porn addiction is their hope i'm dr trish leigh cognitive neuroscientist and sex addiction
recovery coach i'm here to tell you there is hope if you are struggling with porn but i'm gonna
break it down for you a little bit so that we can dive into pragmatic hope because if you've met me
you know that hope without a plan sometimes isn't the best so let's talk about it first and foremost
if you have been struggling with porn for a long time it means that you've been using those neural
pathways in your brain over and over and over that bring you back to porn to regulate your mood to
make you feel better when you're stressed or when you're bored for the most part that's what science
shows us so if you've been using those neural pathways for a long time consistently frequently
and especially with any level of intensity those babies are grooved in and what we need to do
is to get rid of those neural pathways let the weeds grow over let them die off as we build new
neural pathways which involve creating a life that you love one that has less anxiety one that has
less boredom one that has a toolbox filled with strategies to regulate your mood when you need to
that my friend is the solution so let's talk about this let's dig into it a little bit more
in my program porn brain rewire which is filled with all the components that you need to succeed
by the way scientifically which is why i'm here talking about it in that program you will learn
how to unwire the brain pattern that you've been using for 5 10 15 20 25 30 many many years
the brain pattern that drives you back into the screen so sometimes it's the brain pattern of adhd
maybe it's the brain pattern of anxiety for many people it is maybe it's a trauma brain pattern
maybe it's a brain pattern that's been programmed by the dysfunction of your family so our brains
are trained either in a healthy way from the get-go being an organic pattern that you're
born with like adhd which is a factor that drives people into the screen with personality disorders
like i just talked about on a different video and with anxiety and trauma that come along with
dysfunction in families that brain pattern has to be unwired and the neural rigidity that's caused
by it is unlocked and neuroplasticity is created and when we create the neuroplasticity your brain
literally becomes more plastic and easier to change that's why that step step number one
unwiring is crucial it's so important it allows us to move into step two which is rewiring your brain
pattern rewiring your brain to use the new neural pathways that lead you to healthy mood regulation
and to healthy sexuality those things need to be established for you to hardwire in the pattern
that allows you to ride off into the sunset so how do we do that we do that by training
your brain with technology so if you've heard me talk about the brain training headband and i've
made a video about it on my other channel brain rewire dr trish lee where i talk all brain stuff
um there's a video there telling you how and why the headband helps you to rewire your brain
then we use cognitive behavioral strategies to help you take action steps to change your
behaviors and to change your thought systems and your attitudes and your identity these things are
necessary if you don't want to join my program i encourage you to think about these components
and find a way to address them in your own life and stay here on this channel with me subscribe
hit the notifications all the brain tip strategies that i give you are doing just this rewiring your
brain so you think and you act and you have different routines and habits that lead you
in the right direction and do not lead you into the screen lead you away from it into a happy
life so that's the rewiring process and over time that can be a little bit of time for some people
it can be a lot a bit of time for other people and especially if your commitment level is low
it's not 100 percent it can be a lifetime for some people and i do not want that for anybody
so when you commit and you get the right tools you can move forward in creating a foundation
of a lifestyle that breeds your ability to thrive and get you out of survival mode which is leading
you back into the screen when you go into the screen you're going there for what i call
a dopamine deluge a flood of the pleasure seeking neurotransmitter dopamine the problem with that is
it leaves you in a dopamine deficit state in your real life you've inadvertently taught your brain
when you go into the screen that's where all the pleasure seeking is
and you hear me pleasure seeking not just pleasure it's pleasure plus seeking for more pleasure
so you get caught in that loop of always looking for more higher levels of pleasure and then you
teach your brain there's no pleasure in the world my job sucks my partner's not that good and we
know that it leads to infidelity 300 increase in cheating if porn's in the mix so it leads you to
be dissatisfied work partner and you stop doing your hobbies because there's not enough pleasure
there it's all in the screen the way out come out of the screen with pivot plan with tools that work
get on purpose in your life create the work the relationships and the hobbies that you love
so that you set this foundation which includes new routines and habits and when you do that
you hardwire your brain you start using those new neural pathways
you have the tools to regulate your mood and your life's just better so there's less need
to de-stress and to fill boredom but at the same time when you need to you know how to secondly
you set up healthy sexuality you figure out how to get dopamine serotonin the joy neurotransmitter
and oxytocin the neurotransmitter for connection with your honey i know what you're thinking
that there's no way you can get a honey who you can actually have fun sex with and
have an amazing relationship with and i am here to tell you yes you can pragmatic hope if you
don't have a partner right now or if you've fallen out of enamor with your partner it's there for the
taking porn is ruining that for you you just don't realize it and when you come out of the screen you
may realize it earlier rather than later which would be awesome so that you can take the steps
that you need to to be able to move through this process to get to the place where you're hopeful
again about attracting that partner to you or by getting back into the relationship you were
excited about when you first met your partner you will find her more attractive when you stop
going into porn she will be more excited to be with you when the vibe of i watch porn goes away
you can have that there is hope for porn addiction you just need the right tools and we also know
from science that you need support so if you join my 90-day program you also have personalized
support from me i've hired jackie a new coach she's awesome she's not new she's new to us coach
there's a video on this youtube channel where we're talking about what coaching involves
check it out because she might be a good fit for you she's very like-minded to me and i'm so
excited to have her on my team people need people in this journey that's why i'm here that's how it
started for me some of my people needed people because they weren't being served by anybody
honestly but we'll talk about that in a different day so i had to step up and become that people
beautifully and thankfully i can become the people for you from my own journey so
if you're looking for it i'm here to help you www.drtrishleigh.com go check it out
and until next time hopefully keep hope in the mix here control your brain or it'll control you