me.”
And I know she was doing it because she knows that I like it and it just felt good in that
moment.
Or last week.
We use these big, five-gallon drums of water for drinking water and so I noticed that the
water was getting low and they’re heavy and she can do it, but I thought, “You know,
this is something I can do for her.”
So I went without being asked to the garage, got the big five-gallon water, put it on,
you know, the water dispenser and she came in and saw that and she was like, “Babe,
you are my hero.
Thank you for bringing this water in.”
And it ignited me, right?
Then, a few weeks back, we were talking about date night and I said, “You know what?
Let’s do something cool for date night tonight.
Let’s go check out this new place that just opened up.
I just researched it.
It’s called Bosscat and Libations.
It’s a killer restaurant.”
And she was like, “Brilliant.
That is a brilliant idea.”
We love to be called brilliant.
We love to be called your hero.
We love to save you because that helps us feel like a man.
It helps up feel capable, able to deliver what it is you want, to be seen like the man
you want in your eyes.
And let me tell you, when you use these phrases and you pour into your man, you create an
upward spiral of positive energy in your relationship and you will see the connection go to a whole
new level.
So I hope this video serves you.
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and what I would love to hear from you in the comments section is this.
Those are three phrases that men love to hear.
What are phrases that you love to hear?
How can your man ignite you?
What can he say that will help you feel appreciated and loved, right?
What is it that matters to you?
Post that comment below.
I would love to read what it is that you have to say there.
And as always, I’ve posted a link in the description with a resource that can help
you attract the relationship that you want in your life.
Thanks so much for watching.
I look forward to seeing you again soon.