Sixth, complete a breakthrough. In this episode, we are going through step number six of
seven steps answering the question. How to turn a negative experience into
a positive outcome? Get ready, because you will have a breakthrough as you
learn this powerful simple process this tool that I call the opportunity breakthrough.
So, I'm Doug Andrew and I've been helping people utilize tools like this for more than 48 years now.
At the end of this episode, I want to gift you a copy of my book entitlement abolition. It's book
number 10 of 12 that I've authored so far. Because I'm very passionate about helping
you understand how to teach those that you care about and maybe even you how to deal with the
curveballs in life that are thrown at us and how to take the negative experiences that we all have
and learn from them and turn them into a positive outcome and I'm going to share this step with you
that will help prepare for the final step on how to make this complete transformation possible.
So, this is what I call the opportunity breakthrough. I'm going to walk you through
two different ways to do this exercise. So, if you have not watched some of the previous episodes
it's contained in this 20-page document that I would love to give to you for free it's called
the negative experience transformer and so at the end I'll show you how you can claim your free copy
of this along with my book entitlement abolition. Where these concepts are talked about in there and
then also you'll have access to an 18-hour master class if you would like. Now, step number six is
critical once you have sort of changed your thinking to see the opportunity
in the challenge or the threat. That's why the last step I talked about the story of Brett Livingston
Strong and the malibu rock. What everybody else saw as a threat he saw as an opportunity. So, now
he had this opportunity to be able to turn what everybody said, "Oh, this is dangerous. Oh, look at
this horrible thing", and everybody's calling that rock this big threat that might kill somebody and
he flipped it and turned it into an opportunity. So, how can you do this? I developed a tool
to empower people like you to be able to do this and I've used this tool numerous times with
thousands of clients attendees students and my own children and grandchildren. So I have two different
forms of this exercise and whenever I sit down with these groups I want them to set smart goals.
Smart is an acronym that means specific, measurable, attainable, relevant in a time frame.
So whenever you fill out these forms you want to use smart goals or smart thinking. You want to be
specific, it's got to be miserable, attainable, relevant, and you have to give yourself a time
frame of when this is going to be accomplished. This is the main form which I call the
opportunity breakthrough because you can take any a challenge and as you see the opportunity
as you overcome this challenge. You then write down the opportunity that you're trying to seize here
and then I go through an acronym I came up with that spells break
because this is a breakthrough BREAK. B stands for the barriers, what are the barriers that stand
in the way? What are the roadblocks the hindrances you need to overcome? What are the resources?
I usually brainstorm and then circle the top three barriers and write them over here on the right.
What are the three greatest resources that I need to draw from or utilize in order to overcome those
barriers and eliminate them and I go 1, 2, 3. The next is the E which stands for
what experiences do I have, I had or do I need to have or draw from other people's experiences
in order to empower me to be able to seize this opportunity better. Then I write down those three
experiences. A is the action, what are the actual specific action steps I need to take to transform
this opportunity and have it come to fruition? The final letter is K which stands for knowledge. What
knowledge do I need to obtain or draw from from other people in order to be able to see this
opportunity come to you know full living color fruition? So that's called a breakthrough.
It's a thinking process. So you can do this on one opportunity and I'm going to show you why
we do this my wife and I we have six children and 20 grandchildren. This is how we set our new year's
goals every year. We meet in our living room in December and we pass out a sheet of paper that has
this ten relationship breakthrough. So, again, if this is helping you and you can think of
somebody who would enjoy watching this episode. Be sure and share click like post a comment
but subscribe and click the little bell so you'll be notified every time I post a new
episode which I do almost on a daily basis and so what we do for new year's resolutions is we take
10-15 minutes and in 10 different relationships in their life we're sitting in the living room and
we're projecting one year down the road. When we're sitting in this living room one year from today
what has to have happened in this year for us to be happy with the progress we made
in 10 different relationships in our life and then they fill out the BREAK, barriers, resources,
experiences, action, and knowledge, they need to have in order to make sure that relationship
comes and grows. So, usually with our family we talk about relationship with deity with
spouse or if it's the children with their parents or if it's their siblings or with us it's our own
children. Down here it would be extended a family or friends and then relationships with their
personal physical fitness and so forth. Then you flip the sheet over and you're writing down
the financial or self-reliance what has to have happened during this year for you to be happy
financially or with your self-reliance. Your mental and intellectual. Your business or your job
or your school if you're young. Your church service or responsibilities and your civic what you do for
your community. So, those happen to be the ten that we do with our own children and grandchildren and
then they go through and they write down what has to have happened in this year if we were sitting
there to be happy with that progress and then I have them write down really quick, what are the
barriers they need to overcome? The resources to draw from. The experiences to have or to draw from.
The action steps and the knowledge they need to obtain. So, as you can imagine they begin to sit and
write down things and it actually starts to flow pretty quick. Sometimes they get stumped for a few
minutes but it's amazing how they begin to learn and I put down you know like to have a weekly date
night and lunches with my wife to interact with each of my children on their birthdays and how I'm
going to do that. How to hold and I remember when retreat with my siblings might be extended family
and so I write down all the barriers and so forth. I want to do cardio three times a week and work
out with a trainer and meet with a nutritionist and that's how I'm going to stay in physical shape.
I might flip it over and financially might want to pay off consumer debt reposition money
to a laser fund and so it's the same process as you go through and you list all of these barriers
resources experiences action and knowledge in each of these 10 areas. Now you talk about a payday for
parents and grandparents, we actually meet on a quarterly basis during the year to sort of
report how we're coming and because we all know what everybody's trying to achieve because we
go around and we usually circle three and share. Then we all can realize we're in this together.
So that instead of being a scarcity-minded family where they see you on thanksgiving have had two
little pieces of pie, "Oh, I thought you were you're gonna eat better. I thought you're on a diet."
No. Hey, we all cheat on thanksgiving. How about tomorrow morning? We go out and go on a walk or
a jog together. Because when you share what your goals are and what has to have happened you're
beginning to seize opportunities and together we are better that spells the acronym team
and as you share these experiences see a lot of times people say, "I don't want to share my goals
in case I don't achieve them", no, if you want to dramatically increase the chance of you
achieving success you share it with others you care about and that are cheering for you.
As you together achieve each other and encourage one another. Does that make sense? So how can you
claim your free copy and get this 20 page document called the negative experience transformer?
This is part of one of 20 tools that I have in my entitlement abolition
master class. But the first step is to claim your free copy of the book. So click on the link below
go to entitlementabolitionbook.com. You contribute a nominal amount towards the shipping
and handling. I'll cover the rest of that cost and then I'll pay for the book and fire out a
copy to you and you'll begin to learn about these concepts how to teach them to those you care about
whether it's your children, your grandchildren, your employees, we've done this for many business owners
and watch the transformation that takes place. But this is step number six that we've just talked
about in a total of seven steps. Stay with me, go to the seventh step. I'm going to connect all the dots.