hello so in this video i'm going to explain why cbt is useless for driving anxiety if you have
a fear of driving i can promise you cbt is not going to fix it now if you don't know my name's
paul and i work online with people all over the world to help them overcome their fear of driving
and years ago one of the first things i studied was cbt and it's useless why well let me explain
the things i hear all the time and i'm not just picking on this particular book but i'm going to
use this in a moment to show you one example of why it doesn't work many people i work with who
contact me say i've been through cbt and he didn't do anything and the sale i went to see this person
and they just kept reading me all these questions and how to fill in all these forms
this is why it doesn't work with cbt they focus on your thoughts in the conscious mind around driving
so remember that they focus on your conscious thoughts
around driving first of all it's got nothing to do with your conscious thoughts
if you've got a fear of driving you'll know that when you're driving along
and you get to say a bridge for example you find and then you see a bridge and you start to panic
does that make any sense at all no you can look at the bridge all you want and say it's just a bridge
i'm okay it's just a bridge so why'd you still get a feeling because the feeling is coming from
your unconscious or subconscious whichever you prefer to call it it's not logical driving anxiety
is not logical at all and the more you analyze it and the more you try and make sense of it the more
you're gonna fail because it isn't logical it's in your subconscious unconscious illogical irrational
mind which really works through feelings emotions colors memories it doesn't work with logic so
when you go for cbt and they start talking about driving i can guarantee you this as i've said in
most of my videos and those of you that watch know what i'm about to say say along with me
driving anxiety has nothing to do with driving i really should make some t-shirts and sell them
without written on them right i can promise you a hundred percent your fear of driving
has nothing to do with driving so when you go to these cbt practitioners
and they ask you these stupid questions like how do you feel about driving where's the danger
in driving over a bridge did you know that statistically motorways are the safest roads
they give you these stupid statistics and logical thoughts that will do nothing
because if you haven't got the message by now the problem isn't logical it doesn't make any sense
so for any logical problem you need any logical solution the other part of why it fails to work
it's because as we just said it's nothing to do with driving so why did i get you to focus on this
driving it doesn't make any sense why they get to focus on the wrong thing and they'll get to fill
in these forms okay i'll show you in this book i'm just going to read through just look at these
forms and i'll say to you i want you to complete this form every week look at how many there are
and you've got to fill in all of these every day every week for not just months but years
i've had people in cbt for years and it's done nothing they come to me and sometimes in one hour
the problem's gone because cbt is a waste of time look at what it says on this cover
an indispensable book for anyone experiencing emotional problems using the therapy that works
that doesn't work right i mean it's nonsense when you understand where anxiety comes from
and how it works you read this and you just think this is absolutely pathetic and just because it's
used by the nhs people think it's got to be good because doctors use it and nurses use it
if you're living abroad because i work with people all over the world the nhs is a national health
service so in the uk we don't pay for our health care at the hospital we don't get a medical bill
it's just all paid for in taxes and whatever and the nhs is fantastic it's a brilliant
thing that has saved the lives of millions of people and it's great but unfortunately
many times people who can't afford therapy or they just think i'll just go to a doctor
because doctors are experts you know everything they're not
um and you'll get sent for some free cbt and it's pathetic it's never going to do anything
and i've had people come to me who have said i really want to work with you
but it's a bit expensive so i think i'll go and have some free cbt and i'll wait for the email two
weeks three weeks four weeks later i get an email from them um have you got any spaces available
what happened to the cbt right i mean let's go through this what's he talking about
nude scale rate your current mood for minus five to plus five how's that going to do anything
rate your overall mood on the scale below it's not going to do anything over the last two weeks
one of these things have bothered you have you had little interest in doing things are you
feeling tired have you been eating properly what the what does any of that got to do with anything
this is completely irrelevant what a load of absolute rubbish this is i mean
it's just it makes you laugh when you read this and you fill in all these forms week after week
after week and the person who's giving you the therapy analyzes or i mean look at this
it says your mood scale over the weeks it's going up to week 20 week 20
you can fix it in an hour or two at worst it may be one month or two if you're going slow
certainly not 20 weeks right behavior or what is this rubbish write down what you're doing
every hour of the day and how you feel throughout the day that is not gonna get you anywhere because
they talk logically and the problem isn't logical it exists in your subconscious mind
which cbt doesn't understand i've had people say they just sit there and they make you read
statistically roads are safer when they're high speed and they fill your head with all these facts
does that change anything no because it's logical and if you haven't got the message by now driving
anxiety is not logical that's why it doesn't make any sense why did you get it sometimes going when
you're driving east but not when you're going west why does it sometimes happen at night benign a day
why does it happen on one bridge if you go one way but not if you go the other way because it's
illogical it doesn't make any sense and you will not solve any logical problem with logic
it doesn't work there are rare times when it can work as i've said in the videos i never
roll anything okay but the vast majority of cases not going to do anything so the way you can tell
if anyone knows what they are talking about when it comes to the fear of driving or any problem
is if they talk about that specific problem they don't know what they're talking about
if you go for cpt and they are talking about driving cars roads never going to fix anything
right the fever driving has got nothing to do with driving the fear of heights has nothing to do with
heights the fear of spiders has nothing to do with spiders smoking has nothing to do with smoking
weight gain and weight loss has nothing to do with weight gain and weight loss they all
symptoms of another problem there is something wrong in your life in your past it always makes
me laughing to say in your past because it's not going to be in your future although there
are people who believe problems come from the future but that's not for this video you've got
a problem whatever it is driving smoking weight loss whatever it's the symptom of something else
so you need to work on that something else subconsciously this is where what i do excels
i don't just use hypnosis but i do use it and hypnosis allows you to access the part of your
mind where the problem lives no point in doing cbt which is by the way cognitive behavioral therapy
or some people call it cognitive behavioral torture or complete something and tribe
is what i call it but you are not going to fix driving fear with cbt and if you stay well i have
you haven't if you did anything with cbt and you're driving the problem you're just going
to come back because all you've done is got a plaster and just stuck a plaster over the problem
what i do is dig down get to the real root cause dig out the root cause and fix it properly
and you don't even need to know what the root cause is you don't even need to tell me any
details about your life your history we fix it all without this nonsense of cbt which does not work
check out these other videos on the screen now for more help with your fear of driving and you
can contact me through my website 1stdrive.com if you'd like to work with me one-to-one from
anywhere in the world thanks for watching and as always i'll see you again soon for more videos