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So in today's video we are going to be talking about something that most of us have in common, and that is the Not Like Other Girls trait,
That we all went through as teenagers or as like pre-teens.
We were all that person, right?
We weren't like the other girls. We liked different things.
Because, whether intentional or not, we all sought after male approval because male approval is societal approval, right?
So we were all like, "Oh, I don't like boy groups. I don't like One Direction."
That was me. I refuse to listen to One Direction because that's what the other girls liked.
I listened to 5SOS instead because I'm special.
And as I talked about in my recent one-hour video essay about K-pop, this is all based off of misogyny.
And it's just a bit of a mess with everyone making fun of things that women like such as K-pop.
Which is my background purely because this is the funniest thing I've ever seen in my life and it brings me joy, so...
This is Wooyoung.
From a live that he did. Anyway.
There is a subreddit about this topic about not like the other girls and posts from women...
Saying things that can be quite bizarre trying to receive mostly male approval and thinking that it makes them better than other women.
Which is obviously very problematic but it comes from a place of internalized misogyny.
This- I feel quite bad for people who are experiencing this and not feeling confident enough within themselves and within just femininity in general.
And just feel like they need male approval and in the process bring other women down.
The patriarchy is a very powerful very strange and upsetting thing.
Uh, so we're gonna go over that subreddit.
It's been a while and there's a lot- there's a lot there that we can unpack and we can talk about. So we're gonna do that.
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One of these things is not like the other.
Most of these things are very like conservative viewpoints.
And then one is "I'm a girl." which is a very like more Left, liberal viewpoint of like,
"Women are seen as less than and we aren't liked." So, yeah.
That one is a valid reason. That one is valid. People don't like women, so you're right there.
The rest of them, however...
I don't know why so many Republicans think that they're in a minority or that they're oppressed.
Like Donald Trump won back in 2016 and the 2020 election was like kind of close, you know?
Like there's a lot of Republicans, like nearly half the country are Republicans, yeah? And like...
Christianity? You think you're hated because you're a Christian? Most of the US are Christian.
Like, that is a majority.
65%.
65% of the US are Christians.
And you think that you're in the minority and oppressed for being a Christian?
You think people hate you being a Christian?
No, people hate you for being like an overbearing, judgmental Christian.
Who uses your religion to justify hating people and using your religion to like, spread that.
You're probably pro-life and you're using your religion to promote that.
People don't hate you because you're Christian, they hate you for how you're using your Christianity.
And Christians are also people that hate you for that, because you're giving them a bad rep, you know?
People do hate you for it, you're right.
People do hate you for it, myself included.
I'm not a fan of any of these things you just said.
But you also hate me for my opinions and beliefs and I'm the one who would be hate crimed, not you.
You know, like "People hate me." Okay, people hate you.
You're not gonna hate crime for being a white Republican.
You're not gonna get hate crime for that.
But the people that you hate might be murdered. So...
One of these people have it worse.
There's a difference between being hated and oppressed.
Who message me?
"Most people want to be homeless"?!?! Is that what you're saying?
"Most people don't want a roof over their heads. Most people want to live on the street."
Where are you getting this information from? Who told you this? You've been lied to at some point.
I don't know why you think...
Wanting to live in a house makes you better than other people?
I don't know why you think most people don't want to live in a house.
It's a very weird conclusion to come to.
I don't know where you got that from. Uh,
Much to your surprise, most people do in fact want to live in a house.
Most people don't want to live in the street.
A lot of people don't have the option.
More and more people don't have the option, uh, because capitalism and the housing market.
But no one wants to live on the street.
Or a very large, large majority of people don't want to live on the street.
So I don't know what you're talking about, but go off, I guess.
What is it about thinking you're special being a woman who likes Marvel?
Everyone likes Marvel. It doesn't matter about your gender.
And also men like Disney.
Like, you're not special for liking Marvel.
Everyone likes Marvel, everyone likes Disney. This is not-
This is not a special opinion.
And also, they're technically the same thing now.
Marvel is technically Disney.
So you do still technically have to thank Disney for your expectation of men.
Which, by the way, not very high.
The only thing about these men is like...
Looks, yes? Right? They're attractive, right?
They're boring, honestly.
But um, none of these men are particularly great. The Disney men nor the Marvel men.
A lot of them are trash. You need to raise your expectations.
You need to raise your bar.
You need to raise your bar to Bang Chan.
He's- He should be the expectation.
It's unrealistic expectation but that's- that's where the bar should be for all men.
None of this. None of- None of this. No, no. You deserve better.
What does this mean?
Are you okay?
Why are you painting a door every night at 10pm?
Are you just like- Are you repainting the same door every night? Why do you need to paint your door red at 10pm?
