- Now there's nothing like a new relationship
to make you go into full-blown crazy mode.
Wait you have other girls that are friends?
(keyboard clicking)
Wait, is that too much interest too soon?
I don't know I just hate him so much
right now.
But does that mean that I love him?
Hold up a sec, it is very possible
that you are sabotaging every new relationship
that you're in, because you're afraid.
You're afraid that he might not love you.
You're afraid that you're coming on too strong,
that you're not coming on strong enough.
But before you give in to this fear,
make sure you watch this video.
Because the five tips I'm gonna teach you
in this video right now,
may just be the difference
between you marrying this guy,
or you living down the street
as that weird cat lady.
We don't want that.
Keep watching.
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Hey there, my name is Adam Lodolce,
and I'm a head love strategist over here
where we help single women successfully
find a long lasting relationship,
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We are going to dive deep into your love life,
and apply what we call
the seven little love steps to your love life.
And ultimately, we can see whether or not
you're fit for our love coaching program
called love accelerator.
Now I've seen it before, when my clients
get to what we call little love step number six,
which means you are now in a healthy,
committed relationship with clear boundaries set.
What tends to happen is, we start
subconsciously sabotaging the relationship.
So here are five tips to help you keep your head
straight as you're adjusting
to this new relationship.
Tip number one is if the guy is treating you
really well, be cautious, but also be optimistic.
I know it can be really hard
when your past relationships haven't worked out.
And when you've been burned so many times,
it can be very difficult to go into a new
relationships with eyes wide open
and expecting a different result this time.
But if a guy is actually genuinely treating
you well, and he's showing up
for the relationship, you need
to be receptive to that.
And we believe in being cautiously optimistic.
Allow enough time for him to really prove
himself to you.
And we believe in consistency over time.
If he's been consistent in his effort
and his interest in you, and it's over
a long enough period of time,
well, it's at that time that you need to start
opening your heart to him,
and trusting him and realize
that he is genuinely interested in you.
Tip number two is, you need to realize
that there is a cool-down period
that tends to happen
when you are in a new committed relationship.
Sometimes when you go from like the early phases
of dating, you're just talking to the guy,
and then you're suddenly now
in a committed exclusive relationship,
sometimes he starts to focus his energy
elsewhere because he needs to go back
to his work, or he needs to go back
to his other priorities.
And it doesn't necessarily mean there's a problem
with the relationship.
It's just now he's feeling secure,
and he's feeling very happy with what he has.
So now he needs to go back to the other problems
he has in his life and start fixing those.
And we call this the cool-down period,
because when you go from that honeymoon phase
to now just everyday life
being in a relationship together,
it can feel like the relationship
is really cooling off a bit.
But it's not.
It's just that you're adjusting
to normal life together.
Tip number three is that you need to remember
that he's not perfect,
and you definitely aren't either.
You need to keep your head straight.
And remember that you are going to learn things
about this man that you do not like.
And there are gonna be flaws not only in him,
but also in the relationship.
Because humans are just innately flawed beings.
We all have our own flaws.
And when you put two of us together,
well that sometimes creates flaws
in a relationship.
And that is okay, so long as there aren't deep
fundamental issues in a relationship.
Tip number four is to set very clear boundaries
early on the relationship.
Because if you don't set those boundaries
early on, it's hard to set them later.
I get it, maybe you're trying
to be like the cool new girlfriend,
who wants him to go off
and do whatever it is that he wants to do,
whenever he wants to do it.
But I urge you, if he's really pushing
the boundaries a bit,
to have conversations early on,
that might be a little bit uncomfortable.
Well, you need to make it clear
that you are in a relationship now,
and this is how things are gonna work
moving forward.
And finally, tip number five,
is to just be patient.
So many people, when they get
in new relationships, they just wanna push
things forward so quickly.
And they feel like, if things
aren't progressing forward,
then there's a problem.
But the reality is that, it really takes
at least a year of getting to know someone
before you really know them on a very deep level.
And this is why I don't recommend
that you do anything that you can't go back on.
And of course having children together,
or getting married even within the first year.
Take that time to really get to know each other,
and see whether or not this thing's a fit.
So I wanna hear from you in the comments below.
Which of these tips do you need to start applying
to your next relationship?
Leave a comment, let me know.
And if you are ready to attract that healthy,
long lasting relationship,
then make sure you head on over
to LoveApply.com,
or you can click the link right there below,
so you can speak to one of my love strategists
about love accelerator coaching.
Thank you so much for watching,
and I'll speak to you,
you sexy single lady next week.
Bye bye.