- Hey, what's up?
It's me, Jessica J, and I was just wondering
if you've ever sat and thought to yourself,
"Jessica, why do they always come back
after they reject me?"
Well, so I'm glad you asked 'cause today,
I'm gonna go over the four reasons
that we females come crawling back along
after we tell you that we want nothing to do with you.
And to make sure you never miss out on another opportunity
to find out why the hell we do some of this shit,
or another one of my videos,
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Okay, so this question, or this video, actually, came about
from a question I got earlier in the week
from my Fast Female Feedback system.
This is where you can submit your question to me
and my crew, and somebody will get back to you via text,
email, or a call.
So this guy, bless his heart, he's in a relationship
with this girl for like a year,
and then she ghosts him outta nowhere.
(laughs sarcastically)
Then a few months later, she comes back outta nowhere,
and he's like, "Okay, I guess game on,"
and, sure enough, she does that shit to him again.
So he wrote in asking, "What the fuck,"
and hoping that she would
and what he should do this time when she does
'cause she will.
So today, I'm gonna go over exactly why we women do that
because you guys don't do that.
When you guys reject us, you're done.
I have never, ever, ever in my life heard from a guy again
after he rejected me or ghosted me
'cause a promise it's happened to us too.
So I'm gonna explain why we do it
and why you shouldn't fall for this trip,
and if you stay to the very end,
I'll explain to you also how you can get your questions
and concerns catered to you in a response from me
or one of my girlfriends.
So the first reason we women will come crawling back
on our hands and knees, not necessarily on our knees,
to take you in is out of fear.
Women have a biological clock.
I'm sorry, it is scientific proof that our eggs are dying,
and we're losing 'em every month left and right,
and we have a finite amount of time
to use those finite amount of eggs.
So if we lose out on one guy who was into us
and down for us, who's to say another one
is gonna come along that easily, and who knows when?
So, sure enough, after a woman rejects you,
and when I say rejects,
I mean she has to tell you she doesn't want you
when you probably are very into her,
when that decision settles down, that fear rises up.
The fear that, "Oh my God, wait a minute.
I had a guy that was into me and shit.
Will I ever find another guy who's into me and shit?"
And again, it's that biological clock like,
"Oh, fuck, I gotta make this happen!"
Women in society are so looked down on
with every passing age, so with every passing day,
we have away from you and not closer
to somebody we would actually want for ourselves,
yeah, we get a little scared.
I've definitely felt this in my life,
especially well into my 30s now,
all my girlfriends having gotten married.
Granted, a lot of them are getting divorced now,
but all my friends getting married left and right,
having kids left and right like,
"Oh my God, when are you gonna do that?"
So over the years, more so in my 30s than in my 20s,
I've definitely recycled men,
like, 'Oh, shit, I guess we should try him out again."
So yeah, you may fall under the umbrella of, "Oh fuck,
he was a good enough guy.
Maybe I should try him out again."
You just have to decide if she is good enough for you
if that's the reason she's coming back.
The second reason is because humans are creatures of habit.
Humans tend to like to keep things the same.
I don't know if the most recent pandemic
taught you anything, but people will bug the fuck out
when their lives are upended.
And maybe you were in her life for a time
and she got used to it,
and then all of a sudden, she cut the brakes.
It's kind of like, "Oh, shit, where's my toaster?
I needed that."
If you don't know my toasted reference,
you're clearly a little late to the game,
so don't forget to check it out right over here.
And when you stopped caring, women start chasing
'cause we do.
So again, once that fear settles in and the anxiety
of, "Oh no, am I gonna find somebody else,"
we want that habit back, even if it's a bad habit,
and yeah, you might be that bad habit.
Which then brings me back to obviously number three,
which is loneliness.
I'm sorry, we are all wired for connection,
no matter what way we look at it.
The people who don't wanna connect are usually sociopaths
and serial killers,
or y'all were just so fuckin' traumatized
by the last time you connected,
that you formed this barrier of a shell of an existence
to keep people out because you're so tender,
you don't want to be traumatized again.
Totally understandable.
But back to women, when that loneliness sets in,
emotions tend to override our rational thought processes,
and when you couple that with fear
of never having love ever again, and habit,
wanting things, "I just want things to go back to normal,"
loneliness is just the icing on the cake,
I coming running back to you.
Now, the last one might be the reason
that women are more so inclined to do this than men.
It's because women tend
to second guess themselves more than men do.
Men are more so known to more easily
and more often down-regulate their emotional reactions
for whatever reason.
Whereas women, (laughing slyly)
we're more so inclined to let that shit roll.
Whether it's because women have been more so coddled
to, "Let it out, girl.
It's okay.
Who will hold you?"
Whereas men, its like, "Stop being a little bitch.
Stop being a girl. Man up."
Either way, women, we let that shit ride
all the live long day.
So once we're down from that roller coaster of emotions,
we sit and think to ourselves, "Oh fuck, was I wrong?"
So maybe she does finally come back down and realizing
that you are an awesome guy.
And maybe she's just being "too high maintenance
and wanting too much for herself,
and women can't clearly have it all.
We have a biological clock.
I should just settle for this guy while I have him now
because nobody else better is gonna come along, ha!"
I mean, that's what you guys always say in the comments.
So fine, she will come back around.
Again, it's up to you, though,
with what you wanna do with that.
I think the biggest takeaway here is understanding
why this woman rejected you
and why you would even consider giving her a second chance
after she does so.
Again, everybody's different.
Every situation is different.
I can't possibly know the truth of your life
or the situation you are in.
However, if you know that you could use
some fine-tailored feedback to your specific situation,
I did recently open the doors
for my Fast Female Feedback system
where you could text in your question,
and me and one of my girlfriends,
depending on what kinda girl you wanna hear from,
will get you your response in the form of a text, email,
or a call back.
I haven't made this super public yet.
I did a soft rollout to my email list.
Because it's such a new service, I don't wanna go overboard.
So if you know this is something you really wanna do,
check out the link at the very end of this video.
It's gonna be in one of the end cards.
Because fine, you're not gonna get along with everybody.
You're not gonna connect with everybody.
But if you're second guessing yourself
after she comes back around from telling you
that she didn't want you,
that's something to take a look at in yourself
because you are absolutely worthy of a woman who thinks
that you are absolutely too good to pass up no matter what.
And if you don't think that about yourself,
then we have a problem.
So make sure you wait to the very end to check out that link
for Fast Female Feedback.
Submit your question.
I can't wait to get back to you.
Thanks for watching, and I'll see you guys next time.