Delete each other's numbers or get back together.
Me and Jasmine was together for around three years.
I fell in love with Ash because of the person that he is.
He showed me a lot of kindness and he has a really big heart.
Things officially ended between me
and Ash when I started to develop feelings for somebody else.
I was hurt and I didn't want the relationship to end.
I thought that we could try and work on things, but that wasn't the case.
You nervous? A little bit.
Why?
Seeing you, innit?
Since splitting up with Ash, we have still remained in contact
and I've never really had the chance to be able to move on from him.
We do message each other every day so, right now, I think
it's 50-50 if we cut ties or get back together.
Why can't we let go?
Ash, you were my first love and you were my first serious boyfriend,
so, we broke up three years ago, but we've always stayed so close.
You're, like, my best friend and it's...
It is hard to completely let go.
Yeah, that's true.
I guess it also scares me slightly. What's that?
Just the thought of never having you in my life.
I would say the same, basically, because, obviously,
there's things that you know about me that nobody else does know.
And it would be, like, a scary thing losing you totally.
I think, deep down, that we do still have feelings for each other
and I think he will always have a place in my heart.
Are you always trying to win me back?
Am I always trying to win you back? Yes.
Yeah, most of the time.
Most of the time.
You never know how it goes, innit?
You never know, I could win you back. Maybe not. OK.
I've, like, started seeing somebody else, but you don't like that.
When Jasmine first started seeing this guy, it did upset me,
because of who the person was.
I feel really annoyed that Ash has such a strong opinion
on my love life, because it doesn't have anything to do with him.
Like, he don't treat you right, innit?
And I only know this cos that's you told me, innit?
He don't treat you right.
Ash absolutely is, doesn't...
Hang on, I'm thinking of a diplomatic way to word it.
I don't want to say he hates him.
Ash isn't fond of this guy at all.
I think he's using her.
I'm a big girl. I can look after myself and it's my decision,
like, who I choose to have in my life. So...
But I'm just going off what you've told me.
Now, you're the one that's coming to me, crying and upset on the phone.
Yeah.
Since splitting up with Ash, every time I would feel lonely,
or if I wanted companionship, I would always go back to him.
Like, what do you expect me to do, like, with these issues
that you're coming to me with? What do you expect me to do?
So, do you want me not to turn to you for support when it comes to...
When it comes to him. Yeah.
When I say certain things, then you get defensive
and you get angry with me... Yeah.
..because I'm just telling you the truth. That ain't fair on me.
Yeah, I get that, and I'm not going to lie,
I do turn to you for support,
because, at the time, I just want somebody to talk to, I guess.
If you don't want me to in the future, then I won't.
It was difficult and she did act a bit like a hypocrite.
Thank you very much.
Emotionally, Ash does confuse me, because, even though I feel
in my heart that I'm ready to move on,
the lines of our friendship are very blurred.
I just want to get a little closure,
just so that I know where I'm going
in this friendship or relationship or whatever you want to call it.
So, Ash, where do we go from here?
Either there's a chance of us getting back together
or there's no chance at all.
OK. Well, like...
..at this point I don't feel like I want to get back in a relationship
with you and I don't feel like there is a chance for us
to get back together in the future,
just because of how much water under the bridge there is.
I mean, we've had our good times, but we had a lot of bad times, too.
And the lines of our friendship are very blurred, because, like,
today, I can say that, for me,
I don't want to get back with you in the future.
I'll say, yeah, it's definitely over for us two.
Now is the time to go our separate ways.
Like you said, we'll still be friends or whatever, but...
not every day.
Not everyday contact, everyday messaging.
Not everyday, innit?
I don't know, it just makes it a bit more...like...
Intense. Yeah.
If we completely cut contact,
I will be hurt, but I have to let her live her life.
Delete each other's numbers or get back together?
So...
So, delete each other's numbers.
I guess.
OK.
Done.
Deleting Ash's number just now at the table was really, really hard.
I need a sip of my wine.
It's the after bit now, that I can't just pick up my phone
and contact her again.
Knowing that I've deleted her number
and there ain't no other way of me getting it back.
Like you said, it is...it's tough, but...
..we can do it.
Yeah.
I think this will finally be an opportunity for us
to completely move on from the relationship.
Me not contacting her, I could do it,
but on her part, I would say,
like, 70-30 % that she will contact me.
I hope, for both of us, that she will be disciplined.