Heya playa, if you're afraid you're going to look or sound desperate whenever you're
texting your crush don't worry. I'm gonna share a few tips with you that are definitely
going to up your texting game and make you look super confident whenever you talk to
them. This is The Josh Speaks. You're watching The Josh Speaks. My name is Josh and every
single week I make videos sharing tips, ideas, and stories teaching you how to be your best
self and one of the biggest problems that I think a lot of people face when they're
texting their crush is that they overthink things a lot. They get too worried about the
specific message they want to send or how they come off rather than really building
a deeper relationship with them. And that overthinking process leads a lot of people
to make this overthinking mistake so tip #1 is don't over text them. If you feel like
you're sending them multiple messages in a row and they're not responding you're over
texting them. You're doing it too much, you are gonna look too needy. When you're constantly
messaging someone all they see from you is a wall of text, that can be super overwhelming
plus it makes you look super desperate for their attention so instead of sending them
a bunch of "hey, how's it going, how are you, what's up, how you doing" types of messages,
focus on the specific things they post online and comment on them. Ask them questions about
things that you've interacted with and have done in real life. Try to really ground your
messages in something solid that they can respond to. And if you're starting those conversations
and they die and you're starting them and they die and you're starting them and they
die and you play this little game of constantly always trying to start a new conversation
with them try to change up the format in how you post them. Don't just send them text messages,
try to send them pictures, voice memos, videos, or just try to talk to them in person if you
can. Tip number 2 here is going to feel like a real punch in the face but you need to stop
being so nice. Look, if your crush sees you as a guy who's playing it passively, is afraid
to speak his mind, is just not really being 100% genuine and honest when you interact
with her, she's not really going to see you as attractive and all that confident. In my
mind, there's a major difference between being a nice guy and a soft guy. A nice guy is a
person that is caring, that's nurturing, that's honest, that's open and a soft guy, well that's
the guy that's really scared and timid all the time of their crush. They're afraid to
make a move or say anything because they don't want to rock the boat, they don't want to
ruin the potential chances they have with their crush but they never act on those potential
chances so it really goes nowhere. So, let me rattle off a few things that you probably
need to stop doing. Stop over-complimenting your crush all the time. They get it. You
think they're pretty, and beautiful and awesome and smart. They understand. Stop apologizing
whenever you want to ask them a question. Instead of saying "hey can I ask you a question?
I'm sorry for bothering you" just outright ask it. Stop holding back your opinion whenever
you want to say something or do something. If you're afraid of their response, well then
you're never going to be seen as confident by them. And also, stop acting like you're
just friends. I know it's the safe way you want to go and it's the small step you want
to take but if you're not gonna take big action in pursuing that crush, why would they ever
want to date you if they don't see that from you? Tip number 3 to prevent you from looking
desperate is to talk about things that you like. Far too often when a guy likes a girl
and he's texting her he's really trying to stay in her world. He's trying to ask her
questions about what she likes but he never really reveals much about himself. He never
talks about his hobbies or his interests or builds himself up to look like someone cool
to hang out with. You need to start showing off what makes you cool and unique. Think
about your hobbies and your interests, the things you like to do. Plus, an added bonus
here is that when you're texting your crush try to invite them into your world. If you're
going out to do something that you like, invite them to join you. Invite them to hang out
with you and your friends. If they see that you want to bring them into your life that's
going to make them really kind of be more observant of who you are. And when you're
texting them and talking about that, they're going to see that you're passionate about
that thing and that is a super sexy and confident trait to have. But no matter what you do,
if you're still overthinking things you're always going to feel like you look desperate
to them so try to step outside of your head a little bit. Try to really focus on learning
about them as a person and sharing more about yourself. Don't worry so much about dating
them or hooking up with them or going out with them, any of that stuff. Really just
focus on getting to know them as a person and sharing more of your personality with
them. That's the ultimate way to not look desperate. I wanna give a huge shout out to
all my patrons and YouTube channel members, these are the people that help support the
channel every single month plus for the Champion level members, I get to talk to them one on
one through video chat so if you have a question and you want to talk to me personally, check
out Patreon the link is down below. Also what I want you to do now is to check out the videos
over there on the side. Those videos are going to help up your texting game. Trust me guys,
I've covered this topic in depth so watch those videos. I go deeper into the topic of
looking cooler, feeling more confident, and just having better text conversations with
your crush. Check it out and I'll catch you next time. As always, love and peace.