Now, there was once a time before cell phones
when a man would actually court a woman to being his wife.
He would jump in the horse and buggy,
riding over the most dangerous terrain,
watching out for snakes, spiders everywhere,
only to get to a woman's house,
introduce himself to the family,
just to get a few precious moments to court her
into maybe being his wife.
And nowadays, most guys will just bulk-swipe right,
hoping that one woman will actually
show a little bit of interest in him
and they'll go out a couple times, maybe hook up,
and then the whole thing will just end
in total and utter disappointment for both parties.
The world has certainly changed.
But there's good news, you sexy single ladies,
because not all men are like that
and there are plenty of good, chivalrous men
left on this planet, I promise you.
You just need to know when a guy is not interested in you
so that you can leave your emotional energy open
to the right type of men.
So, in this video, I'm gonna be sharing with you
five texting signs that he is just not interested in you
and you could see all these signs by the way he texts you
so that you can stop putting energy into that guy
and finally meet one of the good ones.
Keep watching.
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- Hey there, Adam Lodolce from sexyconfidence.com
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Now, texting strategies really come into play
once you get too little of step number five,
which is all about pacing the progression
of your connections.
At this point in your love journey,
you're gonna be talking to multiple men at any given time
and you're gonna wanna really be able to determine
which ones are actually interested in something real
and which ones are not.
And this is the power of pacing and slowing things down
and not just diving head first into a relationship.
You can really get a feel for
the different guys you're talking to
and there are a few key signs
that I want you to be looking for when you're texting him
and if you see any of these signs,
it's possible he's not really interested in anything.
Sign number one is that you are constantly
initiating the conversation.
If you get the feeling that if you
didn't ever text this guy again
that he would never text you,
then the situation is over.
Don't allow yourself to chase men over texting.
I know you might like him, I know he might be attractive,
I know he might be good in bed, or whatever it is,
but when you are initiating texts every single time,
you are literally handing over your value to this man
and saying that he is a higher value person than you.
Why would you ever chase someone
who's not actively interested in you?
Next.
The second sign is that your blue-to-gray ratio
is just way off.
Now, for those of you with an iPhone,
this is especially easy to do.
Just go back to the last text chain
you've had with a guy that you're interested in,
and just notice how many blue texts there are,
which are the number of texts you're sending him,
versus the gray text,
which are the responses you're getting.
If you're noticing that you have four, five, six texts
to every one text that he's responding,
then there is a real problem here.
In the earliest stages of dating,
you want the man to be working hard
and investing emotionally, investing effort
into winning you over because you are the prize
that he is begging to win over, not the other way around.
Texting sign number three that he's not interested
is that he's just not asking you
any questions about yourself.
This is especially frustrating, I think,
when you're trying to get to know someone
and you're doing it in a way
that's very authentic and very real
and you're asking them lots of questions
but all they seem to do is answer your freaking questions
and they're not reciprocating with any positive energy.
He's not asking you anything about your life,
about your friends, about your family,
about the things that you want,
and if that's happening through text
and you're always the one asking questions
to keep things going, well, you got a problem.
A man who is genuinely interested
in something more than just a hookup,
is going to want to get to know you
on a deeper, emotional level
and the only way to do that is through questions.
Sign number four is that he is constantly
testing your sexual boundaries.
Are you finding that every single text chain you have
somehow reverts into a sexual conversation,
whether he's sending you inappropriate pictures
or sending you texts about being in the bedroom together?
If this is happening, then it's clear-- it's 100% clear--
that that is his main focus in this relationship.
Now, look, if you're in a committed relationship,
I'm not against sexting.
I am against you sending any nude photos
to any guy ever unless you're married.
I'm not against sexting,
but if you are just talking to a guy
and dating him in the earliest stages,
really, it's inappropriate if he's constantly
testing those boundaries to see
what he can get away with with these texts.
And usually when a guy's only interested in sex,
that's all he talks about.
And the fifth and most important sign of all of this
is that he's not at all trying to transition things
to the offline world.
Just the other day in the Love Accelerator coaching program,
we were talking about this concept of
men who just are orbiters.
They will constantly be texting you and show interest in you
and kind of keep the conversation going.
However, they have seemingly no plans
of wanting to meet you in the real world.
And this is a strange but very common
occurrence in the dating world,
especially if you're meeting people online
where people will want to just text
a lot of different people to just get that validation back
that, hey, someone's responding,
yet they have absolutely no intention
of actually putting in the effort
to turn this into something in the offline world.
It's really mind-boggling.
If you've been texting and communicating with a guy
that you've never met in real life
and it's gone on longer than two weeks
to at most four weeks, then move on.
Save your emotional energy for men
who actually wanna meet in the real world.
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that are going to really help you build your confidence,
get out there, and attract a quality man.
Thank you so much for watching
and I'll speak to you, you sexy single lady, next week.
Bye-bye.