Hey guys,
the reason why women test you
is actually a good thing
because if they weren’t testing you
well, then you wouldn't even be in the running.
So, before we get started
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welcome to just the tip Tuesday.
Biological differences.
We're going to go through the biological differences
because they're going to help you understand
why she tests and whether or not
she is serious or if it is just a test.
The biological differences
between men and women are simply that
when you are in your mum’s womb
all cozy snaggy in there,
you are marinating
in a lot more testosterone than I was.
And that means that you were born
with a lot more physical strength.
Your muscle density is
I think it's 20% to 30% stronger
than a woman’s in general biologically.
Your grip strength is much stronger,
you also are more aggressive
and yes, you want to spread your seeds
so you biologically at least are more...
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Okay, so keeping that in mind
women don’t have the physical strength
that you have to be able to protect themselves.
So, we've developed other
means of staying safe.
No, its not it’s not fun,
but the good news
again, is that if she is testing you
you're at least are in the running.
Because if you are not in the running at all
she will have no reason to test you.
Because you're not in the running at all,
she'll never need to count on you,
she'll never need to know if she can trust you,
she'll never need to know
that you can keep her safe,
that’s the bottom line.
Women's primarily need is to be safe
physically and emotionally.
And so, that’s why women test men
is to basically find out
if you have a backbone
and if that assertive alpha masculine quality,
if you have those traits
are they going to actually to keep her safe
or are they going put her in harms way?
Let’s go into a true story,
a case study
so this was a while ago.
Once upon a time, there was a woman
who met a guy
she kind of liked him
but he...
On their very first date
he said that he'd just been fired
from his job without just cause
and when she asked him
what he was going to do about that
he said nothing.
He didn’t want to be bothered
by having to deal with that type of conflict.
Now when she'd met him
it was a couple of months,
he was still at work, he was broke,
it wasn’t like he had lots of money in the bank.
And he had you know a good buffer
to be able to support himself.
But right away of cause you
can see that she’s not going to
feel emotionally safe with a man who
could potentially put their future at risk
by not being able to stand up for himself.
Because if he can’t stand up for himself
he's not going to be able to stand up for her or the future kids
or the family and someone.
And that might put her in a situation
where she's going to pick up the slack
and be the mommy
and the daddy in the relationship.
And that is not appealing to a woman
when you have to under... Llike, come on,
is that attractive? No, of course not.
So, that’s why women test
and of course if a woman says
hey, do you have a backbone?
What guy is going to say
no like, there are few men
who are going to be honest about that.
Because if they truly don’t
like if you're too nice or you are people pleaser
its going to be really hard to admit
that maybe you don’t have a backbone
because you really want it to be true
and you're hoping in your mind
or maybe even in your heart
that you can work on that and develop a backbone
and you believe that you can protect her.
But she needs to see the actions
that support that.
So, if there is isn't a proof
from your past behavior
then what does she have to go on?
Same as you if you're looking at a woman
or considering a woman
as your potential partner, you need to consider
what her past has been about.
Because that’s the only thing you have to gauge.
You don’t know
what her future behavior will be like.
But you do know what her past behavior is like.
So, the same thing with women
when they are testing men
is they are looking at you know,
how are you handling the situation?
And in this case with the guy who lost
his job how did he handle that situation?
How was he going to handle
other similar situations in the future.
So, she still liked him
even though that was
you know, a bit of a red flag for her.
But because she liked him she actually
tested him and the reason why
was because she was starting
with a failed test already.
Like, he had already proven
that he wasn’t willing to stand up for himself
and to go for what was
you know, what he is entitled to and deserves.
So, when she tests him,
it's an opportunity for him to prove
that he has a backbone.
And if you come out of the gate strong
without you know, showing any weaknesses.
Then she won't have to test you
unless she is emotionally damaged.
And she likes the drama
or she doesn't trust herself.
Repeat or she doesn’t trust herself
because of bad decision she's made in the past.
So, that doesn’t mean you still don't handle it properly
and what I mean by properly is effectively
to
or you'll filter her out
if she is damaged goods.
But all healthy women
will test you a little bit in the beginning
if she sees signs of weakness,
which can only be shown by you displaying them.
Unfortunately, with this guy
everything she said he agreed to
if she changed her mind he changed his mind.
He never made any suggestions about things to do
always let her lead,
he was like a child in a way
and you know, as I've said
in some of my other videos,
if a woman goes into mother mode
that maternal mode
is not arousal mode.
She can’t be attracted to you
when she feels like she is the one
who is taking care of you
and or the relationship.
