self-confidence is a personal journey
we're all going to take different paths
but ultimately we're all in the same
Road and we're doing this together the
word confidence is derived from Latin it
means with faith with faith in an
ability in someone or yourself there are
no right or wrong ways to build
self-confidence because right and wrong
is subjective everyone is on a different
path the tips I'm giving you are
universal it's going to help jumpstart
your journey
tip number one remember that confidence
is like a mental muscle like muscle
everyone is born with it but not
everyone flexes it and if you want your
muscles to grow stronger God exercise so
here are my exercising tips consciously
think positive thoughts especially
during moments when you're feeling down
so take a deep breath and remind
yourself that life is too short and you
got to make the best of it listen to
music that will lift your mood a good
beat and sound has been proven to help
people in a positive way music and sound
has been known to help the growth of
plants that says a lot you want to have
a healthy habit of maintaining this
mental muscle but you also don't want to
overdo it
everything in moderation balance is key
it's good to remind yourself from time
to time how worthy and how you know
awesome you are but you also want to
leave room to grow and improve I mean we
can all change and evolve for the better
find your qualities instead of focusing
on the negative which I know can be hard
focus on the positive and it doesn't
have to be a physical thing maybe you're
amazing at Mario Kart or you're a
brilliant pianist an amazing painter a
singer you make great grades at school
no one is perfect at everything and
we're all made to be perfectly imperfect
kind of like this crystal see it's not
perfectly cut like a flawless diamond
but it's beautiful in its own unique way
there won't be another crystal like this
one and just like you it has many many
facets and you'll be discovering more of
them as time goes by and if you don't
think you have a quality just ask
yourself this simple question what am I
good at everyone is good at something
and if you don't know what it is well
take this opportunity to find it sign up
for cooking classes painting classes
learn how to sing play some sports pick
up on a passion and nurture it because
this helps build self-worth it gives you
something to do and strive for have a
buddy system the journey to building
self confidence is not a lonely road
essentially everyone is on the same
journey find someone you can trust
whom you can share your insecurities
with it feels good to vent it out and
just to get it off your chest and if you
feel like you don't have anyone to talk
to just go online I mean that's kind of
the beauty of the digital world you
could find a forum or a support group
for anything and you can go on there and
be yourself and share your thoughts your
feelings your insecurities without being
judged and the best part you're going to
remain anonymous I know it's tough
especially with all these new websites
and apps and you know it's so easy to
find a picture or video where it's going
to make you feel insecure about yourself
but you have to stop obsessing over the
can nots and start focusing on the what
can what can I do to improve myself
everyone is going to take a different
path it may be exercising going back to
school coloring your hair getting rid of
negative friends I mean as long as
you're physically and mentally not
harming the person you love I see no
wrong paths to take towards happiness in
my last tip pass your wisdom and gifts
onto others teaching mentoring and
caring for others is the greatest gift
you can give to others and yourself not
only is the other person going to feel
better but you will too loving others
will
you to love yourself and you know what
this journey is not going to be easy
there's going to be times when you're
gonna want to give up you're gonna feel
lost you can't continue to walk further
down this journey and you have to remind
yourself that if you want to build
self-confidence but you have to stay
positive that's the key there's this
quote I found that I really like and it
goes be like a proton and stay positive
a positive mind will open more doors
don't just limit yourself to one path
take as many as you need until you've
reached your destination and once you've
found your confidence enjoy it savor it
and when you're feeling down bring that
feeling back into your mind and remind
yourself that this is an attitude you
own and control you are all perfectly
imperfect and at the end of the day this
is what makes you special you're black
love ya
you