Asalamualikoum. Welcome back to Allah Loves. So we talked a lot about healthy
pride and some of these things that typically don't get associated with
positive connotations in the Quran and the Sunnah of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam
and then we got to gentleness. Now the best way to actually merge these
concepts is to look at this beautiful ayah in the Quran which Allah talks
about a group of people that he loves Allah (swt) says to the believers
"man yartada menkoum 'an deenehy, fasofa ya'te Allaho be kouman yohibohoum wa yohibonah"
that whoever amongst you turns away from his religion then Allah
will replace them with the people that love Allah and that are beloved to Allah.
So Allah mentions that these people truly love Allah and they are truly
loved by Allah then Allah mentions the characteristics and Allah (swt) says
"athilata 'an al-mu'mineen" they are humbled amongst the believers
" a'ezaten 'alla al kafereen" that they carried themselves with dignity amongst
disbelievers "you jahedoona fe sabeellah" they strive in the path of Allah
"wala yakhafoona laow matala'oum" and they don't fear the blame of the blamers.
Now we talked about an unhealthy pride and a healthy type of pride.
There is also an unhealthy humility there's disgrace and Imam Al Ghazali rahim
Allah has an entire chapter distinguishing the positive sense of
humility from unhealthy humility a sense of humility which actually leads to
disgrace. So " athilaten 'an al mu'mineen, 'azetan 'an al kafereen" so being humble amongst
the believers and being dignified amongst disbelievers. Does this mean
being disrespectful to those that don't believe? Does this mean harming them, no
we just finished in the previous episode the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam maintaining a
sense of collectiveness and a sense of composure in the face of taunts. What
this means is that you do not relinquish your faith or your principles or your
Islam in the presence of other people. So let's compare these two qualities
together and let's think about how we apply them today all right. " athelaten
'an al mu'mineen" humble amongst the believers you'll find people subhanAllah
that carry themselves with such dignity and courtesy
amongst people that aren't Muslims but then when they're amongst their own
they become ruthless they suddenly let go of all of those types of things so
you know one of my mashayeekh talked about "khodoo zeenatekoum 'enda koli
masjid" that you take your beauty to the masajid. Some people you know that's
not just talking about your clothes you take your beautiful "adab" your character
and those types of things you find people that are so courteous at work
that come to the masjid then suddenly out of a sense of comfort demonstrate a
certain sense of pride and arrogance amongst the believers and that's not the
way that we're called to be " 'athelaten ala el mu'mineen" Allah says we should
humble ourselves with extreme humility amongst the believers and that humility
is is actually a very strong word "thila" means humiliation that you bring
yourself down you lower your wing you bring yourself down and you always deal
with a great sense of humility now you don't not deal with humility
with people that are not believers no but at the same time that humility that
you have does not lead you to disgrace yourself with your faith amongst people
that don't believe in it so someone out of that same humility and
mercy that they're supposed to be showing amongst the what
many might take that into the public and not only will they accept taunt and will
they accept people that that do things to them but they'll actually hide their
faith they will actually relinquish it so you know someone might look at this
verse and they would say well does that mean I should go to like my non-muslim
neighbor and I should like bang on their door on Christmas and say take down
your Christmas decorations no what that does mean is that on Eid you
proudly go over and you say you know we just fasted the month of Ramadan we are
Muslims and we want to share this experience with you we'd like to share
these we'd like to share our gift with you and you know please accept this gift
from us it's not relinquishing your faith in the presence of people that
don't believe in it and Allah (swt) mentions "you jaheedoona fi sabeel Allah"
that they strive in the path of Allah "wala yakhafoona lawma tala'em"
they don't fear the blame of the blamers Ibn Alqayem rahemAllah mentions here
that notice that Allah did not say they don't fear the blame of the disbelievers
because often times the people that persecute you most or that tried
to shame you out of your Islam most are other Muslims. There are certain things
that you can do that your non-muslim friends accept of your Islam so gently
but then you're amongst your Muslim relatives and they want you to stop
doing this and they feel ashamed of this and they've internalized that "thila"
that humiliation from the outside to where they're now most vicious with
people on the inside right and it speaks to a collective issue. So "laow matala'em"
they don't fear the blame of the blamers no one can push you away from your faith
inside the community outside the community no one can shake you out of
your own ethical core and out of your own principles of good character and
good "akhlāq" inside or outside no one can force you to act rudely or to relinquish
anything of what Allah subhana wa ta'ala loves inside or outside so this is a
package that comes together and the last comment that I'll give on this is one
that I found very insightful from Imam Hassan Albasri rahemAllah
he said that the curse of the believer is that he excels in one good quality
and so he tolerates the bad quality that comes with that so we talked about
healthy pride it's very rare to find people that can actually utilize good
pride when it's necessary and good humility when it's necessary so it's
very hard to find people that can strike that balance we ask Allah to give that
to us and to make us humble in his sight and proud of the things that he teaches
us to be proud of and to be beloved as a result of that. Allahoma Ameen see you all
next time insha'Allah Salamualaikum wa rahmatollahi wa barakato.