9 QUALITIES OF PEOPLE WITH HIGH EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
There are many types of intelligence.
The best known of all is IQ (Intelligence Quotient), which is mainly associated with
our ability to reason logically and our ability to memorize things.
Another, more recently introduced type of intelligence is the CQ (curiosity quotient).
People with a high curiosity quotient are generally smarter.
The curiosity quotient focuses on a person's ability to study and learn about new topics.
The most important of all, however, is perhaps the Emotional Intelligence Quotient (EQ),
which consists of the ability to recognize, understand, and manage our own emotions and
to recognize, understand and influence the emotions of other people.
It is extremely important to understand how we can best manage our own emotions and those
of others, especially in difficult and high-pressure situations where we often end up making decisions
or doing things we would not normally do.
The constant growth of our emotional intelligence will have an impact on all our relationships
with other people.
In this video we will have a look at 9 qualities that distinguish a person with high emotional
intelligence.
Let's get started!
1.
Empathy Empathy is the ability to place ourselves
in the emotional state of another person, perceiving in this way his or her emotions
and thoughts.
There are 3 important types of empathy: Cognitive empathy: This is the type of empathy
that allows us to clearly sense what the other person is thinking and fully understand their
point of view.
It is the typical empathy used by great speakers, salesmen and negotiators.
Essentially, of all the forms of empathy, this is the least deep and developed, because
while there is an understanding of the emotions of others, there is often a lack of compassion
and desire to actually care about what other people are feeling and to want to do something
to help them.
Emotional empathy: in this second type of empathy, the relationship that is created
is deeper and you are able not only to understand but also to really feel within yourself the
feelings of other people.
This type of empathy is therefore a step higher than the Cognitive one because it allows us
to understand and even feel on our skin the moods of others, but not necessarily to feel
compassion for them.
Compassionate Empathy: This last type of Empathic Sensitivity implies what is called Empathic
Concern.
In the Compassionate Empathy all the qualities of the other two types of empathy are merged
together and we are therefore able to understand the emotions of the other person, to feel
them within us and in addition we can also understand how to help that person.
This is therefore the truest and most authentic form of empathy, the one of those who make
altruism and the welfare of the community their flag and their mission in life.
People with high emotional intelligence generally have a high level of empathy and before drawing
conclusions or hasty judgments can put themselves in the shoes of the other person and try to
understand a given situation from the point of view of others.
2.
Self-awareness Self-awareness is the art of knowing ourselves
to be able to manage our life in the best possible way, aware of our weaknesses and
strengths.
Not understanding our own limits, not knowing our own shortcomings, and looking for scapegoats
to justify our own defeats are, unfortunately, very common behaviours in most people.
It is often very difficult to accept criticism and take responsibility for our mistakes.
This does not mean that we should give a lot of weight to every form of criticism we receive,
however, if we receive constructive feedback from a person who we believe to be more knowledgeable
than we are in a specific field, then maybe it's time to stop and think for a moment,
she may be right after all!
As discussed in a recent video, getting to know ourselves is essential to help us setting
realistic goals and creating the best path to achieve them.
3.
Positive Thinking Emotionally intelligent people are self-confident;
they understand well that they are masters of their own destiny.
They know that with perseverance, hard work and a positive attitude they can achieve their
desired results.
As seen in the previous point they are self-aware, people who know exactly what they are today
and what they want to become tomorrow.
They know that spending time complaining and feeling sorry for themselves will not bring
them any results and that, beside being a waste of time, these activities will also
take away emotional energy that could be better used in other ways.
The attitude that we have towards life is the one thing that is always under our control,
we can choose to look at the world in a positive or a negative way.
Let's not forget that when we are happy, when we are optimistic, we will be more motivated
to succeed by projecting ourselves towards the goals we have set for ourselves, whatever
they may be, from small everyday things to big victories.
4.
Curiosity Quoting Albert Einstein "I have no special
talents, I'm just passionately curious."
The reality is that when you are curious, you're also passionate, and when you're passionate
you're motivated to have the best for yourself, you want to learn and know more.
This growth mindset will bring positivity into your life and will also help you in other
areas of your life, such as your relationships with others.
People with a high curiosity quotient are generally more tolerant of others and are
more motivated to invest time in themselves and to acquire new knowledge.
Be curious, do not be afraid of what is different and always try to learn new things and do
new experiences.
5.
Analytical Mindset People with high emotional intelligence quotient
like to process the information available to them analytically, they keep analysing
past information and habits to understand how they can be improved for the future.
Problem solving for them is a challenge and they love to ask why things happen.
Having an analytical mind means having a healthy appetite to continually improve oneself, always
remaining open to new ideas.
6.
Needs and Desires There is a big difference between what we
want and what we really need.
In 1954 the psychologist Abraham Maslow proposed a motivational model of human development
based on a hierarchy of needs, arranged in a pyramid, according to which the satisfaction
of the most basic needs is a necessary condition for the emergence of those of a higher order.
The basic needs, once satisfied, tend not to reappear, while social and relational needs
are reborn with new and more ambitious goals to be achieved.
It follows that dissatisfaction, both at work and in public and private life, is a widespread
phenomenon that can find its cause in the failure to realize a person’s potential.
For Maslow, in fact, self-realization requires a series of personality characteristics, social
skills and technical skills.
At the base of the pyramid there are needs essential to survival, while climbing to the
top we meet the more intangible needs.
We must understand exactly what we REALLY need in our lives, and differentiate that
from what we desire, but can live without it.
Emotionally intelligent people know exactly how to distinguish between these two categories,
and they always make sure to suffix the basic needs before moving on to the next levels
of the pyramid.
7.
Passion "Choose a job you love, and you will never
work a day in your life."
- Confucius People with high emotional intelligence quotients
are passionate about what they do, and their passion is contagious.
Having a true passion for something will lead us to do it naturally and with great motivation
because of our love for it.
When we hear someone speaking passionately about something, it transmits positivity and
often gives us the drive to follow their footsteps.
Think about famous athletes who made epic speeches in their lives, how did you feel
after listening to their words?
Being able to transmit this energy is a virtue of emotionally intelligent people.
8.
Adaptability Emotionally intelligent people understand
when to go their own way and when it is time for a change.
Having the ability to make decisions and deal openly with change instead of complaining,
especially in today's ever-changing world, is one of the most important skills a person
can have and is a significant trait of emotionally intelligent people.
Remember, if you keep doing what you have always done, you will keep getting what you
have always gotten.
So, it is important to determine when it is time for changes and what those changes should
be.
Obviously, every change carries some amount of risk with it and sometimes we will make
mistakes and pay the price for them, but the key point here is to evaluate each situation
rationally and not be afraid of making bad choices if we think that they have a positive
expected return in our lives.
9.
Desire to see others succeed People with a high degree of emotional intelligence
love not only to succeed themselves, but they also love to inspire others to have the same
level of success.
They are true leaders.
They know that the success of their friends or acquaintances will also help them grow
as individuals, as they will see these victories as a source of inspiration to one day achieve
their own goals.
This approach not only is a great medicine against envy, but it also helps revitalize
our passion and push us toward achieving our next goal.
It helps us make new allies and create new relationships that will bring mutual benefits.
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