That’s why guys who are
too nice often get rejected
and if you haven't seen my video
on why nice guys get rejected,
then you'll probably want to watch that
and I will leave a link below.
And again, remember that men are bigger
stronger, more aggressive
by nature and ***.
So, women have grown
to not trust right away.
It will be unreasonable to expect a woman
to trust someone that she doesn’t know.
Here is a good way of thinking about it.
So you can potentially
understand her point of view.
So, because men are 20-30%
bigger or stronger, et cetera.
You have to imagine that you live in a world
where there are no women, no women at all.
No women in the world,
but there are 50% of the population
linebackers
who are 20-30% bigger and stronger
than you and ***
and more aggressive
and they want to believe you.
In fact there are statistics showing
that some of those linebackers
are believing guys just like you
without consent.
Does that make you feel safe or less safe?
Probably less safe if that was the world you lived in
you might want to filter
maybe even test the safety of being around
those linebackers in general.
No offense to any linebackers
you're just the biggest guys I can think of right now
and toughest I think.
well, I don't mean they are the toughest look up there?
Anyways, you get the point.
So, this is the world the women live in.
Women actually live in consistent fear.
Now, it’s a low level underlined fear
we don't consciously about it
everywhere we go.
But we do at least unconsciously
subconsciously think about it wherever we go.
We're always wondering
where the exit is
where we feel safe
and what our surroundings are
physical surroundings.
So, if you can imagine
whenever a woman feels
safe enough to spend time alone with you
that’s pretty major.
Knowing what she knows
and now knowing what you know.
And that’s why if you handle her test well.
If you handle it effectively
she may not like it in the moment,
but she will respect you
and she will actually feel safer with you
for handling that test effectively.
Sometimes that means you got to
put her in her place.
I've done other videos on how to handle
specific test.
You'll definitely want to check those out, I'll leave them at the end.
But in the meantime that’s the reason.
Now, just understand that’s the reason why women test.
If they constantly test
even when you've handled
various little tests.
The best anybody could expect
then she is probably damaged,
she's probably emotionally damaged.
And again, she doesn’t trust herself
and she doesn’t trust her past choices,
she doesn’t trust the past choices
she’s made with men.
So, it might not have something to do with you,
but all you can do is what you can do.
So, just before we get into if she is serious
or if she's testing.
You want to just remember
that the tests are a good thing
because they either one,
allow you to prove
your alpha masculine dominance
to the keepers of the world.
Or two,
they reveal
the emotionally damaged women
that you need to filter out and throw back.
So, how do you know if she is serious
or if it is just a test?
Okay, basically if she is serious
then she's going to
want to talk about it further.
It won’t be just in this moment
we have a fight we breakup
or we wherever.
And then you know,
you make up and it’s done.
She will want to resolve it.
Now, if she is emotionally damaged
even if you do try to resolve it
that doesn’t mean you should actually stay with her
or that she is good news bears.
She mighty be bad news bears.
But if she's emotionally healthy
even emotionally healthy people
men and women have triggers.
So, we all have triggers but if she is able
to come back to a calm state
maybe not right at the moment,
but if she's being able to come back
to a calm state and still want to discuss it,
then that means it is something that is more serious to her
and you do need to discuss it
for the sake of your relationship.
The litmus test for
weather she's emotionally damaged
and everything is going to be a test
because that’s who she is
or she's actually
a healthy...
Emotionally healthy woman,
a high value woman who
maybe got triggered
either rightfully or not rightfully
that you need to discuss it with.
Is if she's got lots of qualities
in my she's a keeper video
and few qualities in
my red flags video
then that’s a good sign
that even though she might have been triggered.
Or she might have been testing
that it is something serious
that you need to discuss.
Now, if you handle it well again,
you can look at my other video
on how to handle specific tests
then she should feel satisfied
and you can even turn that
into immediate
physical intimacy if you handle it well.
But if it is the opposite
she has very few qualities
in the she's a keeper video
and a lot of qualities in the red flags video.
Then no matter what you do
even if you handle every test perfectly
there is probably going to be probably continuous tests
because she is just
not an emotionally health person.
And remember that
if you stay
with someone who is emotionally damaged,
who is consciously or subconsciously
sabotaging the relationship
then once you become aware of that
then you actually
are choosing to sabotage
your own relationship and your own life.
And you may might want to look at
why you're doing that.
So, you definitely want to watch my video
on how to handle tests effectively
and how to test her
to make sure that she is a keeper.
Watch those, watch those now.
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