We live in a world where the idea of love is fed by a "Happily Ever After".
Our perception of what should and should not be is completely skewed by what we have learned
in media.
The typical pattern of intense passion and emotions, a conflict that makes us fight for
that God forsaken love and then the resolution of being together forever.
We see any romantic or sexual interests outside of that relationship as immoral and that we
must constrain ourselves for this one love for the rest of our lives.
But is there such a thing as your one and only love?
Is it not possible to love more than one soul?
This question has resulted in cheating, divorce, resentment, conflicts and a lot of lying.
Is monogamy the only way to be in a loving relationship?
More and more people are finding healthy relationships inside consensual, non-monogamous relationships.
In actuality, the cultures that only accept monogamous relationships are in the minority
worldwide.
According to a paper in the journal of evolutionary biology, 83% of societies allow polygamy.
At Psych2Go, we're bringing you the "8 signs polyamory may be right for you".
The first sign is that you have always felt limited and confined in conventional relationships.
It's not the person you're with that's making you feel confined, it's the situation.
Have you ever felt like you're no longer acting as an individual but always thinking about
being faithful to your partner and you can't help but think; does this come from a place
of love, freedom and security or does it come from a place of ownership, jealousy and fear?
Sign number two is that you learn so much about yourself through others.
Relationships are fun, yes, but they're also incredible opportunities to learn and explore
different aspects of yourself.
Each person is a universe and both negative and positive experiences that we venture in
with them are a journey to learning and growing individually as a person.
If you are limited to only one relationship, there may be aspects of yourself you are neglecting.
Sign number three is that you are the kind of person who feels energized by other people.
Does diving into experience with people outside of your primary relationship, nurture, energize
and refresh you?
Do you feel energized and refreshed after you have an innocent yet perhaps a little
flirtatious coffee with someone from the opposite sex whilst in a relationship?
This does not have to imply any physical engagement; an innocent lunch date is enough.
In a polyamorous relationship, you are free to flirt, have fun and share your experiences
with other people in any way you desire.
Sign four is that you like to constantly challenge yourself in order to grow.
The most common reason for people rejecting an open relationship is jealousy.
They would rather not deal with the intensity of jealous feelings they would get with the
very imagination of their partner engaging with someone else.
But what if polyamory will teach you to be less jealous and to love with complete freedom,
would this not be like taking an entire weight off of your shoulders?
This experience, while still being a very difficult one will teach you to love someone.
Fear, jealousy and possession are not things that come from a place of love.
Consider it a love boot camp.
Sign number five is that communication and honesty are very important things for you.
You can't stand lying about anything and let's be honest, most people feel safer not admitting
to their partners that they may be interested in or attracted to someone else.
They may also not feel safe about telling their partner about certain friendships for
fear of jealousy.
You are the kind of person who would rather be open about these difficult topics and feel
safe in approaching them with your partner.
You think it's best and healthier to tackle the situation and finding a compromise that
makes you both happy.
If there is something forbidden to us, we will only want it more.
If we feel free to be with somebody else, then the initial excitement of that forbidden
fruit is gone.
Sign number six is that you don't like living life by society's rules and tend to question
everything.
You are not one to follow social constructs of what should and should not be.
You often find yourself questioning these in-positions made on us.
Polyamory is instantly rejected by society and almost seen as a threat to normal relationships
and normal family life.
However, you prefer to live and experience for yourself before deciding your opinion
on something as opposed to following everybody else like a sheep.
Sign number seven is that you trust your love and connection with this person more than
anything.
You don't think that seeing someone else could possibly take away from your love and devotion
to your partner.
If anything, it might even strengthen your appreciation for them.
If the connection you have is authentic, then it is really hard for that to just go away
with the introduction of someone new.
Sometimes we just enjoy someone new in our lives but that does not mean we want them
to ever replace our partner.
And finally, sign number eight is that you are aware that we can love more than one person
and feel attracted to more than one person.
If we learn to accept that one person cannot fulfill every desire that we have, then we
will immediately resent our partner less and appreciate them more.
If we decide to allow ourselves and our partners to fulfill things we can't through someone
else, we are making them happy and that my friend is love.
Thank you for watching this video and hopefully these signs helped you see if you'd potentially
be open for a polyamorous relationship or if you're more happy in a monogamous one.
Let us know if any of these signs relate to you in the comments and any videos you might
like to see next.