What does this mean? This is such an obscure example.
I guess, yeah, you're not like- you're not like the other anyone.
But I don't know how this is super, like, Why does this make you better than anyone?
How is this a flex? Why are you painting-
Why are you painting doors?
Is this just saying you like paint things? You fix things, you renovate your house at 10 pm like every single night?
Is?
I don't- I don't understand the flex. Uh,
Are you okay?
Do you?
No? Okay. Okay.
"I survived college without opening my mind and learning about human rights and political issues."
"I managed to stay close-minded throughout the entirety of my college experience."
Not a flex.
Not a flex. You went in racist, you left racist.
Not a flex.
Who cares, man?
Who cares if you sleep around? Who cares if you've dated a bunch of people? Who gives an absolute f_ck?
No one should care what other women do.
You don't need to pull women down to lift yourself up. You can lift yourself up without pulling women down.
Isn't that like such a wild concept? Isn't this such a wild concept?
You can just say,
"I'm great."
Yeah? You can say, "Other women like to sleep around, that's chill. That's not for me."
That doesn't make you any better than anyone else.
Women who sleep around are totally fine, totally valid.
Their value is not any less than yours.
This is not a hot take, this is just you sl_t shaming,
And being misogynistic because of some internal struggle that you have that you really need to face and work through.
Because pulling other women down is not what we're trying to do.
"You can keep your Cinderella and shove those glasses scissors-" Scissors?!
Shove those glass scissors up your ass??? Jesus.
Why can't I be both?
What is with this having to choose an aesthetic thing?
I can be a princess, and have tattoos, and piercings, and wear vibrators in my ears, and dye my hair, and wear sneakers, and Doc Martens, and do whatever.
I can listen to like, grunge rock and also K-pop, and also Billboard Top 100.
I can wear a princess dress and also wear like fishnets and a dress, and also wear jeans and a t-shirt.
I can do everything.
You can do everything.
You don't have to put yourself into a box.
You can literally have as many aesthetics as you like.
You can- You can do whatever you want, whatever makes you feel comfortable, whatever makes you feel confident.
Some days I feel like wearing my sweatpants.
Some days I feel like wearing like, rainbow trousers.
Some days I feel like wearing heels.
Some days I want to wear my Doc Martins.
Sometimes I want to wear a dress.
Sometimes I want to dress up like a f_ckin princess.
I can do all of that. It literally doesn't matter.
You don't have to be one thing. You don't have to restrict yourself to anything.
Just do whatever you want. You don't have to pick.
Don't feel pressured to just pick one thing and you have to stick to it.
Just do you. It does not matter.
You can do whatever you want. You can be whoever you want, whenever you want.
It doesn't make you any better than anyone to be one specific thing.
You don't have-
You don't have to be one specific thing.
You can be whatever you like and none of those make you better or worse than anyone.
Again with the same thing! So many of these are like this.
I can be both.
I'm from New Zealand, right?
Where there's beaches literally everywhere.
Uh, I spend a lot of time at the beach.
I miss the beach so so much, oh my god.
Anyway, I always wanted to learn how to surf.
I never did because my mum said it was dangerous and she wouldn't let me,
But I always wanted to learn how to surf.
I spent so much of my time in the ocean and just being at the beach and being in the ocean.
That's a very very large part of my life.
But I also really like dressing up as a princess.
I really like doing that. I really like doing a full face of makeup, which I don't have today but I normally do.
I really like getting dressed up and doing like very feminine things.
But I also really like just wearing my like rainbow outfits. I-
You can do whatever you want.
Don't restrict yourself. My god. Stop telling people they have to choose.
You don't have to choose. Do what you want.
Be empowered. Do whatever you f_ckin want to.
It literally does not matter.
You only live once, right? May as well do everything that you want to.
As long as you're not harming yourself or anyone else.
You aren't better or worse than anyone.
Just exist as yourself and be happy.
Or try to be happy.
This girl now definitely has tattoos, and piercings, and dyed hair, and she is for sure gay.
And this is not self-reflection.
This is not because this was me as a teenager.
I don't know why you would accuse me such things.
I definitely have never experienced this. This? No...
Why would you- Why would you say things like this?
Okay, um, I'm gonna leave this one here because that one hit a little too close to home and I'm feeling very attacked.
So I'm gonna have to have wrap up.
I hope that you've enjoyed this video!
Just remember that you can do and be whoever you want.
It doesn't make you better or worse than anyone else, and I hope that you realize that. And I hope that you...
Just...
Are yourself and do your best to be authentic.
It doesn't matter what other people think.
I know it feels like it does, um, but it really doesn't.
Especially men. Who cares what men think? Disgusting.
Don't do things to please men.
Awful.
They don't deserve it. They don't deserve you.
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