- [Host] Got a few more crazy stories for you.
Listen to these,
these guys just need to get out.
- [Narrator] So, she was drunk the other afternoon,
I wasn't, and I went to her place.
We were next to each other in bed.
And over her shoulder,
I see her texting a dude that she misses him.
She gets up and leaves the room,
phone still unlocked on the bed.
I switched back to her message app
and scrolled up in their conversation.
Yes, I know it's not a healthy behavior,
I'm working on my trust issues
and don't normally do things like that
and saw enough to know that I am not interested at all
in continuing a relationship with her at all.
The pictures and statements were very clear.
She was physically and emotionally cheating on me
and lying to the other dude about her relationship with me.
I felt sick to my stomach.
I started shaking.
I wanted to call her out.
I wanted to yell.
I wanted to throw something,
but my therapy has been working so, I just got up and left.
She was passed out on the couch.
She had told me multiple times that this dude
was just a friend who she had set boundaries with
and that she loved me and respected me
and that I had nothing to worry about.
I believed her.
I trusted her more than anyone I've been with before.
Trust has always been hard for me,
but I talked myself out of so many fears
and suspicions I had.
I have trouble telling the difference between a real
gut instinct and a negative thought
that my brain summoned out of thin air.
So, I gave her the benefit of the doubt as much as I could.
But if she can do this and lie to my face about it,
I have no idea what else she's lied to me about
and I can't trust her anymore.
I've put up with a lot in this relationship,
but this is my limit.
I'm not sure what to do.
I will absolutely end things.
If I tell her I know she's cheating,
that opens the door for discussion.
She'll try to find out what I know and try to cover it
with lies and gaslighting
or turn around and get mad at me for looking at her phone,
and I don't wanna deal with any of that.
I've thought about just telling her
I don't want her in my life anymore
and then just ghosting, but that seems cruel.
I don't owe her anything,
but I owe it to myself to act ethically
and not carry regret for what I've done and said.
Another option, I'm thinking about just telling her
we should go back to being friends
because I can't handle being in a relationship right now
which I think she would probably understand
and not freak out about
and tell her I need some space to process things
and not talk to her for a while.
Maybe we can be friends
after I have time to heal from this, maybe not.
Is it stupid of me to forgive her?
Or is it the mature thing to do?
I know I can't trust her as a partner.
Does that mean I shouldn't keep her around
as a friend either.
Hello everybody, my girlfriend cheated on me
about a month ago.
According to the story, she used to go go-go dancing
to this bar after hours.
In the bar, she usually hangs out with this DJ
between her breaks.
As far as I know, he knew about our relationship
because my girl was always talking to him about it.
She thought he was just being a friend.
One day, she claims the DJ got her too drunk
to the point where she end up making a mistake.
She told me the very next day what she did and I forgave her
and I've been trying to move on from it.
She's been helping by staying at my house
and giving me company.
And at first, it was helping,
but now my thoughts seem to be running everywhere.
I feel insecure, angry, sad, and not confident anymore.
And I hate it because I can't stop thinking about it.
My brain doesn't seem to turn it off.
Like she destroyed the trust we had between us,
part of me wants to move on, forgive her.
Now I have this barrier on,
and I feel like if I drop it and she does it again,
it's really going to mess me up.
Right now, we are taking a break from each other
because I just haven't been able to sleep at night
even though she's been laying next to me the whole time.
I can't find my way to relax and close my eyes.
Because of that,
our relationship has been getting toxic
since I've been waking her up the middle of the night
to talk to her about how I feel.
And last night, she got kinda mad at me for doing that
and told me that I can talk about it another time.
But honestly, I can't stop my brain from thinking
so much before bedtime and I just can't sleep.
What should I do?
I wanna forgive her, I love her,
and I would like to try to move on,
but looks like it's not getting better.
Do y'all think this time off will help us get better?
Or should I just cut it off?
Help me please.
I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend
for about eight months now.
She's always been popular with men and loves attention.
The following events were red flags to me,
but I look past it.
I am still dating her to this day.
One, she lies about little things quite frequently.
I went to surprise her after work one day
and her car wasn't in the driveway.
I asked where she was
and was told she was hanging with a girlfriend.
I said okay and asked her to meet afterwards.
After pressing her,
I've decided to break up with her
because I found out she was hanging out with a guy
whom she has had feeling for in the past.
Two, I caught her trying to take a selfie late at night.
She said she was taking it for herself.
The next morning, she went to shower
and I snooped on her phone which is wrong,
but I had a gut feeling that she was doing something shady.
I found out she was texting the guy
whom she has feelings for,
who was saying how much he missed her and wanted to see her.
She reciprocated by saying the same thing.
We broke up that morning,
but talked it out and decided to stay together.
Three, I found out she was messaging another guy
that has been trying to get in her pants for some time.
I believe she blocked him, but who knows?
I don't think that conversation got far,
but it felt like Deja Vu again.
I decided to let it go.
Fast forward to last week,
She ghosted to me all day all Saturday evening and Sunday.
I found out she was sleeping over her friend's house female.
I said okay, and didn't think much of it,
but I'm suspecting she was with another guy.
Fast forward to last night and today,
she is still ghosting me.
I went by her house and her car wasn't in her driveway.
I'm not sure if she is cheating or not but,
have a gut feeling that she is.
I am planning on waiting for her to text me back.
And if she confesses she wasn't home,
then I guess she's not cheating.
If she does not say she was not home,
then is it safe to assume that she is cheating?
Apologies, my mind is all over the place.
Got cheated on, still love her.
Probably I am a total idiot,
but I just want advice.
She is sleeping next to me right now,
I can't sleep, haven't in over 30 hours.
Had been together for over three and a half years.
On the 7th,
we went to an amusement park together and had a rough day.
I was drinking at the park trying to have a good time
and she got pissed at me.
Long story short, we broke up,
then she said she needed a break.
Fast forward to this Tuesday, the 18th,
we were supposed to get together and talk about everything.
I was apologizing, saying I would stop drinking, whatever.
Well, turns out she screwed some dude on the 4th
before we even went to the park.
She swears up and down it's the only time she cheated on me.
I believe her about that.
Also, three days after we broke up,
she let some dude screw her in the butt
in the bathroom at work well.
And then he also screwed her on the Monday,
the day before she came over.
I love her with everything I have.
I wanna forgive her and try to mend things,
but she says she needs time to screw a tons of guys.
She's aiming to get 50 under her belt
by the end of the year.
Almost all of my friends say to ghost her,
same for my family, but I can't let her go man.
She says when she looks into my eyes,
she sees that we do have a future together,
but it's not for right now.
She wants to get some things out of her system.
I do understand that before this recent cockfest,
I was the only person she had been with.
And I get that she might wanna experience other guys.
Is it wrong to forgive her?
Am I in denial?
We have always communicated and been honest with each other.
So when she says things like this, I believe her,
but she is also a damn cheater.
I just need some advice.