have you ever felt lonely and sad because of that
what if I tell you the capacity to be alone is the capacity to love
hello and welcome back to Zenleah's Healthy Corner and in today's video I want to talk about
loneliness which I'm sure you felt more in the past year and why is it so hard to be happy when
we are on our own. By the way, Nathan is here to keep me company so I won't feel lonely. If you are
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Before jumping into the video please note that everything that I'm sharing here in this video
and on my channel is my own personal opinion I'm just here to share my wisdom and knowledge and if
you resonate with it that's great if you don't you can just click on another video. One of the
quotes that I have come across recently is the quote from Osho that I'm gonna read in a moment
and it really really resonated with my beliefs. I've been put in the position of proving what I
have always preached that you can all only be happy when you are happy on your own, by yourself
and now that i have almost two months of living in my apartment in dublin finally
it just took me seven years check my instagram post right here somewhere I can now prove that
my theory is true so let's jump into the quote the capacity to be alone is the capacity to love
it may look paradoxical to you but it's not it is an existential truth only those
people who are capable of being alone are capable of love of sharing of going into
the deepest core of another one without possessing the other without becoming dependent on the other
without reducing the other to a thing and without being becoming addicted to the other
they allow the other person absolute freedom because they know that if the other leaves
they will be as happy as they are now their happiness cannot be taken by the other
because it is not given by the other why were you never taught how to be alone and actually happy
why were you conditioned to think that in order to be happy you need to be surrounded by other people
or in romantic relationships that's something i will never understand
as far as i can see now after two months being on my own gives me the mental space to hear my
thoughts my needs and my fears and puts me in an empowered position to offer everything that i need
and want by myself not waiting for someone else from the outside to come and offer me what i need
i am back in the living room i had to leave from the bedroom because my phone got over overheated
anyway why were you never taught how to be alone and instead conditioned to think that you always
have to be surrounded with by other people or in romantic relationships in my opinion being
alone will help you to hear what's happening in your mind to hear your needs and fears and also
give you the necessary hints and information of how to satisfy those needs by yourself without
waiting for someone from the outside to come and give you what you need being on your own will also
teach you how to be empowered and to give yourself unconditional love because that is already inside
of you not somewhere on the outside so when i found the quote from osho it really resonated with
me and right now is the perfect moment to prove to myself first of all that this is true and being
on your own and being by myself alone it's the best recipe to learn about myself
and to attract in my life the people who will resonate with me being unconditional with myself
so what is the easiest way to move through the pain especially if you want to live by yourself
or you just broke up with someone or you just moved to another country first of all and very
important is to feel the pain and feel those fears coming to the surface don't try to suppress them
don't try to distract yourself or to run away from them because trust me running away it doesn't work
i've been i'm facing right now with fears and suppressed emotions from 20 years ago so
yeah they will always catch up step number two is give yourself time once you learn how to
allow your emotions to move through your body and don't suppress them or don't run away from them
you need to be patient as i was saying in my previous video please check it right here
i have sprained my ankle and i wasn't able to work out for two weeks so i gave time
to my body to heal it's the same with our emotions and our emotional traumas if we don't see them
that doesn't mean they are not there it just makes it more difficult to allow them to heal
that's it for today don't forget to like and subscribe and post in the description in the
comments boxes below if you ever lived by your self or how are you overcoming that fear of being
alone thank you and see you in my next video bye one moment i need my my larimar because
my words are not flowing that easily back to the video
what if i tell you that that i please meet nathan and something else sure you have sure god