as an Asian woman you get used to being
called a lot of things hey soy sauce a
lot of offensive things hey wasabi girl
a lot of unoriginal offensive things a
sushi mama I want a 40 Kaka your face
just straight up condiments now that I'm
hearing all of this back to back your
body is an exotic edible dish from
insert the Asian country you hear from
here and I want to stick my chopsticks
and that Bluff es rice and consume you
all it was original okay I will give you
that I've never heard that one before
well you know I definitely appreciate
the straightforwardness of the approach
we don't get that a lot yeah I really
like the idea that my ass is fluffy rice
I don't like you you're a harasser but I
like the image of oke right yeah there's
some soul addiction choices in this cat
call mmm 6 6 6 I've talked about this
before but as an Asian woman obviously
the number one thing you should know is
that there are people out there who want
to date you because of your race and
regardless of your personality the Fed
Association of your ethnicity with the
expectation that you're submissive and
the idea that you are a land to be
conquered are unfortunate projected
perspectives that come with all ideas
but these kinds of racist people usually
reveal themselves sooner or later and
eventually you get pretty good at
spotting them before they have a chance
to get you emotionally attached next
Asian Americans are actually 3 times
less likely to seek mental health
services than Caucasians only eight
point six percent of asian-americans see
any type of mental health service or
resource compared to the 18% of the
general population nationwide and yet we
have the parental pressures of
succeeding academically a tradition
heavily rooted in silence and shame and
the stresses of being from two different
cultures and trying to develop a
bicultural sense of self when I was
growing up in the South I was not
American enough for America and then
when I was in school in Japan I wasn't
Japanese enough to all of my peers it's
a it's a hell of an identity crisis
and there's a lot of negative stigma
against mental health in the asian
community so you should know there's
absolutely nothing wrong with seeking
out whether it's therapy medication for
a mental disorder or joining a support
group in fact I urge you strongly to
make it a priority to take care of your
mental health in whatever ways benefit
you the most and finally if you have a
dream pursue it I've had so many friends
who became biologists or lawyers at the
behest of their parents but they were so
unhappy that they eventually had to quit
or they went through college to please
their parents and then they finally
started doing what they actually wanted
to do after spending all of that money
and losing all of that time and look I
want to acknowledge family expectations
and pressures and traditional Asian
homes are different the values of
sacrifice community and obeying
Authority are upheld and enforced in a
way that is just simply different from
our non Asian peers but this is your
life not your parents and yes your
parents may have brought you into this
world but the world needs whatever it is
that you're passionate about whatever
you're happy doing that's what the world
needs you to be doing because that's
when you're gonna be your best self and
we need more happy people who love what
they do because that is when people do
the best jobs and ultimately your
parents will be happy if you're
successful doing what you love and like
I know this is very easy to say so I
want you to know it's gonna be hard I
mean you'll feel like you're
disappointing them for a very very long
time maybe even a decade or more but it
is not disappointment it's courage it's
bravery and honestly if you apply that
sweet sweet asian work ethic to
something you actually give a about
I mean there's no chance of
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